Warning: I know I'm being snarky and shitty today, so if you're not up for it, please just skip my post.
Terms:
Sticky Baby: In the world of missed miscarriages, ectopics, D&C's, and Misoprostol, stickiness has nothing to do with anything. It can actually cause huge problems such as tubal damage, tube removal, scar tissue, uterine and cervical damage, and infection.
Baby Dust: This implies that dust will help you make babies... Dust does not in fact make babies. High quality sperm, eggs, and sometimes a small fortune in medical testing and drugs makes babies.
Circumstances:
Questions asked on the board that are better off to a higher power. i.e. "Can I get pregnant?" "Do you think I'll have to..."
Intros when gals think they could be pregnant.
Drive-bys
Pregnant belly avatars (Seriously, you're not pg, I'm not pg; You intend to stick around; update your avatar.)
Asking for advice on how not to follow doctor's orders. You want a baby. You are paying your doctor to help you fulfill that dream. If you do not trust your doctor's advice, ask for a further explanation, or go to another doctor. (It is okay, however, to ask questions about the why's and if's of your doctor's orders.)
Demanding the support you want without offering anything back to others.
Specifically, throwing a fit, when you don't like the feedback to your questions. (We're not doctors; We don't know everything.)
End Rant
Thank you for your time, patience, and support ladies. I love and appreciate you all more than you know!
BFP 11/24/2012 MMC 1/21/2013 - BFP 3/29/2013 MC 4/8/2013 - BFP 4/25/2013 MC 5/6/2013 - 5/17/2013 Diagnosed with LPD - BFP 8/24/13 MC 9/6/2013
"The best and most beautiful things in the worldcannot be seen or even touched, they must be felt with the heart." ~ Helen Keller MAY '15 DEC. SIGGY CHALLENGE- FAV. CHRISTMAS MOVIE
Dating- 3/1/1999 ~ Married- 10/10/2004 DD#1- Sweet Pea ~ Born on her Due Date 3/1/2007 DD#2- Pumpkin ~ Due 9/29/2010 Arrived 10/1/2010 ~ BFP: 6/12/2013 EDD: 2/21/2014 NT Scan: 8/5/2013 (11w3d) MMC D&C: 8/8/2013 ~
~BFP: 3/15/2014 EDD: 11/24/2014 CP 4 weeks 4 days ~
((hugs)) I agree though. I'm kind of in one of those funks today too.
Oh, me too!!!! I hope your day gets better!!!!
As soon as I saw you, I knew an adventure was going to happen - Winnie the Pooh Married 8/22/09 Pregnancy 1- EDD 11/21/10 NMC @ 6 weeks Pregnancy 2 - Rainbow DS born 1/15/11 Pregnancy 3 - EDD 5/2/14 NMC @ 6 weeks 9/4/13 Pregnancy 4 - EDD 6/11/14 BO @ 9 weeks D&C 11/8/13 AF arrived 12/18/13 BENCH IS BURNED 2/2014 TTA until May/June WOW!!! I'm pregnant!!! BFP 6/8/14 Rainbow on the way EDD 2/14/15
If there ever comes a day where we can't be together, keep me in your heart, I'll stay there forever - Winnie the Pooh
I hope your day gets better!! I hate the belly avatar too!
As soon as I saw you, I knew an adventure was going to happen - Winnie the Pooh Married 8/22/09 Pregnancy 1- EDD 11/21/10 NMC @ 6 weeks Pregnancy 2 - Rainbow DS born 1/15/11 Pregnancy 3 - EDD 5/2/14 NMC @ 6 weeks 9/4/13 Pregnancy 4 - EDD 6/11/14 BO @ 9 weeks D&C 11/8/13 AF arrived 12/18/13 BENCH IS BURNED 2/2014 TTA until May/June WOW!!! I'm pregnant!!! BFP 6/8/14 Rainbow on the way EDD 2/14/15
If there ever comes a day where we can't be together, keep me in your heart, I'll stay there forever - Winnie the Pooh
ETA: not that I've been on the TTCAL board for 11 months - but have been TTCAL for many years and those sentiments cross into real life as well.
