"Cry it out"

Naeleen · December 2013

I hate that phrase. What are your thoughts about letting a Newborn "cry it out"?

mhickey426 · December 2013

Not for newborns. I am a believer in cio. It worked amazingly with my dd but definitely not that little

EmR22 · December 2013

Don't do it for a newborn. A newborn is crying for a reason and you need to figure out what it is. Sleep solutions such as CIO should not be used until at least 4 months but most don't use until much older. Are you expecting your newborn to STTN? STTN is actually bad in the first few weeks of life as it can be a sign of jaundice and can cause dehydration. My DS slept 5 hours the first night home and we had to wake him every 3-4 hours until he returned to his birth weight. Sure it was great that he was a good sleeper but it could have been very bad for his health.

SnoopyLuv · December 2013

I did it with DD1 when she was much older (8 months) but I never understood what "it" was that they are crying out.

June2007 · December 2013

CIO for a newborn? No. Just no.

Littlemama01 · December 2013

I agree, not for a newborn..they need the attention and help soothing..babies that young only cry for a few reasons..hunger, dirty/wet, tired, gassy/burps, lonely...so you just need to figure which one it is at this stage.

EandIMommy86 · December 2013

I don't believe in this method at any age but there are always exceptions. For a newborn it is never acceptable. I also have a 16 month old and I give her 10 to 15 minutes. If she is still crying after that, I go and get her and soothe her for a few minutes then put her back to sleep. The only time I didn't do this is when she was up at 3 am for no reason yelling. She cried for an hour before going back to sleep.

CIO will only make a newborn more upset and it is not good for them to be doing it. As a previous poster said, if a nb cries they need something.

olga1311 · December 2013

MosyMama said:
My thoughts on CIO for a newborn are that it is neglectful and I might go so far as to say it's cruel. Newborns have 1 method of communication (crying), and they establish trust and security in their caregivers by learning that their cries will be answered and their needs met.

Totally agree. The baby needs his/her mommy or daddy. CIO is horrible for newborns. I can see it for older child like over 6 months although not sure I'll be able to do it at all

erbear · December 2013

Is this a joke?

Naeleen · December 2013

Bored? No! Argued with mother in law on this topic. She told me I was "spoiling" her! I know the facts and had to show her that I am not the only one who knows it is NOT ok.

RondackHiker · December 2013

Naeleen said:
Bored? No! Argued with mother in law on this topic. She told me I was "spoiling" her! I know the facts and had to show her that I am not the only one who knows it is NOT ok.

Why argue and share facts and show "you're not the only one"?

You and your dh say, "this is our child and we make parenting decisions. We thank you not to question them. We will not consider cry it out at this point. That is not up for debate and you need to drop it immediately."

gnrkrystle1 · December 2013

I am a firm believer in "cry it out" but definitely not for newborns. When they cry it's because they need/feel something that needs to be attended to. Most experts say that 'cry it out' can really only start after 4 months.