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Things I HATE... after 11 months on TTCaL

Warning: I know I'm being snarky and shitty today, so if you're not up for it, please just skip my post.



Terms:
  • Sticky Baby:  In the world of missed miscarriages, ectopics, D&C's, and Misoprostol, stickiness has nothing to do with anything.  It can actually cause huge problems such as tubal damage, tube removal, scar tissue, uterine and cervical damage, and infection.
  • Baby Dust:  This implies that dust will help you make babies... Dust does not in fact make babies.  High quality sperm, eggs, and sometimes a small fortune in medical testing and drugs makes babies.
Circumstances:
  • Questions asked on the board that are better off to a higher power. i.e. "Can I get pregnant?"  "Do you think I'll have to..."
  • Intros when gals think they could be pregnant.
  • Drive-bys
  • Pregnant belly avatars (Seriously, you're not pg, I'm not pg; You intend to stick around; update your avatar.)
  • Asking for advice on how not to follow doctor's orders.  You want a baby.  You are paying your doctor to help you fulfill that dream.  If you do not trust your doctor's advice, ask for a further explanation, or go to another doctor.  (It is okay, however, to ask questions about the why's and if's of your doctor's orders.)
  • Demanding the support you want without offering anything back to others.
  • Specifically, throwing a fit, when you don't like the feedback to your questions. (We're not doctors; We don't know everything.)
End Rant

Thank you for your time, patience, and support ladies.  I love and appreciate you all more than you know!
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  • ((HUGS))

    Sorry you are having a rough day. 
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  • ((hugs)) I agree though.  I'm kind of in one of those funks today too.

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  • ((hugs)) I agree though.  I'm kind of in one of those funks today too.
    Oh, me too!!!! I hope your day gets better!!!!
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  • I hope your day gets better!! I hate the belly avatar too!
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    Pregnancy 4 - EDD 6/11/14 BO @ 9 weeks D&C 11/8/13
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  • I'm sorry you're feeling this way.  If it helps any, I am very grouchy today, as well.  I hope it gets better.

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  • Sorry it's a rough day. ((Hugs))
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    Lots of ((((hugs))) I share your sentiments. 

    ETA: not that I've been on the TTCAL board for 11 months - but have been TTCAL for many years and those sentiments cross into real life as well. 
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    08/05/2013: BFP not ectopic | EDD: 4/22/2014 | 09/15/2013: Miscarried at home
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  • ((Hugs))

    I agree with the random bump pregnancy pics... and the sticky baby. My sister said that to me, and I told her that I thought that it was a mean thing to say. I had a super sticky baby - so much so that it took like 2 months to miscarry totally, so I think it's ridiculous.

    I am also wearing my negative hat today. It makes an appearance every now and then. I agree with everything you said, so I don't think you were out of line. It also bothers me when people say "preggers" or "preggo" cause that's also just ridiculous.


    I couldn't agree more!!!!!

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  • I hate "baby dust," too, because it makes babies seem as elusive and make-believe as fairy dust.
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  • sbg92207 said:
    I hate "baby dust," too, because it makes babies seem as elusive and make-believe as fairy dust.
    It makes me horrifically think of babies made into dust...
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  • (((Hugs))). Agreed

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    IVF #2: 1/22/14: Canceled. 16 eggs retrieved, 14 mature, 7 fertilized, all unhealthy embryos

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    Laproscopy: 10/2014: Healthy uterus

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  • Agree with all of this ! Especially the "sticky" baby term. My baby stuck, needed a d&c so that sure wasn't the problem *sigh*

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  • All of my attitude was started by a "friend" on Facebook this morning, who is constantly complaining about how miserable she is with her new baby, ending her tirade with this: Adopting out a baby boy to a good home! But as soon as he's not fussy,gassy or crying we would like him back! Thanks

    It made me want to punch her and steal her stupid baby... What a twat. We are no longer FB friends.
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  • gscovillegscoville member
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    ((hugs)) and I'm right there with you!  The baby dust one especially icks me out, all I can think of is ground up babies.  So gross and inappropriate!