05/31/1997: Married DH - Began TTC right away | 08/2002: Diagnosed with PCOS, Endometriosis
10/05/2005: Adpoted DS - Funniest boy ever! 09/2007: Ectopic with rupture - lost right tube | 09/2012: Ectopic - saved the left tube 08/05/2013: BFP not ectopic | EDD: 4/22/2014 | 09/15/2013: Miscarried at home
Underwent Gastric Bypass 01/06/2014 to help with PCOS and weight. Lost 186 lbs - had to TTA for 1 year Burned the bench 01/20/15 - Medicated Cycle with Clomid and HCG trigger shot on 02/08/2015 ++++ BFP 2/17/18 ++++ EDD 10/26/2015
"Now the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, that ye may abound in hope, through the power of the Holy Ghost." ~ Romans 15:13
I agree with the random bump pregnancy pics... and the sticky baby. My sister said that to me, and I told her that I thought that it was a mean thing to say. I had a super sticky baby - so much so that it took like 2 months to miscarry totally, so I think it's ridiculous.
I am also wearing my negative hat today. It makes an appearance every now and then. I agree with everything you said, so I don't think you were out of line. It also bothers me when people say "preggers" or "preggo" cause that's also just ridiculous.
I couldn't agree more!!!!!
BFP 11/24/2012 MMC 1/21/2013 - BFP 3/29/2013 MC 4/8/2013 - BFP 4/25/2013 MC 5/6/2013 - 5/17/2013 Diagnosed with LPD - BFP 8/24/13 MC 9/6/2013
Agree with all of this ! Especially the "sticky" baby term. My baby stuck, needed a d&c so that sure wasn't the problem *sigh*
Me (30) DH (31) Married 5/13, TTC since 2/13 BFP #1 Blighted Ovum resulting in D&C on 11/1/13 BFP #2 Ectopic Pg, lap surgery on 3/12/14, R tube removed
I want to add: when posters use us as their personal search engine. We've all needed to ask questions here and there. However, when something can be easily researched online or asking their doctor and they ask us instead, it's really irritating.
I also agree with everything you've said.
TTC #1 since March 2011
BFP #1: EDD 4/16/13~~blighted ovum w/ 2 gestational sacs~~Loss on 9/18/12 BFP #2: EDD 9/3/13~~Slow HB at 1st U/S~~MMC -Loss on 2/13/13
9/13, 10/13, 1/14: letrozole + trigger + TI = All BFNs
All of my attitude was started by a "friend" on Facebook this morning, who is constantly complaining about how miserable she is with her new baby, ending her tirade with this: Adopting out a baby boy to a good home! But as soon as he's not fussy,gassy or crying we would like him back! Thanks
It made me want to punch her and steal her stupid baby... What a twat. We are no longer FB friends.
BFP 11/24/2012 MMC 1/21/2013 - BFP 3/29/2013 MC 4/8/2013 - BFP 4/25/2013 MC 5/6/2013 - 5/17/2013 Diagnosed with LPD - BFP 8/24/13 MC 9/6/2013
My biggest pet peeve is when people say their pregnancy didn't "catch" makes me livid every.single.time.
I have never heard that one...it doesn't even make any sense!
"The best and most beautiful things in the worldcannot be seen or even touched, they must be felt with the heart." ~ Helen Keller MAY '15 DEC. SIGGY CHALLENGE- FAV. CHRISTMAS MOVIE
Dating- 3/1/1999 ~ Married- 10/10/2004 DD#1- Sweet Pea ~ Born on her Due Date 3/1/2007 DD#2- Pumpkin ~ Due 9/29/2010 Arrived 10/1/2010 ~ BFP: 6/12/2013 EDD: 2/21/2014 NT Scan: 8/5/2013 (11w3d) MMC D&C: 8/8/2013 ~
~BFP: 3/15/2014 EDD: 11/24/2014 CP 4 weeks 4 days ~
I read somewhere where one person said "I'm 6 months pregnant with my 3rd, sh!t happens..." Ugh I about lost it! How dare they say that! It really made me mad!
