May I please just vent?--non baby related....mostly

trisholio · December 2013

Let me first say that each night I go to bed and count my blessings. I have many things to be thankful for in my life, but really sometimes things are just so hard.

This week we had our IUI and also a very important meeting with the Foster agency. Nothing like two huge events in the same week. On top of that I gave my notice to one of the families I baby sit for in the evenings. The little girl is sweet, but the pay sucks, the hours sucked and being away from my wife sucked. We are going to have to adjust our budget a little bit, but it will work itself out. We are also in the process of buying another car. My trusty Kia died a few months ago and we just didn't want to continue to put money into her. She is the first car I ever bought as an adult but she is over 11 years old and beat to hell. Well I bought her when I lived in KY and it has been a fiasco getting the title so that we can trade her in or sell her outright. We are trying to buy an SUV or mini-van so that we will have plenty room for our "hopefully" growing family. I don't know anyone that WANTS to buy a mini-van, but it is quite an emotional process when you don't even have a family yet. WE WILL HAVE A FAMILY, that is what I keep telling myself.

Whew! As if all of that wasn't enough my grandmother's (second) husband Jimmy went into the hospital a few weeks ago by ambulance because he was in severe pain. He had a major blockage in his colon and the pathology report came back and it is cancer. He is currently recovering from the surgery in a nursing home. They are wanting him to do treatments, but I really think he has given up. He is around 70 years old and my grandmother is 85 and she is the one that is having to make all the decisions and do her best to keep his spirits up. She is at her wits end and I am sure exhausted in every sense. They have been married for 34 years and we never expected that she would be the one to take care of him since there is a significant age difference. They live in Florida, so there is not much that I can do for them at this point. My mom and aunt went down for a few days when he first went into the hospital but our family can't keep flying down there over and over to be with her.

All of this is happening at the most stressful time of the year for me and my wife. We have had a lot of bad things happen around the holidays and with the added stress of buying presents for the family and dealing with my sister's pregnancy. I really just want to crawl in a corner and cry. But then I remember I have an amazing wife that loves me more than anything, we have been through so much together and I know we will get through all of this too.

This board has been so supportive and almost like a therapy group at times. I really just needed to vent and to know that I am not crazy for being stressed out right now. Thank you for your time folks :-)

healz413 · December 2013

It sounds like you have a whole lot on your plate right now! It is totally reasonable to be stressed out about it all.

I'm sorry to hear about your grandmother's husband. That sounds really horrible.

I'm sending you "you can do it" vibes and hoping that things get easier soon.

clairmeij · December 2013

Sending the same BIG LOVE that I've been sharing around these parts. I am so sorry to hear of all of this, and I really hope that things improve for you very soon! Sometimes being able to spend a day under the covers and cozy helps me tremendously. I hope that you have an opportunity soon to just do something that heals you.

doodah1013 · December 2013

Girrrrrllllll! That is so much to deal with. I am so sorry that all this seems to be aligning and that it is causing you so much stress. Let me know if you need anything, as I would be happy to help you out (but I think you know that

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Just remember that you are a good person, and any trials that you face will just make you stronger! We are all here for you.

ATXmommas · December 2013

When it rains, it pours, huh? That's a whole lot to deal with it and it is completely understandable that it is causing you stress. I think venting is a great stress relief and this is a safe place to do it. Do something nice for yourself and enjoy some time with your wife. You'll get through this and you have lots of love and support on this board!

ball.and.chain · December 2013

Vent all you want, lady! We'll be here. I'm so sorry things are rough right now. Sending hugs.

trisholio · December 2013

Thank you everyone for your kind words. Our meeting with the Foster agency went great this evening. It is going to be a lot of work, but I can't wait to get kiddos. We treated ourselves to dinner out tonight. We rarely eat out these days, so it was super yummy and nice.

Jazibel · December 2013

Glad to hear you had a good end to a really tough day. I totally believe in venting :-) I'll be sending you positive thoughts - and sometimes a day spent in PJ's is the way to go. (Well for me at least ;-)

shelly2314 · December 2013

not crazy....just a very full plate! My thoughts are prayers are with you and your family

aslmander · December 2013

oh wow, that seems like too much to be able to handle which it seems like you're handling it really well so keep your head up! sorry you're having to deal with all this at one time

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