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Frustrated

nimilonimilo member
in November 2013 Moms
I love the holidays and I thought that this one would be even better since our LO is here but I just feel frustrated, isolated, and lacking Christmas spirit. I have so many things I want to do but I don't have time or can't do them because LO can't go out for five more weeks. To top things off my breasts are so sore and I keep trying to get ahold of my OB but no one will call me back. I know I should be enjoying this time but there is only so much tv a girl can watch and I am too tired to do half the things on my to do list.
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  • nimilonimilo member
    The doctor says to keep the baby away from crowded places and stores since it is cold and flu season. I know she would probably be fine but I don't know what I would do if she did get sick.

    Yeah. Our house is decorated and the big stuff is ordered but it's all the little things.
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  • SharonB222SharonB222 member
    Since you don't have your normal holiday routine, perhaps call in for help to create holiday cheer. Are you accepting visitors? Schedule some friends over, give them $5 to pick up some banana bread at Starbucks. Or have more frequent phone conversations. Find and call up an old friend you've lost touch with. Have a neighbor watch your babe while LO sleeps and go out for 30 min. Take LO for walks outside (wear LO to avoid people, provides extra warmth). In fact, I think I'll take that last suggestion myself and tour the neighborhood holiday lights this evening. Or simply cut yourself a break and reset your expectations. Maybe put on the fireplace (YouTube if you don't have one) and curl up with a hot chocolate and good book for 45 min between feelings. GL! (You can see little things don't come to mind for me - I already cut those loose from my expectations :) ).

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  • DebateThisDebateThis member
    Why can't your LO go out for five more weeks?
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  • MrsBynum0505MrsBynum0505 member
    I felt the same way before getting out for the first time. We went to church this past Sunday for the first time since LO was born. It was great to get out and see people and I was really happy to get out of the house. I too was scared of her getting sick, but she's fine and I feel 100% better. Getting a shower, doing my hair and makeup, and wearing a cute holiday dress for a party we went to after church was great! I'm still insecure about my stomach and body in general after birth, but getting "dolled up" got me in the Christmas spirit!
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  • VegasGal1978VegasGal1978 member
    My pedi also said avoid crowds, but did say going out was fine. We should just be cautious. We have been to the mall....super early as to avoid crowds. When the temps are warmer, we walk the neighborhood. I agree with many of the PP; try to get out, even just for a ride in the car.
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  • 3Dewdrops3Dewdrops member
    Sorry. =(
    I like the idea of looking at christmas lights to get out of the house.  
    I had to take LO out because we moved and flew to the new house.  People are crazy. Some lady got down on her hands and knees at the airport to peek into the car seat because the shade was down and it was sitting next to me on the ground.  Several people came up in my face acting like they were long lost friends.  Why would they care about a stranger's baby?  It would never cross my mind to go "meet" the child of someone I don't know.  Anyhow, my tree isn't even up!  Unpacking is sloooow with an infant. 
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  • SweetLaura286SweetLaura286 member
    edited December 2013
    I can't imagine not going out. We go out basically every day. Yes to public crowded places. Not a sniffle in sight. Oh I did catch the 24 hour stomach bug that everyone in the area seems to have, but LO is completely fine. I would be very sad if she got sick but no reason to live in extreme fear. I kind of have to question these pedi's that say to not go out if you have a normal, healthy baby. So odd. So many people have a baby then just a few days later are out at their older kids gymnastics practice and the library and grocery shopping- all in one day. And for whatever it's worth I haven't had a stranger try to touch her. Sometimes they want to look at her and I don't mind at all. People have been so kind with compliments and usually reminisce about their own grown children. Most often they just smile at her & I.

    But I would consider postpartum depression being a possibility for you. If you think that might be the case- get help ASAP... Don't put it off to see.
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  • nimilonimilo member
    Thanks everyone! I should clarify. I have been out of the house to Starbucks and the DH has watched her while I ran a few errands a couple times. I was more talking about limiting trips to the store or Target. I think after the holiday chaos is over at all the stores I will be fine to take her out.

    I do love the idea of driving to see Christmas lights and going to visit families and friends to get out of the house.
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