As soon as I saw you, I knew an adventure was going to happen - Winnie the Pooh Married 8/22/09 Pregnancy 1- EDD 11/21/10 NMC @ 6 weeks Pregnancy 2 - Rainbow DS born 1/15/11 Pregnancy 3 - EDD 5/2/14 NMC @ 6 weeks 9/4/13 Pregnancy 4 - EDD 6/11/14 BO @ 9 weeks D&C 11/8/13 AF arrived 12/18/13 BENCH IS BURNED 2/2014 TTA until May/June WOW!!! I'm pregnant!!! BFP 6/8/14 Rainbow on the way EDD 2/14/15
If there ever comes a day where we can't be together, keep me in your heart, I'll stay there forever - Winnie the Pooh
I'm new, but still completely agree with you. I was actually just thinking about the "sticky" baby term the other day. It just really bothers me now. Just recently I saw someone say "sticky baby dust to you"... that's probably the worst combo of two annoying phrases.
I read somewhere where one person said "I'm 6 months pregnant with my 3rd, sh!t happens..." Ugh I about lost it! How dare they say that! It really made me mad!
On this note, I hate when people announce and say it was unexpected.
Ummmm, no it wasn't. It's not a fucking mystery on how babies are made. So uhh yeah, if you're having sex (protected or not) you should always be prepared to expect this.
BFP#4 3/17/14 - rainbowBaby BOY arrived 11/10/14 !!
My baby ended up literally being baby dust. Don't say it. It's such an empty platitude and really just minimizes what TTC after a loss is. To tell anyone who had a loss "baby dust" like it magically gives good luck is naive.
My newest pet peeve - when someone new responds to another poster with any variety of the "short and sweet stay" type responses. It's one thing to say it to someone the day they intro, it's totally another when you say it in response to a person that has responded to your intro or on the Crazy Train or in a check-in or in any other post if you do not know that person and their history. Take the time to look at a person's siggy. If you are mobile, don't tell someone you do not know that you know they will be out of here soon. If you have been her 6+ months, you know your stay is not going to be short and sweet and you don't need someone to remind you of that.
I read somewhere where one person said "I'm 6 months pregnant with my 3rd, sh!t happens..." Ugh I about lost it! How dare they say that! It really made me mad!
On this note, I hate when people announce and say it was unexpected.
Ummmm, no it wasn't. It's not a fucking mystery on how babies are made. So uhh yeah, if you're having sex (protected or not) you should always be prepared to expect this.
*pg's mentioned (not mine)*
I completely agree with you. My nephews girlfriend was on the depo shot and she got pregnant (she had three other kids from previous marriage) and he kept telling me how unexpected it was. I wanted to go to him and punch him in the face...seriously, you had sex didn't you? My sister conceived his brother on BC, he should know better.
Can in add just how much it bothers me when there are BFPs moving on from the TTA check-in. It seems like this is happening a lot lately. They can't all be condom breaks people! (Sorry if I just don't understand what the TTA check-in is for). It drives me nuts because here I am trying so hard to get (and stay) pregnant, and others are getting pregnant by accident.... happy for them, annoyed for me
Can in add just how much it bothers me when there are BFPs moving on from the TTA check-in. It seems like this is happening a lot lately. They can't all be condom breaks people! (Sorry if I just don't understand what the TTA check-in is for).
I 100% agree with this and actually referenced this in a PSA a few weeks back.
I've been TTA for nearly 8 months and by the time I'm given clearance to TTCAL again (FX that I get off the bench and the SIS comes out okay) it'll be nearly a year. So, the TTA is sort of my safe haven from all the BFP and POASing stuff that goes on on the regular board. As of late, I stay the hell out of that entire thread because of this very issues. It's a HUGE slap in the face when ladies who are admittedly TTAers move on and do not have the decency to take themselves off the list when they went back to TTC or just happened to get pregnant.