         

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  • I know she's frustrated, but she's lost a pregnancy too.  She should know how shitty she sounds.
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  • ((((hugs)))))

    Sorry you are having a bad day love :( 

    My biggest pet peeve is when people say their pregnancy didn't "catch" makes me livid every.single.time.
    I have never heard that one...it doesn't even make any sense!
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    DD#2- Pumpkin ~ Due 9/29/2010 Arrived 10/1/2010

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  • I read somewhere where one person said "I'm 6 months pregnant with my 3rd, sh!t happens..." Ugh I about lost it! How dare they say that! It really made me mad!
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  • ((((HUGS)))) @buggirl72
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  • KMW08 said:

    srcr2011 said:

    I read somewhere where one person said "I'm 6 months pregnant with my 3rd, sh!t happens..." Ugh I about lost it! How dare they say that! It really made me mad!

    On this note, I hate when people announce and say it was unexpected.

    Ummmm, no it wasn't. It's not a fucking mystery on how babies are made. So uhh yeah, if you're having sex (protected or not) you should always be prepared to expect this.


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    I completely agree with you. My nephews girlfriend was on the depo shot and she got pregnant (she had three other kids from previous marriage) and he kept telling me how unexpected it was. I wanted to go to him and punch him in the face...seriously, you had sex didn't you? My sister conceived his brother on BC, he should know better.
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  • This is a great list. It sounds more like a PSA and less like a rant to me.

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  • i hate that stupid belly avatar!

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  • I hope tomorrow is a better day for you. ((Hugs))
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  • buggirl72 said:
    Can in add just how much it bothers me when there are BFPs moving on from the TTA check-in. It seems like this is happening a lot lately. They can't all be condom breaks people! (Sorry if I just don't understand what the TTA check-in is for).
    When I used to post on the LIW check-in we had a rash of ladies who would get a BFP during their doctor ordered TTA period. Some of them were honest that they decided to ignore their doctor.

    To the ladies who are saying they are TTA but are actually having unprotected sex - don't post in the TTA check-in! Do you have any idea how cruel and how big of an asshat you are being to the women who are truly TTA? If you are going to ignore your doctor then put on your big girl pants and own up to it!

    =D>

  • I know I'm new to this board, but I whole-heartedly agree with the avatar gripe. It's creepy and weird to me, and I always notice.
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  • So sorry you're having a crummy day.  ((hugs))
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  • Emnob28 said:
    Can someone explain to me the issue with preggers or preggo? I get preggo because it reminds me of a pasta sauce, but preggers doesn't seem that bad. Is it just a word thing - like how some people hate the word panties or moist? Or is it actually disrespectful? I'm still pretty new and am truly asking as I don't know.
    It's not a real world. You can't be "preggers".. you're pregnant

    I don't find it cute, or funny or adorable. 



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  • PinkCaminoPinkCamino member
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    mlal78 said:
    Emnob28 said:
    Can someone explain to me the issue with preggers or preggo? I get preggo because it reminds me of a pasta sauce, but preggers doesn't seem that bad. Is it just a word thing - like how some people hate the word panties or moist? Or is it actually disrespectful? I'm still pretty new and am truly asking as I don't know.
    It's not a real world. You can't be "preggers".. you're pregnant

    I don't find it cute, or funny or adorable. 


    100% agree.  Moist and panties are actual words.  Sure they might make some people cringe.
    Preggers and preggo though are completely made up words.  You are an adult, use your big person words is my way of thinking.

    Preggers/preggo sounds like something a teenager would say.  If you are old enough/mature enough to be starting a family then you are old enough to use the proper terms.

    This exactly.

    Way back when I had a facebook friend (clearly you guys know where this is going) who would post about every ridiculous detail about her pregnancy. Status updates galore. This one particular day she had this poor me I'm so sad post about wanting a glass of wine. 

    In the comments section someone asked her "why?" clearly not remembering she was KU. Well her one word answer was "Preggers!!!!! lol ". Blocked.


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