How have your friendships changed?

lioness13 · December 2013

How have your friendships changed since you became a mom? And how do you feel about it?

JANCANDANCE · December 2013

I have my friends from Chloe's friends. But they are all older and their youngest children are 11 and 12 like Chloe. I don't really have any because it is hard to find moms my age with new babies. So I try to get together with my gals but it is definitely harder with a new little one.

momofcatan · December 2013

A lot of my close friends have a kid within a year of DD's age which is awesome. It is funny though because now I'm always comparing how we do things differently (and I'm sure they must do the same). The spectrum is very wide, 2 of them are on kids 3 or 4 and Ferberized (or similar), while one FTM still nurses her 9 month old to sleep 3 times a night. I still get along great with all of them and love the experience they can share with me. I do find it hard to find time to get together with my non mom friends, but I think it was that way even before DD, I really suck at getting in touch with people. I know I am SO lucky to have so many friends with babies around the same age.

Maelara · December 2013

We only have a small group of friends. Our very best friend couple moved to Saskatoon 3 years ago and they have a 4 year old and one on the way. I miss them like crazy. Our other couple friends are about to pop any day now. It has definitely been harder getting together since N. We just got back to seeing them once a week again but that will stop once their little guy makes his debut. We rarely see any of our other friends anymore, they are a pub crowd and you can't take babies to a pub. I have made some other mommy friends though, so that's nice

Ryanswifey619 · December 2013

I have one friend with a baby a month older than Joss. I've got 3other friends with older babies that try to get together without the kids when we can. You lovely ladies are pretty awesome friends too

phishgirl29 · December 2013

I have about 6 friends with babies born in 2013 alone. That being said I've gotten together with each one of them maybe once? It's so hard between naps, working, gym to fit them all in. I hope that we will eventually figure it out. My BFF has a daughter who's born in January and we see her the most. Maybe twice a month. She has 2 older kids so it's hard for her. She formula feeds so she comes without the baby most of the time.

lioness13 · December 2013

Me and my BFF started growing apart just before we TTC. She is single, no kids and wants to me married with kids badly. I think when I got pregnant it took her over the edge. She's been around but we aren't as close as I would like. I miss her a lot. I used to plan to get together with friends more but I don't initiate as much now. Most of my friends have been pretty great though. I see them almost as often as before and they offer to babysit (which I occasionally take them up on). I have become closer to a friend who had her DD 2 weeks after me. We spent a lot of time together during maternity leave and try to get together once a month for a play date. In January we are going to take a weekly mommy/baby class on Saturdays together.

KellenHi21 · December 2013

My closest friends are here, in la and Seattle... I met a couple mommy friends, one who I hang with a few times a week. That has saved me. All my other friends don't have kids. They are still good friends but I don't see them as often anymore.

tttwalters · December 2013

My best friend is single with no kids and lives an hour a way. We try and see each other a few times a month, but sleep overs are hard now! She spoils my lo and so do our other 2 close friends with no kids. I have become close with some new mommy friends and our neighbour and I became really close when I was pregnant. She has a 2 year old and just had a baby yesterday! I love my new friendships, and my friends with no kids help me to unwind sometimes and are fabulous at helping out when I need them

megaroo64 · December 2013

Almost all my friendships changed but not really in a bad way. And actually I made a lot of new friends. I live in a new development with a lot of young families, and H and I were always the odd couple out because we had no kids. Once I became pregnant, I was welcomed in to their mom club! They do weekly coffee meet ups and play dates- even planned one over the holidays so I was able to make it- that's great. I never knew they were doing all this stuff until I had a baby.

CoffeeBeanFiend91 · December 2013

My best friend and I work together so were lucky to see each other. She understands how it is with DD and luckily is all for her being included in out get togethers. My other close friend has a 4 year old and an 8 mo old son. We have play dates often which is wonderful. My other friendships are pretty much gone. All but one friend is single and childless

steph_pegasus · December 2013

We've become much more homebodies now, and since we moved recently we're further away from nearly all of our friends. We're the first in our group to have a baby though, so I'd be lying if I told you I wasn't expecting it to happen (us staying home more). We did move closer to our friends who already had kids, and their son was actually born a month before Elise, so we do Monday Night Football with them about every other week. I don't feel like the closeness of our friendships has changed, but the opportunities to visit with everyone are fewer now.

MissDei · December 2013

my friendships have changed, well a few of them haven't but the rest? Oh yeah.

One in particular, went MIA during my pregnancy. Has seen my son ONCE since he was born and even then, really had no interest in holding him or even really interacting with him. So seeing that friendship change sucked. But the rest? We talk when we can. They're understanding of the fact that I'm a mom now. That being said, I want more mom friends because only 2 of my friends are moms and either far away and/or wayyyy busy. it gets lonely.

BunnyLove416 · December 2013

My closest friend has a daughter who's 4 and just had a second little girl 3 months after L was born, our friendship is stronger than ever, I get her now in a way i didn't before and I can't describe how grateful I am for it. Otherwise I'm not as close to my friends, we're the first to have a kid and DH works a strange schedule that's mostly nights and weekends which leaves me on baby duty. Add living in NYC where people are constantly arriving and leaving to the mix and the whole thing is sort of isolating.

needanustart · December 2013

I have been incredibly lucky. We have moved about 5 times and I have friends in all the places we have previously lived. Even with distance I still consider myself close with about 6 girlfriends who I have been friends with for many years. Both DH's circle of friends and my circle of friends ALL, literally every single couple in the group, have a baby, 2 or 3 year old or a combo of the two. We get together for family play dates all the time. My out of town girlfriends are weekend trips to visit their families and since we live in DH's hometown and all of his friends are still here we hang out with other couples and their families every weekend. I also really like all of DH's friends' wives which is really lucky. We have extra car seats and bases just for the fact that we are all often rotating kids or stopping over someone else's house all the time. It's a good network and I'm lucky. We all understand that our main priority is our families right now.

numbersgirl08 · December 2013

We moved when N was 2 mos old so that affected my friendships. But really, my close friends are still close. Most are moms or pregnant so it's kinda like I just joined the club.

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