Anyone go alone to D&C?

Re: Anyone go alone to D&C?

• Ihope member

  December 2013

  I was very emotional for mine, especially afterwards I could not stop crying. I think I would of had a much harder time had dh not been there.

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• ACrashe member

  December 2013

  Sorry for not responding earlier - I ended up just letting it all out to him. He was a complete idiot to say he was going out but he can't unsay it...he didn't after I told him how disappointed I was but I can't get it out of my head that his first instinct when I asked him his plans was to say 'well I have to go out with work guys.' I wanted to hear. 'Being with you - whatever you need.'
  
  We didn't talk after I told him I wasn't going to teach him how to help me through this. He cried a bit and left me a note about forgiveness the next morning but I was so angry and hurt I didn't acknowledge it until last night. He is younger and very positive about everything - that we are going to try again right away and everything will be fine. I think he's already started to move on and because this procedure is not happening to him and he doesn't understand I am very much still in it. This baby is still in me - I am holding into a sliver of hope all the doctors are wrong. And today, that hope will be crushed and we will be back to square one. We had a talk finally last night and it felt good to be honest about how I am feeling. We are still in the first months of marriage - I know he is still learning what that means so I am not going to hold this over him but I meant it when I said I am not teaching him how to be supportive during this. He has to figure it out.
  
  I am here alone but that's okay. He was going to take the day off but I didn't want him to. I somewhat regret as I am sitting next to a pregnant woman but it's not her fault and I will be fine. He will be there after when it hits me.
  
  I feel so much for all the ladies going through this - to go from such happiness to utter devastation. And there is no welcoming committee in the dr offices - you sit among people excited to see their baby for first time or in front of nurses who are discussing their boyfriend problems. Actually mine are discussing baby diapers they love - for their babies. They don't feel it's insensitive I guess. Maybe because it happens all the time in their eyes? I just want to tell them I wanted this baby - I am not here because I want to be.
  
  Sorry for what became a big rant - it helped to write while waiting here though. I really am so sorry we are all going through this - it's a pain that can never be explained.
  
  

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• PinkRoses member

  December 2013

  I'm glad you were able to talk to your husband about your feelings. I hope he learns from this experience and is there for you when you need him from now on!
  
  Good luck with your procedure. The recovery is easier than I had expected - hopefully you will find the same thing! Thinking of you. Hang in there.

  

  
  

  

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• mrsyoo member

  December 2013

  Good to hear that you were able to let it all out to your husband. The first few months of marriage is hard, as you figure each other out. Don't be afraid to ask him to be there for you when you need him. Sometimes, guys just need a little direction.

  
  

  Hope everything went well with your procedure and you're on your way to healing. You will get through this and it will get better.

  TTC since 10/12, BFP 10/19/13, EDD 7/8/14, MC 12/5/13 @ 9 wks

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