Hello Ladies! I just have a quick question. First a little background. I work at a bank part time (Tues, Wed & Thurs 10-4) and then we have to work at least 3 out of 6 saturdays (9-12) which we sign up for but about 1 month in advance. Also we have not told anyone that we are going through IF treatments.
Well I have been looking at my timing for this IUI cycle and if it is the same as last IUI I will have to go in for the procedure on Sat the 21st, which of course I am suppose to work. Now I know every cycle is different but I would like to tell them soon if I cannot come in.
Also should mention while I LOVE the women I work with it is the higher ups in the company that are very unaccommodating and pretty much could care less what is going on in my personal life ( it is like pulling teeth to get a day off for even funerals!).
So after that long explanation my question is, how should I approach my manager if I do need the day off? While she has been accommodating in the past ( she let me "call out sick" on a week day when I had a docs appointment to make sure I had it off) how much info do you think I need to tell her about why I need it off? I think people are starting getting suspicious too. Should I just come clean and tell her whats going on and hope she doesn't need to tell anyone above her? Has anyone else been in a situation like this? TIA

sorry so long
EDIT: Also should mention last year I tried to take a saturday off and it was a sh*t show!
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Info:
Me: 28 DH: 26
TTC Since Sept '12
10/2013: FirstRE appt.
HSG and bloodwork normal;SA normal
Dx: A-Typical PCOS / MTHFR folic acid gene mutation
Treatments: Gonal-F Pen Injections
11/22/13 - Ovidrel Trigger
11/24/13 - IUI #1 -- BFN
12/18/13 - Ovidrel Trigger
12/20/13 - IUI #2 -- BFN
1/23/14 - IVF #1 Transfer
2/3/14 - BFP! Beta #1 = 508
2/5/14 - Beta #2 = 1193
3/3/14 - 1st Ultrasound- 1 Bean, HR 171 bpm
4/3/14 - OB Ultrasound & Appointmnt
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Re: Work and IF Appointments
Because of the location of our RE and the appointment times and the location of where we work, I worked with my bosses to put in a telework agreement and so they also would know why I was not in the office or taking so many sick days if I couldn't have got that agreement in place.
I know in your situation you can't do telework, but I felt it did not hurt to open up to my bosses, all the way up to our directorate level which is 2 levels higher than my direct supervisor. in part because my husband and I both work in the same division and direrctorate it helped that they knew. And the deputy director was my old branch chief (first line supervisor). Having the senior leadership know of our issues made it much easier on us.
Me: 34, DH: 32
TTC Since September 2012
Dx-PCOS, Anovulation, highly irregular cycles
March 2013 Comid 50 mg+ TI #1: BFN
April 2013 Clomid mg + TI #2: BFN
IVM#1 Aug 2012: BFN
20 FEB 2014: CP
IUI #1 Clomid 100mg 24 FEB 2014: BFN
IUI #2 Clomid 100mg 21 MAR 2014: BFN
IUI#3 Follistim & trigger 21 May 2014: BFN
IVF #1 Follistim & Menopur: 14R, 9M, 7F, transfered 2 day 3 8 cell embies
Beta #1: 7/30: 41 Beta #2 8/1: 96 Beta #3 8/4: 796 EDD:4/9/15



All WelcomeTTC #1 since June 2012
Me (28) - DOR (AFC <10, undetectable AMH, >10 FSH), homozygous E429A MTHFR
DH (29) - MFI low count and morphology
September 2013 IUI#1 - Clomid + Trigger + IUI = BFN
October 2013 IUI#2 - Letrozole + Menopur + Trigger + IUI = BFN
Nov 2013 IVF/ICSI #1 - Protocol: BCP prep, high doses Menopur and Bravelle (12 days), ganirelex
Results: 5 retrieved / mature, 4 fertilized, 1 arrested and 3 complex abnormal after day 3 PGS = Cancelled after ER
Jan/Feb 2014 IVF/ICSI #2 - Protocol: Estrogen priming, high doses Menopur and Bravelle (11 days), microdose lupron
Results: Cancelled after 11 days of stims due to low response and E2 levels
Feb 2014 IVF/ICSI #3 - Protocol: No prep, low dose Menopur (6 days), ganirelex, Bravelle booster with trigger
Results: 1 retrieved / 0 mature = Cancelled after ER
Officially moving on to embryo adoption! We used and love Embryo Adoption Services of Cedar Park
October 2014 FET #1 - BCP/Lupron/Estrace/Prometrium, transferred 2 of 4 from match #1, BFN
December 2014 FET #2 - BCP/Lupron/Estrace/Prometrium, transferred 2 of 4 from match #1, BFN
March 2015 FET #3 - BCP/Lupron/Estrace/Prometrium, transferred 2 of 6 from match #2, BFN
May 2015 FET #4 - BCP/Lupron/Estrace/Prometrium, lost 2 to thaw, transferred 2 of 6 from match #2, BFN
October 2015 FET #5 - Natural cycle, lost 1 from match #3 and 1 from clinic backup to thaw, transferred 1 backup, BFN
February 2016 FET #6 - Natural cycle, transferred 1 from match #4, B FREAKING P!
Beta 1 = 162, Beta 2 = 316, doubling just over 48 hours