Sleep training? And an issue

Re: Sleep training? And an issue

• Magallyta member

  December 2013

  I am going thru the same thing. My DD is going to be 6 months next week. I came to this board to see if there was any advice or maybe it is b/c she is transitioning to 6months now. She also STTN since 2 months & all of sudden it is hard to put her down to sleep & when I put her in the crib she cries. My hubbie & I felt blessed to have a baby who SSTN & not fussy.
  
  Now she is fussy at night & I have had some sleepless nights. Last night, I did try the Ferber method & she cried for 15 min until she fell asleep. I was definitely not into letting a baby CIO but now I feel she knows what is doing & wants to be held. I ruled out everything too (diaper, not hungry/cold or hot). I believe she has been teething/ a little congested so I gave her a small dosage of Tylenol a few days ago. I could tell the cries were different when she was in pain.
  
  Just hoping this a phase is going thru....
  

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• MamaMiccichi member

  December 2013

  I agree, I think some of it is a phase but we need to teach them to do things on their own and I'm finding that a little tough

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• taraleanne member

  December 2013

  MamaMiccichi said:

  ISSUE: So my six month old has been STTN since 2.5 months he's currently going from 7:30 to 7am. As of this last Sunday he's been waking up after being out down screaming and crying, I've let him be but he gets worse so I go in there he calms down I pick him up sit down with him and out he goes I put him down and he is down for the night, it's been happening within two hours of him going down. I've ruled out hunger, not sure if it's teething or sleep regression. SLEEP TRAINING: when I put him down at naps and bed we go in his room turn off the light and sit in the rocker, we lightly rock, he fights a little then falls asleep (this routine just started a week ago,he used to just fall asleep on me while I was watching tv I'd put him down and he was out) I'm trying to figure out how to break him of this since I've been told he needs to learn to self soothe and the earlier the better. What works and how long does it normally take? (I need to grow a pair apparently)

  My LO has also been sleeping that long since about 2.5m old and we're almost 6m over here too. What you need to do is pick a method and be consistent. We do pretty much what you are doing above (in bold) only not to sleep but to very drowsy, then he goes into the crib with his lovey. Sometimes he cries out and I pick him up and pat his back and shussh him, put him back down and leave. I will repeat this as often as necessary until he falls asleep on his own. Often it's a burp that's stuck, then he's out for good.  Basically you need to pick something and be consistent with it. Don't do CIO one night then something else the next.  Have a bedtime and nap time wind-down routine so baby is nice and relaxed. Be consistent and don't give up and it will eventually work. you don't have to do CIO (I just can't do it, but the pick up put down repeat method works for us).  Also don't let baby get overtired, that's KEY. Put baby to bed or nap BEFORE they get too tired.  If our 3rd nap sucks, he goes to bed earlier and doesn't wake any earlier for the day. Sometimes he cries out in the night, and is often back to sleep before I can even get to his crib, or sometimes he just need a MOTN kiss n' hug but mostly he can self-soothe overnight cause he does it at the start of bedtime.  Naps will take longer (we are still working on it) but night time works pretty well now with our consistent routine. 

  

  
  

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• taraleanne member

  December 2013

  Nicb13 said:

  Stop listening to other people and just do what works. I've rocked DS every single night since he was first born and I still do (if he lets me) at almost 2 years old. Plenty of people told me to stop but I'm so glad I never listened because it's great cuddle time and never once affected his ability to sleep all night.

  So he's waking up 2 hours after going to sleep and you rock him, then he goes down for the night? Sounds great! I mean seriously....I bet this is a phase and will pass before you know it. You won't create bad habits so just do what works RIGHT NOW and don't worry about the rest.

  What worked in the past won't work forever so just go along with how your LO is changing. "Self-soothing" has been overplayed so much and that's all parents focus on. I really wouldn't stress this at all. Your LO sounds like he's doing great for his age. DS didn't start STTN, without needing a bottle or me until 7 months old.

  OP, I think this is really good advice.  Sometimes I still rock my LO to deep sleep too, if he will let me.  How did we get to where we are now? I followed his cues. When I realized he was too distracted by me to be rocked to sleep anymore I started putting him down drowsy and relaxed but not totally asleep. Sometimes he nurses to deep sleep (rare) , sometimes he wants to be held for a long time and sometimes he literally squirms in my arms till I put him down.  I still maintain a consistent routine and approach to sleepy times but otherwise I also follow his cues/needs. Who cares if you rock him to sleep sometimes, or even ALL the time- who cares, do what you are comfortable with. I would just suggest keeping as consistent as possible in your approach to sleep so LO doesn't get confused. And then roll with the punches when he's going through a phase  

  

  
  

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• honeydew01 member

  December 2013

  taraleanne said:

  Nicb13 said:

  Stop listening to other people and just do what works. I've rocked DS every single night since he was first born and I still do (if he lets me) at almost 2 years old. Plenty of people told me to stop but I'm so glad I never listened because it's great cuddle time and never once affected his ability to sleep all night.

  So he's waking up 2 hours after going to sleep and you rock him, then he goes down for the night? Sounds great! I mean seriously....I bet this is a phase and will pass before you know it. You won't create bad habits so just do what works RIGHT NOW and don't worry about the rest.

  What worked in the past won't work forever so just go along with how your LO is changing. "Self-soothing" has been overplayed so much and that's all parents focus on. I really wouldn't stress this at all. Your LO sounds like he's doing great for his age. DS didn't start STTN, without needing a bottle or me until 7 months old.

  OP, I think this is really good advice.  Sometimes I still rock my LO to deep sleep too, if he will let me.  How did we get to where we are now? I followed his cues. When I realized he was too distracted by me to be rocked to sleep anymore I started putting him down drowsy and relaxed but not totally asleep. Sometimes he nurses to deep sleep (rare) , sometimes he wants to be held for a long time and sometimes he literally squirms in my arms till I put him down.  I still maintain a consistent routine and approach to sleepy times but otherwise I also follow his cues/needs. Who cares if you rock him to sleep sometimes, or even ALL the time- who cares, do what you are comfortable with. I would just suggest keeping as consistent as possible in your approach to sleep so LO doesn't get confused. And then roll with the punches when he's going through a phase  

  This is us too. 

  I've read multiple sleep related books and they all discouraged rocking and nursing before being put down. I really like both and I still nurse and rock her but like PP I keep a consistent routine. She knows after being rocked and nursing she is going to be put down in her crib to sleep. Like PP, DD sometimes takes her time, sometimes she just wants to be put down in the crib so we go through the routine quickly. 

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• MamaMiccichi member

  December 2013

  Thank you ladies!! I needed to hear this! People are so pushy about this and it was starting to make me feel terrible! So far we have just followed his lead and I feel like if we start messing with it, well that he might back peddle, why fix what's not broken.

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