Official introduction

walker14 · December 2013

Hi,

I wanted to introduce myself. I've been over on the Infertility board, but think it's time to move over here. After a failed IVF a few months ago, my RE discovered that my uterine abnormalities are too great to sustain a pregnancy, or even get pregnant. He does not recommend doing another IVF cycle, and instead has suggested we move on to finding a GC.

We're taking a little break before really beginning this process in earnest after the holidays, but I am researching now and trying to read as much as I can. I have so many questions that I would love help with, or if there is a FAQ section of this board, if someone could point me to that, I would appreciate it.

I'd love to hear thoughts on having a known GC vs. going through an agency and being matched that way. We are thinking of asking my SIL to be our GC, but I'm not sure how she'll feel about it. I know there are many pros and cons to both of these options, and that cost is a factor as well. Does anyone know what the cost difference would be (roughly)?

Any stories of others' experiences would be great to hear. Thanks so much.

lincoln79 · December 2013

welcome to the board, sorry you have to be here.

we started pursuing GC after our third m/c in september.

most women on this board are using donor sperm, egg, or embryo but there are some of us pursuing GCs.

we had a colleague of mh offer to be a GC for us and so that is what we are pursuing. i got most of my info reading a ton of blogs and message boards.

in general, a GC needs to have had a child on her own and pass psychological and medical screening.

feel free to ask specific questions as they come up for you and your partner.

cost varies widely depending on the arrangement.

feel free to message me if you have other questions....

liz4paws · December 2013

Welcome to the board!

Lacyj67 · December 2013

Hi I saw your story on the IF boards. Sorry that is a hard card to be dealt and it does take take a while to get the emotionally side of all this of moving forward so good luck and enjoy your break.

Mama-Bear · December 2013

Good luck on your new road to parenthood. If you have any questions from the GC side LMK, I delivered a little boy for a wonderful couple this past May. Your biggest cost savings is going to be compensation and an agency fee if you were to use an agency (so I'd guess around $40k give or take depending on which agency and if you're comfortable with a first time carrier or if you'd rather have an experienced carrier). When you're ready I would suggest looking on a few surrogate forums such as: surromomsonline.com and allaboutsurrogacy.com

socialwkrsweetie · December 2013

We are new to all of this as well but I know in Boston the agency our RE recommended estimated the cost to be between 70-90k. I nearly had a heart attack. We are hopefully going to have one of our best friends be our carrier. Otherwise this would not be an option for us. My RE had originally said it was 25-30k so it was a big difference! Good luck!

hopeby2015 · December 2013

Sorry I dont much about GC but just want to welcome and good luck with it all!

DoulaRaVenMa · December 2013

Welcome & I am sorry for all your TTC trouble you have had.
My heart goes out to all of you & that was why I became a GC.
It might be cheaper if you SIL is your GC if she does not want comp, but there would still be fees like attorney & such, even if she does nit want comp. But like others had said its allot cheaper
I wish you the best of luck on this journey!!

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