Late Term and Child Loss

virtual scream....(newborn mentioned)

I feel like I've needed a lot of support on here the last few weeks so I hate writing another frustrated post but I am just stewing at my desk and literally need to get it out somewhere so I can make it through the rest of the workday. sorry I have been so needy lately.

my boss's wife had her baby this morning.  since I am techinically 2nd in command as well as good friends with my boss's wife I guess people naturally think of me as a point person for their updates.  While I am in a pretty good place right now and can handle hearing/talking about the baby to some extent I really don't appreciate everyone coming into my office wanting to talk in depth about it.  For the love of pete people...why the hell would you go to the loss mom who has also had 2 back to back miscarriages and want to shoot the shit about the new baby?????!!!????  someone even asked me to tell my boss to send pictures of the baby..because let me tell you...that's exactly what I want coming in on my phone all day.

my receptionist even asked me yesterday how I was doing with everything since she could tell I was getting really squirmy when she was talking about a santa onesie she bought for him...and i specifically said, "I am doing a lot better than I thought but I really just don't want to talk about anything having to do with babies right now'...so today she pulls it out to show me as she excitedly puts it on his desk!!!!!!!!!!

it just really shocks me how clueless people are..I KNOW they aren't trying to be jerks because they are all sweet people but honestly I just don't want to talk about it.  To add insult to injury my boss announced this pregnancy at 5 weeks 2 days after I came back from my second loss that he knew about and this would be the week that baby would have been due.  I just don't get why the bad has to keep happening to me and most others are having babies without a hitch.  (sorry for the pity party)

thanks for letting me verbally vomit all over the board today. 

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Re: virtual scream....(newborn mentioned)

  • You don't ever need to say sorry for venting or for your feelings. We are here for you anytime! I am sorry you are going through that. I wish people would just understand without having to go through it themselves. Sending hugs your way!

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  • I'm so sorry.  People just have no clue or empathy.

     
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  • I am so sorry people don't think and that sucks!! We are here for you all the tiem so vent away!!!!!
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  • I am so sorry. People are so clueless and seem to have no empathy much of the time when it just seems soooo obvious to have it. No need to ever apologize for venting. We are ALWAYS here to listen and support you.
  • No need to apologize for venting. Unfortunately we are all we got in the realm of understanding how each other feels. I'm so sorry people were inconsiderate and insensitive sweetie. Hugs to you!!
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    People don't get it - and some never will.

    As weird/strange as this may sound, even though I'm pregnant, I'm still not comfortable talking about healthy babies, especially newborns...

    Sorry you have to deal with all this - sending you some hugs!!
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  • I'm so sorry! People can really be obtuse sometimes. *hugs*
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  • Vent away!  I am so sorry that people can be so clueless!  ((hugs))

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  • Don't apologize, I'm glad you're venting instead of letting it bottled up inside. I hope it'll get better at work for you.
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    Vent away. This is where you are right now. Yes, there may be a day when it is easier, but that wasn't today. Big ((hugs)) today!
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  • Don't ever apologize for venting here.  I am so sorry you have to deal with clueless people.  I agree with the PPs and wish people could understand without having to go through a loss themselves.  Sending you so many (((hugs)))
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    I'm sorry, people suck.  I just don't get it....even if I never had a loss, I know I would have enough common sense to not do the things most people do and say. 

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  • I must admit, this kinda remind me of when I was 11 and a friend of mine (who was a adult) had a miscarriage. I knew here landlord as we all go to the same church so I tried to be nice and sent her a note saying I was sorry for her loss. I didn't realize until later that some people don't want to think about it or talk about it. I felt horrible for being so insensitive later when my mom asked me what I had been doing and I told her. She is the one who me that my friend might not appreciate the reminder.
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