Can in add just how much it bothers me when there are BFPs moving on from the TTA check-in. It seems like this is happening a lot lately. They can't all be condom breaks people! (Sorry if I just don't understand what the TTA check-in is for).
When I used to post on the LIW check-in we had a rash of ladies who would get a BFP during their doctor ordered TTA period. Some of them were honest that they decided to ignore their doctor.
To the ladies who are saying they are TTA but are actually having unprotected sex - don't post in the TTA check-in! Do you have any idea how cruel and how big of an asshat you are being to the women who are truly TTA? If you are going to ignore your doctor then put on your big girl pants and own up to it!
Can in add just how much it bothers me when there are BFPs moving on from the TTA check-in. It seems like this is happening a lot lately. They can't all be condom breaks people! (Sorry if I just don't understand what the TTA check-in is for).
When I used to post on the LIW check-in we had a rash of ladies who would get a BFP during their doctor ordered TTA period. Some of them were honest that they decided to ignore their doctor.
To the ladies who are saying they are TTA but are actually having unprotected sex - don't post in the TTA check-in! Do you have any idea how cruel and how big of an asshat you are being to the women who are truly TTA? If you are going to ignore your doctor then put on your big girl pants and own up to it!
Can someone explain to me the issue with preggers or preggo? I get preggo because it reminds me of a pasta sauce, but preggers doesn't seem that bad. Is it just a word thing - like how some people hate the word panties or moist? Or is it actually disrespectful? I'm still pretty new and am truly asking as I don't know.
It's not a real world. You can't be "preggers".. you're pregnant
Can someone explain to me the issue with preggers or preggo? I get preggo because it reminds me of a pasta sauce, but preggers doesn't seem that bad. Is it just a word thing - like how some people hate the word panties or moist? Or is it actually disrespectful? I'm still pretty new and am truly asking as I don't know.
It's not a real world. You can't be "preggers".. you're pregnant
I don't find it cute, or funny or adorable.
100% agree. Moist and panties are actual words. Sure they might make some people cringe. Preggers and preggo though are completely made up words. You are an adult, use your big person words is my way of thinking.
Preggers/preggo sounds like something a teenager would say. If you are old enough/mature enough to be starting a family then you are old enough to use the proper terms.
This exactly.
Way back when I had a facebook friend (clearly you guys know where this is going) who would post about every ridiculous detail about her pregnancy. Status updates galore. This one particular day she had this poor me I'm so sad post about wanting a glass of wine.
In the comments section someone asked her "why?" clearly not remembering she was KU. Well her one word answer was "Preggers!!!!! lol ". Blocked.
I'm adding to the list. I hate when an intro explains that the bumpie is "young and healthy". That matters not at all, and frankly is pretty irritating.
Re: Things I HATE... after 11 months on TTCaL
Sorry you are having a rough day.
MAY '15 DEC. SIGGY CHALLENGE- FAV. CHRISTMAS MOVIE
Dating- 3/1/1999 ~ Married- 10/10/2004
DD#1- Sweet Pea ~ Born on her Due Date 3/1/2007
DD#2- Pumpkin ~ Due 9/29/2010 Arrived 10/1/2010
~ BFP: 6/12/2013 EDD: 2/21/2014 NT Scan: 8/5/2013 (11w3d) MMC D&C: 8/8/2013 ~
~BFP: 3/15/2014 EDD: 11/24/2014 CP 4 weeks 4 days ~
~BFP: 7/2/2014 EDD: 3/15/2015 CP 4 weeks ~
~BFP: 8/31/2014 EDD: 5/10/2015
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BFP#2 1/20/2014 EDD 9/28/2014, Baby Evie born on 9/23/2014 at 8:50pm. 6 lbs 15 oz!
