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Poker playing DH dilemma

Bmlopez3054Bmlopez3054 member
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So my husband really wants to play in a poker tournament before the baby comes..would you let your husband? I'd rather him wait until the end of 2014-early 2015 or the following year but he thinks now is a better opportunity than when we have a baby. I'm just worried about him losing $350+ on poker plus the travel cost to get there and hotel costs as well. But on the other hand if he did well he could win big money. He keeps bringing up different tournaments and then I look like the bad guy saying no even though he gets his own hopes up for no reason. 
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  • alphalyraealphalyrae member
    I'm torn. I've encouraged DH to do some of the things he won't have time to do for a few months after baby arrives  BUT $350 plus right now is a decent chunk of money that could absolutely go to baby things or into emergency savings to bolster the account.
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  • danabsddanabsd member
    I don't let my husband do anything.  We discuss things than he agrees with what I say.

    I would rather him before the baby comes.  Newborns are easier with 2 parents around.

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  • Bmlopez3054Bmlopez3054 member
    Thanks ladies, that helped me gain a different perspective. He doesn't ask for "permission" but he knows that with that kind of money involved it's something he needs to discuss with me since we share money. I'm not controlling at all so it's not that, I think I am just afraid of him losing the money. I guess if he saves some extra money aside from what we need for this baby coming then I will be okay with it. Plus as a FTM I don't know what to expect when baby gets here so I wasn't seeing the big picture that it'd be better now rather than later. And it's in January I think is what he said. Thanks for the advice ladies! 
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  • awknycawknyc member
    If you could spare the money and the few days away, I don't see an issue with your husband participating in the poker tournament b/c it'll probably be a while until he can do it again once the baby comes. I'd also work in a spa day for yourself,  it's only fair.  ;)

    If it's multiple tournaments, then that's a different story. I'd let him do one or two max, even if he was winning big money. There's got to be some sort of compromise.
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  • Bmlopez3054Bmlopez3054 member
    awknyc said:
    If you could spare the money and the few days away, I don't see an issue with your husband participating in the poker tournament b/c it'll probably be a while until he can do it again once the baby comes. I'd also work in a spa day for yourself,  it's only fair.  ;)

    If it's multiple tournaments, then that's a different story. I'd let him do one or two max, even if he was winning big money. There's got to be some sort of compromise.


    The spa day thing..genius. I like the way you think :)
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  • SMM1986SMM1986 member
    I agree that we don't "let" each other do things, but we do have discussions about what we want to do.
    I'd say go for it if you can budget the event without it being a hardship.
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  • MeredithEleseMeredithElese member
    How good is he at poker? Lol I agree with all the PP. DH is a terrible gambler, but he's pretty decent at sports betting. He's taking a guys trip to Vegas for March Madness and if he can even pay for half the trip I'll be thrilled. I had to go solo for about 2wks when DD was 2months and I was blessed with help. I totally COULD have done it, but another adult in the house to give you a break is HUGE!


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  • Bmlopez3054Bmlopez3054 member
    He is actually really smart about gambling he knows when to play the right hands, but poker is part skill and part luck IMO so you never know
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  • dragossoul84dragossoul84 member
    My husband is not my child so I don't let him do anything. I would not have a problem with as long as we actually had the money to spend and it wasnt a couple days within my due date. It is way easier to have DH travel while you are pregnant than when you have LO. My son is a toddler now and sttn and I still wouldn't want to manage a couple days all by myself. 
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  • Katemr1146Katemr1146 member
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    My husbands taking guys trip to Vegas with his buddies for March Maddness too! He did ask me if I thought he should go, and I said go for it! Have fun!

    I think it's a great idea for him to go have fun with his boys and let loose. He works way too hard and has definitely "earned" a fun vacay. Plus I'd rather he be gone before this baby comes then after.

    Sounds like this is something that makes your DH happy...so I wouldn't personally stand in the way of him going if you can afford it. But only if you can afford it.
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  • MissLadyTayMissLadyTay member
    It would be okay with me if MH went on a poker or guys trip before the baby came. But he's a horrible gambler so I would plan in advance to lose whatever money he took with him. :P
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  • Jillzy86Jillzy86 member
    I would sit down and look at your finances together make sure you both can handle to spend that much money on a trip. Good luck! Hope he wins big!
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