So I'm a little hurt and not sure if I'm overreacting from all hormones.
I've been on bed rest since 28 weeks and will be on bedrest until I turn 36 weeks (right after Christmas) due to pre term labor. My inlaws insist to come here every other weekend to "help". They don't bring food, they don't cook, they don't clean up after themselves. But they do watch my son to give my husband a break and although they are not perfect, we appreciate their efforts. This is the first time we actually needed their help with anything in two years. We always include them on everything related to our son though (even his daycare Christmas event, Halloween etc) but never ask them to help as an obligation.
They have 2 other grandchildren. They also travel to see them all the time. Always to help when my brother in law needs a sitter etc. My inlaws are never included in any events related to the kids at school or stuff like that (Xmas etc).
We will be alone on Christmas (cant drive anywhere) and we invited my inlaws, mentioning it would be exciting to watch my son open gifts Christmas morning (he is two). She said she didn't had plans yet. I told her to think about it, talk to my brother in law and let is know.
She told us today she would not come here, that she would be with her other son on Christmas Eve and Christmas morning to watch their kids open their gifts. My sister in law said they would not come because their kids need to wake up in their own bed on Christmas morning (which I understand, although is weird because she doesn't allow them to believe in Santa - Christmas, she says, needs to be about jesus).
I'm a little sad. We will spend Christmas alone unable to go anywhere. Every one of the 6 years I've been with my husband, we went anywhere they asked us to (usually to my husband's brother) Im also hurt that there seem to be no interest on my sons Christmas morning.
My parents would do anything to be a part of these events (in fact, they insisted we skyped on Christmas morning so they could participate).
I feel like giving them the silent treatment. I'm hurt. Would you be upset? Am I going insane from being stuck here for this long and overreacting?