Are you sure it's not twins??

echagele · December 2013

So I am currently 31 weeks and 6 days along with my first baby. Today marks the second time my mother in law has asked me in all seriousness "are you sure it's not twins??". (Um, yes, I'm pretty sure that technology these days dont f*ck something like that up- is what I think to myself).
Im sure it's the hormones but this week especially I'm having a hard time keeping my cool when stupid things are said or done around me. Is this common for people to say? Or maybe my mother in law really is that clueless.

eacarmstrong · December 2013

So rude!! Don't take it too personally, she probably doesn't mean any harm. Xo

MissDemeanor · December 2013

People always seem to feel the need to comment on other peoples pregnancy. It's very annoying, and in my experience, not usually all that nice.lord knows why they think it's ok

Giraffealaff · December 2013

OH. MY. GOD.

If one more Fucking person asks me this, I swear I'm going to go all Bruce Banner on their ass.

My mother said this to me today for the nth time on the phone, and I was thisclose to reaching through the phone and strangling her.

It's not cute, it's not endearing, and it's just fucking annoying.

So, I feel your pain sister.

cbear47 · December 2013

I've had MANY people ask this! Every time I answer nicely, but really want to tell them to shut the eff up!!!

cattuccino · December 2013

I get this....but not because I look "big", but because I AM a twin. It's even more ridiculous. I'll get a comment like "your belly is so small" or "wow you're 33 weeks?" And "are they sure there's only one in there?"....in ONE CONVERSATION!! you just said I was SMALL wtf's wrong with you?!

Jecca07 · December 2013

No one in person has asked me if it's twins, but a dog breeder I'm Facebook friends with asked if it was "more than one in there" on my last bump picture. I was very polite about it, since most of her pregnancy experience is with dogs, but if it had been anyone else, my sharp tongue would not have been held back. You look to be about the same size as me, and depending on little man's position, I can look bigger and smaller throughout the day.

gfam23 · December 2013

You look great. Unfortunately, it's common. So are the comments soon to come (if they haven't already) about being ready to pop at
any moment.

kittieluvz · December 2013

Unfortunately I think we've all been there.... my FIL was super excited that the bump is getting bigger, and told me how Huge I am! And how I'm getting so big! And I'm as big as a house, because well I am a house for LO... These all came right after another, and with each remark DH kept asking if he wanted to keep digging himself a deeper hole?? And if wanted to get his foot out of his mouth... I knew he ment well but wow it definitely hurt.

Rosie137 · December 2013

I got my first twins comment from my neighbor today. She even followed up with "cause you're getting big", I just said oh no and smiled, how are you supposed to react to that?!

Also, you look fantastic for 31 weeks!

1linedrawing · December 2013

next time i'm just gonna be like:

Valentinebaby2 · December 2013

I'm on the other side of the coin with a small baby bump - not that yours is big at all, cause it's not, you look great!
But I get people saying things like "you're so small, are you sure the baby's growing ok?" Or "are you eating enough?" the one I really hate is "other women must hate you!" Thanks a lot! It's enough to make you paranoid!! It's insulting too! I always feel like I have to defend myself "she's in the 50th percentile", "I'm eating all the time" "I go for an ultrasound every month, she's doing great".
I'm learning to just be confident with my pregnancy and not worry about what anyone else says. It's funny how no matter what your size is, you're going to get comments!!

Dexter&11 · December 2013

I've had the twin comments too - actually got them much more often early on (at 12-16 weeks) as I was so bloated I looked ready to drop even then

I smile at family members, friends, weird strangers etc who ask, but my mother gets an earful!!!! Swear if she tells me she was 130lbs at 9 months pregnant one more time I might actually have to smack her!!!!!

slwprincess · December 2013

For some reason, people seem to think this is a compliment. I don't get it.

boogerbearoriginal · December 2013

Opinions are like assholes, everyone has one but some stink.

I don't know why people feel it's appropriate/acceptable to give commentary on a woman's size, as if she cared what Aunt Susie or random grocery shopper thinks about her belly size. Pregnant women are subject to a ridiculous amount of public scrutiny and it makes me crazy.

MommyToThree+2 · December 2013

I don't get the comments from family bc they already know I'm pregnant with twins. I do get it from strangers though. I don't typically bring up the fact I'm having twins to random people at the store. If they ask I usually say "I have no idea we haven't had an u/s.". The look of shock is awesome. Or when asked when I'm due I say January (since they will likely come then). So I no longer look huge for being due next month.

You do look great! Just continue to roll your eyes at her or be honest and tell her it's rude to suggest you are big enough to be carrying twins and you're sure your OB would have figured out by now if there were 2 in there.

BB0214 · December 2013

I've been getting it a lot from older women. One that stunned me was DH's grandma at Thanksgiving she asked if I was sure it wasn't twins. She's a very sweet lady, which is why I was so taken aback by that comment.

sdlaura · December 2013

I think you look great. That is a common thing to get asked in late pregnancy, and your MIL is probably also clueless. I'm really not sure how it got to be a "thing" to ask pregnant women whether it's twins, or to tell them that they look like they're "about to pop."

I think everyone, even women who have been pregnant before, forget what women look like when they get close to their due date. Popular culture only shows us women who are like 6 months pregnant.

BB0214 · December 2013

I think too that people don't realize that the babies are putting on the majority of their birth weight in the last 8-10 weeks. Of course we are going to be getting bigger very quickly! I just wish people would put themselves in our shoes and realize that we don't need any reminders of our size when we already feel so big.

sparkman-to-be · December 2013

I get "any day now?" daily. I am expecting twins and I just respond "no, 6-8 more weeks!" I rarely explain that there are two and love seeing their mouths drop.

allie76 · December 2013

I've gotten the twin comments and it really stings because I was pregnant with twins. I lost baby A at 9 weeks but people don't know this. It's a painful reminder.

christsgurl · December 2013

2012 when I was pregnant with my 2nd child, I had a rough pregnancy physically was so uncomfortable from like 4 months on out & my legs & feet were so swollen. I went to a 4th of July party at a families members house they had invited some of their friends, & some of them were saying "oh, you feet look like sausages & you must be so miserable cuz of the heat...plus kept on getting you look ready to pop from like 7months + she ended up being a week late...I know it wasn't the twin comment but it def made me upset. This time I've gotten are you sure your aren't due in January, I'm actually smaller this pregnancy than I was with my 2nd!

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