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breaking up with daycare provider

RyleeCareyRyleeCarey member
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Both of my boys go to the same daycare. My oldest has been there since he was about 7 months old and my youngest has been there since I came off maternity leave. I do not question the care that the provider gives to my children but there are certain situations that are making us want to switch to a new daycare. She recently shortened her hours to closing at 5, which I don't get off work until 5. She has many dachsunds (weiner dogs), around 5, that always bark when you come to drop off and pick up LOs. Also she and my husband just don't seem to get a long. Needless, to say he is the one that really wants to switch. I am currently pregnant with twins and will be a SAHM once these babies are born so I really don't think we need to make such a big fuss in switching. The babies are due in march and will probably come early so the boys would only be there for a few more months. Should I go with my husband's gut on wanting to switch or tell him we should really just suck it up? Not a lot of daycares are going to be excited to take two kids for a couple months I can imagine and I really struggle finding openings for my youngest because he isn't a year old yet. (My husband recently got very upset with her because our oldest came home with green fingernail polish on)
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Re: breaking up with daycare provider

  • 82Sonia82Sonia member
    edited December 2013

    Can you hire a short term nanny until you're off work for good?  I can't imagine being able to find a good long-term daycare provider/center on such short notice. 

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  • FemShepFemShep member
    Before you plan on switching, see what daycare is available in your area. Where I live (Boston), the wait list for an infant spot is 6+ months, so it wouldn't even be an option. Assuming you can find a place that will take both boys starting in January, I'd have to really love it in order to switch for a few months. It seems like much less disruption, in an already-crazy time, to keep the kids with their current provider assuming you're happy with her care.
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  • jf198400jf198400 member
    If you and your DH can find a way to pickup by 5 then I would stay where you are. It's such a short time to make a switch.
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  • jasminelorraine20jasminelorraine20 member
    I would suck it up for a just a few more months. If the worst thing that has happened is DS with green fingernail polish- I think I could live with that. I could see how her closing at 5 is of inconvenience to you though. Like a PP said, if DH can get your LO's before 5- I would stick it out.
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  • LoCarbLoCarb member
    I would suck it up for a few months. Less adjustment will be better for the boys. Do you plan to have any help during the 1st yr with the twins?  You can look into hiring a mothers helper or nanny now and slowly make the transition over the next few months.
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  • financialdivafinancialdiva member

    First, I would ask for no more nail polish.

    Second, I would use this as motivation to start looking. I'm not sure how old your oldest is, but you may want to start looking at pre-schools right? And, maybe something with part time or drop in care, because if you're about to have twins, and your youngest isn't even a year, that's a lot to handle! You may need to drop the older two off at daycare two days a week, especially at first.

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  • sillygirliosillygirlio member

    I'm currently a daycare provider, and I've worked with small children for ten years, so I'm going to put it to you straight.  There are MANY terrible daycare situations in the world.  If you're biggest problem with this woman is that she has barking dogs and puts fingernail polish on your son... I think you take a pretty big risk in leaving.  Those are really trivial complaints.  This is about your KIDS.  If your children are happy to be there, keep them there... especially with the impact of twin looming.  Things are about to get crazy.  Your children don't need to be shuffled from provider to provider over green fingernails, your husband may need to grow up a little and simply ask the provider not to do that again, though I suspect she did it to make your son happy.  Little kids don't attach gender roles to such things, they just know it looks fun and that they're not being included.  I would want my child included, but that is me.

     

    Now, the fact that she moved her closing time to a time before you're available to pick them up is questionable and suggests that maybe she wouldn't mind too much if you left, but if she's still being good to your kids, and not charging you incredible late fees, I'd stick it out.  Unless you're able to lean on family, you likely aren't going to find a QUALITY child care provider who will be willing or able to take an infant for three months.

    One final thing, adjustment to new daycare can be a terrible experience.  I've had 3 year olds who cried all day for a month when they moved and left a much loved provider.  It's stressful for the parents, the kids and the provider. 

    I just don't think moving is a good idea unless there is more to the story than you put out in the OP, but I wish you good luck in your decision!

     

     

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