Where is your sex drive?

GalLaura · December 2013

Curious to know how your sex drive is....

Mine is so low. I'm super attracted to my dh still but not dying to do it. I think its the breast feeding and exhaustion.

phishgirl29 · December 2013

Same. There just aren't enough hours in the day!

llbta85 · December 2013

I need a search party to find it... (I am still BF)

WasNotWas · December 2013

My problem is that I get turned on when he is a good dad and that's not always the opportune time for seshualness

manmoonei · December 2013

Non existent! Plus not enough time.

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KellenHi21 · December 2013

llbta85 said:
I need a search party to find it... (I am still BF)

+1

JANCANDANCE · December 2013

I have it! It is alive and well! Only problem is...well yea that is my problem.

dmlk413 · December 2013

KellenHi21 said:

llbta85 said:
I need a search party to find it... (I am still BF)
+1

Cosigned.

BabyShanteau · December 2013

I haven't had one since 2012.

tiffletons518 · December 2013

Birth control usually puts a hurtin on mine. But, since H got a vasectomy, I don't need any. Plus, being able to do it worry free definitely makes it more fun too. I will agree that time and tired aren't always working in my favor, but we do it anyway. Lol.

PinkPuffyHeart2 · December 2013

Womp womp... I only get my sexy back right before my period.

musicalsilver · December 2013

VASC said:

I've always had a low sex drive. Finding opportunities to DTD when we are both wanting to, available, and not exhausted is difficult.

This. And since we go so long between having sex anymore, it's quite uncomfortable for me when we finally do. No winning here.

NicoleReed0324 · December 2013

It's gone, and I don't know when it's coming back hahahaha. My method of bc is the mini pill so I've been backing it up with the "don't effin touch me" method

Yakut · December 2013

It's very much there, but I have @)#($*@# $ vaginismus (when you try to have sex and your body is like AWW HELL NO and it hurts). It's almost 6 months postpartum and I've been trying to get a gyno appointment since 4 months to address the issue, but my family doctor doesn't care and I'm not sure he actually sent the requisition.

I don't think that the medical establishment really believes that women like to have sex, because when I told the nurse about this she was all, "now when you start, you will need lube and patience because it will hurt--hurting is normal, and it's NORMAL not to want to do it, but it's just as well because you're probably tired from getting up every few hours and doing everything for the baby, and hubby doesn't understand that, right? So you have a little break before you get pregnant again, LOLwink!" When in fact DH does over half the (combo) feedings and half the baby care and LO sleeps through the night, and we'd just like to )@(#$*#@ have sexytimes!

Seems that I have lots of Feelings about this....

Cricket81 · December 2013

So low. I am breastfeeding so I don't want him near my boobs. I am exhausted because he's still not sttn. I usually get a 2 minute shower so my legs and lady bits are never well dealt with. Andplusalso, I have a clingy teething baby. By the time he goes to sleep, I just want some personal space.

HeartLikeMine3 · December 2013

libberluru said:
Mine is like "uhh okay, but I am keeping my shirt on"

Me too and make it quick I need to go to bed.

HeartLikeMine3 · December 2013

42Butterflies said:
I have no idea where mine is. But we still DTD at least once a week, which honestly makes it so fast for DH that it's not so bad.

This is us exactly!!!! LMAO

LiLi23 · December 2013

Ditto @huckleberry08

ColieAnn31 · December 2013

My sex drive is alive and strong...it's SO's that's non existent. He says he's always stressed and tired (money problems and he works long hours being an AT&T tech). And it doesn't help that we are constantly getting up with Grayson if he isn't sleeping in the swing in our room. Hopefully we get back into the groove soon!

TheTamedShrew · December 2013

Mine is more present than DH's lately, but not raging. We've worked it up to once every couple of weeks, which I'm fine with.

needanustart · December 2013

nykkolaughs said:
It's there and active. We're both getting our needs met

Ditto. I've been lucky with nursing twice now that it doesn't put the damper on things. Though sometimes I want to show him threads like this to remind him how damn lucky he is!

needanustart · December 2013

Btw I often feel exactly like @cricket81 before we DTD but I am always happy once we're in the zone. I also have given up on caring about my grooming because he doesn't seem to mind and would rather get some than be preoccupied with that! It's also usually fast and I sleep better afterwards so I chalk it up to helping with sleep issues!

riansmommie · December 2013

It's def there. With hubby's damn sched though we are limited to sex on Friday and Saturday night only. Boo, but at least it still happens

DaisyDuck40 · December 2013

Non existent.

needanustart · December 2013

nykkolaughs said:

@calikat80 sometimes I want to shake him and say, "you realize twice a week is way more than most couples in our situation are doing... Right???"

I know right?!! We're at 3-4x- and we have a toddler. Admit I am wonderwoman dammit!

WasNotWas · December 2013

GiggleJiggle said:

I definitely found my mojo again! My husband was shooting like 1 for 20 in that department until recently. I love his tenacity though and I completely agree with @wasnotwas that being a good dad is a turn on.. And doing stuff around the house. "You took the trash out without me asking???" *swooooooon* :x

Washing bottles is an instant panty dropper

LBeez13 · December 2013

It is not as great as it was prebaby/prepregnancy. I still enjoy and try to keep it up but I just have a hard time feeling sexy after baby. The other night when we were about to get busy, my husband asked what was wet on my shirt and I realized I had some of K's poop smeared on me. Definitely not feeling too sexy after that.

VeriUnique611 · December 2013

DH tweeted the other day that he's being "treated like a piece of meat! Can't we just cuddle sometimes? Women!" LOL

nikel13 · December 2013

Too tired-1 Do not need another baby-2 Allergic to condoms-3

Yes, I'm allergic to condoms. Extremely painful reaction. Makes sex awkward if you don't want another kid and fear BC not working right.

jennOK · December 2013

It goes in spurts. We'll have a weekend where we do it multiple times. Then we'll go weeks inbetween with nothing.

Diana909 · December 2013

Zip, zilch and zero. I just stopped EP'ing so maybe it will come back soon. Its been far too long!

CindyRelluh · December 2013

What's a sex drive?

riansmommie · December 2013

Don't know why but just now when I read this thread title I started singing "oh where, oh where can my sex drive be, my baby took it away from me" (sung just like oh where oh where can my baby be, The Lord took her away from me.... She's gone to heaven so I've got to be good so I can see my baby when I leave this world)