As soon as I saw you, I knew an adventure was going to happen - Winnie the Pooh
Married 8/22/09
Pregnancy 1- EDD 11/21/10 NMC @ 6 weeks
Pregnancy 2 - Rainbow DS born 1/15/11
Pregnancy 3 - EDD 5/2/14 NMC @ 6 weeks 9/4/13
Pregnancy 4 - EDD 6/11/14 BO @ 9 weeks D&C 11/8/13
AF arrived 12/18/13
BENCH IS BURNED 2/2014
TTA until May/June
WOW!!! I'm pregnant!!! BFP 6/8/14 Rainbow on the way EDD 2/14/15
Winnie the Pooh
As soon as I saw you, I knew an adventure was going to happen - Winnie the Pooh
Married 8/22/09
Pregnancy 1- EDD 11/21/10 NMC @ 6 weeks
Pregnancy 2 - Rainbow DS born 1/15/11
Pregnancy 3 - EDD 5/2/14 NMC @ 6 weeks 9/4/13
Pregnancy 4 - EDD 6/11/14 BO @ 9 weeks D&C 11/8/13
AF arrived 12/18/13
BENCH IS BURNED 2/2014
TTA until May/June
WOW!!! I'm pregnant!!! BFP 6/8/14 Rainbow on the way EDD 2/14/15
Winnie the Pooh
BFP #1 : 3/20/13 | EDD: 12/1/13 | MC: 4/15/13
BFP #2: 1/9/14 | EDD: 9/21/14
Welcomed our rainbow bear on 8/31/14
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TTC since March 2012
BFP #1 1/29/13, EDD 10/9/13
BFP #3 8/11/14 EDD 4/22/14
09/2007: Ectopic with rupture - lost right tube | 09/2012: Ectopic - saved the left tube
08/05/2013: BFP not ectopic | EDD: 4/22/2014 | 09/15/2013: Miscarried at home
Burned the bench 01/20/15 - Medicated Cycle with Clomid and HCG trigger shot on 02/08/2015
++++ BFP 2/17/18 ++++ EDD 10/26/2015
TTC since April 2012
BFP #1, 10/03/2012 - EDD 6/15/2013 - MMC 11/15/2012 - D&C 01/04/2013
BFP #2, 04/06/2013 - EDD 12/17/2013 - MC 04/19/2013
6/12/2013 Diagnosed with Balanced Translocation (12 & 16)
IVF #1 with PGS: 10/2013: Canceled 9/27/2013 for issues with genetic lab
IVF #1.5 with PGS: 11/16/2013: Canceled. 11 eggs retrieved, 9 mature & 9 fertilized, all unhealthy embryos
IVF #2: 1/22/14: Canceled. 16 eggs retrieved, 14 mature, 7 fertilized, all unhealthy embryos
IVF #3 with PGS: 5/10/2014: Switched to FET in July. 10 eggs retrieved, 9 mature, 8 fertilized, 2 healthy embryos!
FET #1: 7/31/2014: Transferred 2 nearly perfect (6AA, 6BA) healthy embryos- BFFN
Laproscopy: 10/2014: Healthy uterus
IVF #4: 12/8/2014: Canceled. 17 eggs retrieved, 15 mature, 10 fertilized, all unhealthy embryos
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Me (30) DH (31) Married 5/13, TTC since 2/13
BFP # 3, EDD 2/21/15 * please be our rainbow*BFP #1 Blighted Ovum resulting in D&C on 11/1/13
BFP #2 Ectopic Pg, lap surgery on 3/12/14, R tube removed
BFP #2: EDD 9/3/13~~Slow HB at 1st U/S~~MMC -Loss on 2/13/13
Married August 2012. Me: 41 DH: 42
Daughter from previous marriage: 20
BFP 12/19/12: Ectopic discovered at 8 weeks, right tube removed 01/18/13
June 2013 Testing Results: Progesterone: 31.7, LH: 5, FSH: 5, Estradiol: 161
Clomid cycles Nov. 2013 and Jan, Feb, and March 2014
TTC journey over as of the end of October 2014
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Dating- 3/1/1999 ~ Married- 10/10/2004
DD#1- Sweet Pea ~ Born on her Due Date 3/1/2007
DD#2- Pumpkin ~ Due 9/29/2010 Arrived 10/1/2010
~ BFP: 6/12/2013 EDD: 2/21/2014 NT Scan: 8/5/2013 (11w3d) MMC D&C: 8/8/2013 ~
~BFP: 3/15/2014 EDD: 11/24/2014 CP 4 weeks 4 days ~
~BFP: 7/2/2014 EDD: 3/15/2015 CP 4 weeks ~
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As soon as I saw you, I knew an adventure was going to happen - Winnie the Pooh
