September 2013 Moms

XP...MIL over feeding?

I returned to work a week ago and my mil is watching my 3 month old baby...she is with her from 6:00-3:30 and she has been feeding her 18-26 oz in that time period...I know she's over feeding her but I can't seem to convince her of it...I can't keep up with the volume of milk demanded, and im worried about how over feeding could hurt my daughter...I believe she seems to think that any time my baby fusses she needs to eat...she swears she's doing paced feedings and my LO is not spitting up but I don't believe her, especially since she smells like spit up when I pick her up...what damage could she be doing to my baby? She's not sttn anymore-could that be related? Any advice how to gently approach this and solve this problem?
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Re: XP...MIL over feeding?

  • I did look at that calculator which is why I got the idea that she was over feeding her so much..she is still eating the same on the weekend but not nearly as much in the evenings now...and she seems to be constantly straining and pulling at her tummy
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  • She is probably overfeeding, as the daily average is 25oz. It is easy to overfeed a baby, so she may not even realize it or think she's doing it. I'm not back at work yet, but one suggestion I made to my mom was to start with 3.5-4oz in the bottle and feed that (paced feed). If she still seems hungry, burp/play/distract for 10-15min (to give the food a chance to set in), then feed another ounce or so if she is still hungry. Maybe try that?

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  • I think this is all good advice. My mil also watches my son who is 3 months next week for about the same amount of time. He only eats abouts 10-12 oz during that time, so that does sound like quite a bit to me. Of course all babies are different though. If you really want her to stop feeding him as much, you could just send fewer oz. with him.

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  • AbbyMMM said:

    Maybe you could ask her what she's taking a hunger cues - maybe you could suggest some other cues your LO has. Mine starts to fuss if he's bored and wants to explore the apartment

    Exactly! I tried to tell her that but she doesn't think I know what I'm talking about :(
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  • dhaueisen said:

    Could she be in a growth spurt? It is a large volume of milk in that amount of time but babies can temporarily eat a lot and stop sttn during a growth spurt and then go back to eating less and sleeping better. Also, does LO take a pacifier? She may just want to suck on something for comfort and may take a pacifier instead of constantly eating for comfort. Do you use slow flow nipples on the bottles? Too fast of flow could be causing her to overeat as well. As far as harming her, what is it that you are worried about? If she is eating too much and giving herself belly aches and spitting up her feedings then I would just try to educate MIL on how to slow down feedings and recognize when LO is full. Maybe spend time with MIL and have her do some feedings when you are around and maybe you can see what is causing her to overfeed. If you are just worried about LO gaining too much weight then I wouldn't worry. Fat babies = healthy babies, its pretty hard for a baby this age to be too fat, so don't worry about it unless your pediatrician has concerns. It will melt away once she starts running around :)

    Thank you for the great suggestions :)
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  • ginamarie1005ginamarie1005 member
    edited December 2013
    This happened with my daycare provider as well. She was feeding him 4 oz every 2 hours. I couldn't keep up! After that first week, I pumped & gave him bottles all weekend to see if he actually needed that much. If he fussed, I would offer the pacifier or walk around w him, etc. and he would be fine. He lasted 3-4 hours for me. On Monday, I told her how long he was lasting for me and to please try to other ways to calm him, such as the pacifier. It worked and now he has three 4oz bottles throughout that time.

    Eta: he's there from 7am-4pm
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