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May I please just vent?--non baby related....mostly
trisholio
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Let me first say that each night I go to bed and count my blessings. I have many things to be thankful for in my life, but really sometimes things are just so hard.
This week we had our IUI and also a very important meeting with the Foster agency. Nothing like two huge events in the same week. On top of that I gave my notice to one of the families I baby sit for in the evenings. The little girl is sweet, but the pay sucks, the hours sucked and being away from my wife sucked. We are going to have to adjust our budget a little bit, but it will work itself out. We are also in the process of buying another car. My trusty Kia died a few months ago and we just didn't want to continue to put money into her. She is the first car I ever bought as an adult but she is over 11 years old and beat to hell. Well I bought her when I lived in KY and it has been a fiasco getting the title so that we can trade her in or sell her outright. We are trying to buy an SUV or mini-van so that we will have plenty room for our "hopefully" growing family. I don't know anyone that WANTS to buy a mini-van, but it is quite an emotional process when you don't even have a family yet. WE WILL HAVE A FAMILY, that is what I keep telling myself.
Whew! As if all of that wasn't enough my grandmother's (second) husband Jimmy went into the hospital a few weeks ago by ambulance because he was in severe pain. He had a major blockage in his colon and the pathology report came back and it is cancer. He is currently recovering from the surgery in a nursing home. They are wanting him to do treatments, but I really think he has given up. He is around 70 years old and my grandmother is 85 and she is the one that is having to make all the decisions and do her best to keep his spirits up. She is at her wits end and I am sure exhausted in every sense. They have been married for 34 years and we never expected that she would be the one to take care of him since there is a significant age difference. They live in Florida, so there is not much that I can do for them at this point. My mom and aunt went down for a few days when he first went into the hospital but our family can't keep flying down there over and over to be with her.
All of this is happening at the most stressful time of the year for me and my wife. We have had a lot of bad things happen around the holidays and with the added stress of buying presents for the family and dealing with my sister's pregnancy. I really just want to crawl in a corner and cry. But then I remember I have an amazing wife that loves me more than anything, we have been through so much together and I know we will get through all of this too.
This board has been so supportive and almost like a therapy group at times. I really just needed to vent and to know that I am not crazy for being stressed out right now. Thank you for your time folks :-)
T & G My wife and I married 9/10/11 in Niagara Falls, NY
HSG 12/12/12
#1 ICI 12/15/12 BFN on 12/29/12
#2 ICI 1/11/13 BFN 1/28/13
#3 ICI 2/11/13 BFN
#4 ICI August 2013, Clomid 100mg BFN on 8/30/13
#5 ICI September-Clomid 100, mg ICI 8/15 and 8/16, BFN on 9/3
#6 ICI October-Clomid 150 mg for 5 days BFN 10/27
uterine laparoscopy on 11/14-no endo or cysts
#7 IUI December-Clomid 150mg BFP 12/21
12/23 Beta 51 12/26 Beta 209!
First ultrasound on January 8th 2014-great healthy heartbeat
Second Ultrasound January 23 (8 weeks) we got to see and hear the heartbeat
Third Ultrasound Feb 4th(10 weeks), then will released to OBGYN'
It's a GIRL!
We welcomed Adalyn Cooper Elizabeth on 8/29/14
She was 7lbs 11oz and 19.6 inches long
Proud foster parents to two little girls ages 2.5 yrs old, M, and 1 year old, K
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Re: May I please just vent?--non baby related....mostly
I'm sorry to hear about your grandmother's husband. That sounds really horrible.
I'm sending you "you can do it" vibes and hoping that things get easier soon.
We're queer. I'm 33, have severe stage 4 endo, and had both fallopian tubes removed. My love ("Manada" on the boards, 32) was diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve. We did Partner IVF (my eggs, her uterus). We lost our twins Tavin and Casey at 21 weeks gestation.
Our IUIs
with @Manada: IUI# 1-7 (December 2012- September 2013) all BFN. Tried natural, femara, clomid, puregon/follistim, clomid and menopur combo, both the ovidrel and HCG triggers.
Our IVFs:
IVF #1 my eggs November/December 2013: Cancelled IVF due to poor response
IVF #2 my eggs/Manada's uterus January/February 2014
BCPs and lupron overlap Stimmed: 1/22-2/2: Bravelle and Menopur (dosage ranged from B300 and M150 to B375 and M150 to B300 and M225)
2/4 retrieved 10 eggs. Endo was much worse than expected. Only 3 eggs fertilized; February 7 transferred two day 3 embryos, froze one. All great condition.
BFP eve of 6dp3dt; Beta 1 (11dp3dt): 110; Beta 2 (13dp3dt): 175; Beta 3 (15dp3dt): 348; Beta 4 (19dp3dt): 2222; Beta 5 (21dp3dt): 4255
1st ultrasound (3/6 6w 1d): TWINS!!!! Twin A measuring 6w1d with a heartbeat of 118bpm. Twin B measuring 6w0d with a heartbeat of 113bpm.
***July 18, 2014 we lost our beautiful babies at 21 weeks gestation. They were born too early. Tavin Sara T. and Casey Elizabeth T. are beautiful and precious and we will love them and miss them forever.***
FET #1 December 2014
Just remember that you are a good person, and any trials that you face will just make you stronger! We are all here for you.
Baby Hayden Frances born 12/20/14 at 11:11 a.m... Our perfect little miracle. Here's how we got here:
My lovely wife:
5 IUI's January 2013-June 2013- 3 Cycles with Clomid- BFN
Myself: Genderqueer guy who hopped in the driver's seat of the baby making train
IUI #6- 7/23- Monitored and Trigger on Day 12, with one 16mm follicle and one 18mm follicle- BFN
IUI #7- 8/21- Not monitored, 50mg Clomid- BFN
September and October: Missed Cycles due to vacation and a Half Marathon
IUI #8- Monitored and triggered on day 15, with one 23x18mm follicle- BFN on 11/19/2013
December: Moved onto to see an RE to make a good plan.
IUI #9- 1/1/2014 Natural Cycle, BFP on 1/15/2014, 6W Ultra-Sound Reveals nothing in Gestation Sack... Natural M/C at 7W, 2/3/2014
IUI #10 3/21/2014- Natural Cycle- BFP on 4/1/2014 (please don't be an April Fools. Beta #1 13dpiui- 48, Beta #2 16dpiui- 416, Beta #3 1018...
1st Ultrasound- 4/22/2014- 6w4d HB- 134!
Check out my Blog at: http://pregnantboithinksoutloud.blogspot.com/
9 IUIs = 9 BFNs
IVF October 2012: 22 eggs retrieved, 17 fertilized, 5 frozen
ET #1: 1 blast = BFP; Blighted ovum discovered at 7w5d; D&E
FET #1: 1 blast = BFP; Missed m/c discovered at 9w5d; D&E
Karyotyping: normal ~ RPL Testing: normal ~ Hysteroscopy: normal
FET #2: 1 blast transferred 10/25; BFP 10/31!
EDD 7/13/14 ~ Induced at 37w4d due to pre-eclampsia ~ Born on 6/28/14
*Everyone welcome*
Married to M and proud mothers to Olivia and Elise (8/19/2014) and to our fur-babies: Capone (pitbull), Jax and Atticus (cats)