Married 8/22/09
Pregnancy 1- EDD 11/21/10 NMC @ 6 weeks
Pregnancy 2 - Rainbow DS born 1/15/11
Pregnancy 3 - EDD 5/2/14 NMC @ 6 weeks 9/4/13
Pregnancy 4 - EDD 6/11/14 BO @ 9 weeks D&C 11/8/13
AF arrived 12/18/13
BENCH IS BURNED 2/2014
TTA until May/June
WOW!!! I'm pregnant!!! BFP 6/8/14 Rainbow on the way EDD 2/14/15
Winnie the Pooh
Ummmm, no it wasn't. It's not a fucking mystery on how babies are made. So uhh yeah, if you're having sex (protected or not) you should always be prepared to expect this.
BFP#4 3/17/14 - rainbow Baby BOY arrived 11/10/14 !!
DX: Uterine Septum - Resection 9/5/13 || MTHFR Hetero A1298C || My Chart
My newest pet peeve - when someone new responds to another poster with any variety of the "short and sweet stay" type responses. It's one thing to say it to someone the day they intro, it's totally another when you say it in response to a person that has responded to your intro or on the Crazy Train or in a check-in or in any other post if you do not know that person and their history. Take the time to look at a person's siggy. If you are mobile, don't tell someone you do not know that you know they will be out of here soon. If you have been her 6+ months, you know your stay is not going to be short and sweet and you don't need someone to remind you of that.
The day the Bump died - Jasper is wise
*pg's mentioned (not mine)*
I completely agree with you. My nephews girlfriend was on the depo shot and she got pregnant (she had three other kids from previous marriage) and he kept telling me how unexpected it was. I wanted to go to him and punch him in the face...seriously, you had sex didn't you? My sister conceived his brother on BC, he should know better.
"It's, not, where you are, it's where you're going,
And it's, not, about the things you've done, it's what you're doing, now"
TTC Journey Began 8/12
BFP #1 11/9/12, MMC/D&C 12/21/12 @ 9w2d, EDD 7/24/13
SAs: 2%-3% Morph - RE Official Diagnosis Unexplained
BFN = IUI #1 (Clomid) | IUI #2 (Letrozole)
BFP #2 4/19/14 = IUI #3 (Letrozole)
Expecting Our Elf 12/27/14
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EDD 7/1/14 ...MMC 11/22/13...D&C 11/25/13
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7th & 8th IUI (follistim & ovidrel) 6/24 & 6/25....BFN
To the ladies who are saying they are TTA but are actually having unprotected sex - don't post in the TTA check-in! Do you have any idea how cruel and how big of an asshat you are being to the women who are truly TTA? If you are going to ignore your doctor then put on your big girl pants and own up to it!
The day the Bump died - Jasper is wise
=D>
This exactly.
Way back when I had a facebook friend (clearly you guys know where this is going) who would post about every ridiculous detail about her pregnancy. Status updates galore. This one particular day she had this poor me I'm so sad post about wanting a glass of wine.
In the comments section someone asked her "why?" clearly not remembering she was KU. Well her one word answer was "Preggers!!!!! lol ". Blocked.
BFP#1 9/9/12 -- EDD 5/14/13 -- MMC 10/10/12 Miso 10/19/12
BFP #2 9/17/13 -- EDD 5/25/14-- CP confirmed 9/21/13
BFP #3 2/1/14 -- EDD 10/5/14 -- NMC 2/10/14
Dx: low progesterone & mild hypothyroidism
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