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Never...stops...talking...

countrymice06countrymice06 member
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My DD just turned 3 in October.  I myself am a pretty talkative person, and we read and talk a lot... but her talking is out of control.  I actually felt like I was going to start crying today in the store.  I feel like I can't think straight.  Just nonstop, "Mommy, did you know.... Guess what?...Hey, i have an idea... Can you even believe that..."  

Two strangers commented on it today, a receptionist at the pediatrician's office and a woman waiting in the same room with us at the pharmacy.  Her daycare teachers love her.  I think they think it is funny.... but from someone who endures a long car ride with this chatterbox every day, I am going to lose it.  I have friends that say their kids are chatty but when I've met them, my DD seems to be much more talkative. 

When I say something like, "Listen, I need to think for a minute.  I want to hear your ideas, but I need to do [whatever]" she just responds by saying, "Ok, well I can help..but let me tell you about" or something like that and just keeps going.  

I actually find it kind of rude.  Is anyone else going through this?  How do I handle it???
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Re: Never...stops...talking...

  • aglennaglenn member
    Yes, and honestly it drives me crazy because I am a quiet person by nature and DD never stops talking, singing, and/or making random sounds.  She even talks very loudly in her sleep.  She was an early talker and loves words, and has a TON of energy (more than most kids her age).  Her preschool teachers have commented that her energy level and talking are definitely different than most of her peers, but within the spectrum of normal.  I try to respond to her as much as I can but sometimes I do need to distract her with TV or something for a while so I can hear myself think.
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  • D&HMomD&HMom member
    omg she.never.shuts.up! I think its just a phase. I try to point out situations where she needs to be quiet and point out when she has interrupted me. I make her wait (which she hates) but yes when you are trying to drive and concentrate on a snowy night it can be challenging!
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  • neverblushedneverblushed member
    OMG -- my husband and I joke that our DD started talking at 9 months and NEVER STOPPED!!

    This sort of irrational/insistent/questioning chatter peaked at age 3.  It wasn't just the talking, it was the bizarre-o questions that really had no answer.  You know.  Conversations like this:

    DD: Mommy, what's that?
    Me: That's a holly tree.
    DD: Why is that a holly tree?

    My H and I came up with a few techniques to deal with this.  We would sometimes just tell her "Now is not the time for talking.  Let's just be quiet and think.  No talking for a few minutes."  Talking continuously IS rude... for older kids.  But 3 is a good time to start working on that social awareness in very limited, concrete ways.  We also started working on manners around interrupting at this point and on being a good listener.

    When it came to the bizarre questions, we realized that the "why" questions weren't really "why" questions.  When she asked "why is that a holly tree" it was because she wanted to know more about the holly tree, but she couldn't come up with the right words to ask for the information she wanted.  Asking "why" was easier.  So we would come back with "Okay, there is no 'why' for that.  'Why' isn't your real question.  What do you really want to know?'  This pushed our bright, verbal child to think about things more deeply and articulate more precisely.

    When my kids ask a really complex question, I will offer them a choice.  I'll say, "Do you want the easy answer or the hard answer?"  Then, if they're really just asking the question for fun, I don't have to try to provide a lengthy, serious answer.  But if they are genuinely curious and want to learn, I can try to explain something to them.
    High School English teacher and mom of 2 kids:

    DD, born 9/06/00 -- 12th grade
    DS, born 8/25/04 -- 7th grade
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  • aglennaglenn member
    Auntie reminded me - we do the "talking stick" thing, too, especially at the table or in the car when I am trying to talk to DH and she is constantly interrupting and talking over me with randomness.  That does buy me a minute or two.
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