What would you do?

twinkletoes3126 · December 2013

I need advice. I invited my friend and her daughter to my sons first birthday party. They came and brought a gift. This weekend is her daughters first birthday party and we weren't invited. Should I still get the little girl a gift?

gollywollypog · December 2013

No, they are probably having a small family party. I assume, anyway. If you are close enough and you really want to get her something, go for it. But not because they got your son a gift.

SJandVA · December 2013

I think it depends. Are you super close friends and will you be seeing them near her daughters birthday? If so maybe you could get her a small gift. If not, I don't think it's necessary to.

twinkletoes3126 · December 2013

SJandVA said:
I think it depends. Are you super close friends and will you be seeing them near her daughters birthday? If so maybe you could get her a small gift. If not, I don't think it's necessary to.

We are pretty close. We see each other a few times a month. They are actually coming over Tuesday for a play date.

I have no idea who she invited to the party or why I wasn't invited. I'm trying to not be hurt about it. It doesn't help though that she talks about it all the time and failed to mention that we weren't invited. She's told me the theme, showed me an invitation, asked if she could steal my banner idea, etc. I don't mind getting her daughter a gift but I worry that it might awkward when I give it to her.

SJandVA · December 2013

If that's the case I think you should buy her something if you want but I wouldn't feel obligated. I'm sorry you're not invited. Maybe it's like @gollywollypog said and she's haveing a small family party. This has happened to me before, I know it's hard not to have hurt feelings.

twinkletoes3126 · December 2013

SJandVA said:
If that's the case I think you should buy her something if you want but I wouldn't feel obligated. I'm sorry you're not invited. Maybe it's like @gollywollypog said and she's haveing a small family party.
This has happened to me before, I know it's hard not to have hurt feelings.

Thanks. I'll probably do something small. And I'm guessing/hoping its just family. I guess I'll find out because she posts everything on Facebook.

gollywollypog · December 2013

@laurenanthony2009 I bet it is and I hope so too. :-*

piphigirl · December 2013

I think if you'll see them sometime soon, you should bring a small gift. Regardless of party invites or reciprocation, it's polite to recognize your friend's daughter's big day!

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Reilly626 · December 2013

Yes I would.

BluepointToasted · December 2013

When I was a kid birthday parties were always just family. I'll bet that's the way they do things. You could still get a small gift if you'd like, but not obligated to.