You will make it

ashleighlt · December 2013

I jut wanted to say to all the new mothers of multiples out their you will make it! I'm sitting on the couch, at 5am pumping for my babies, before i head to work, watching them on the monitore and i can not help but feel so madley in love with them. They are 5minths old, sttn on most nights, and are such happy and healthy babies. I still have very vivid memories of the early days and thought that people who posted about how much easier it gets we're crazy. However now that I am living it I know it is true. I want to say you will servive, you will get a little more sleep, and you will feel like you have your life under control, not all the time but more time than less. Hang in there. There is light at the end of the tunnel.

sasky · December 2013

Like.

I'll be honest, as someone early on in pregnancy, this board sometimes freaks me the eff out. Not that I fault people for being honest or venting or looking for advice. But it's nice to hear things like this sometimes.

Glad things are better for you!

lwatkins12 · December 2013

Thanks for the encouragement. I just survived another night of hell with one of mine. He's fussy and fights my breast at nearly every nursing because he tired himself out so much. My husband and I have never argued and snapped at each other like we are now. I'm finding it very hard to enjoy these 7 week old boys. I'm just grateful the weeks are going by really fast.

KatieGummow · December 2013

Thank you for this.

jmiller79 · December 2013

Thank you. My twins are 11 days old and I'm not sleeping much

ashleighlt · December 2013

Keep up the good work, moms! Your husband and you will continue to work through those challenging times (we too argue more than we ever did) as long as you remember to apologies, that you love each other and continue to work as a team your relationship will stay strong. You will soon have more good times than bad with your new babies and life will once again be "ok"

KimCousino · December 2013

It is great of you to share this!! Our babies are 2.5 months old and it's already soo much better for us. DD will sttn at times and DS will only get up once.

DH and I had a rough first few weeks as well. We were always arguing about who did more and just every stupid thing. We made it through & I'm positive you will too! Once the babies started sleeping and eating better, things between us got better too. Good luck!!

StacyH0507 · December 2013

Thank you

TheDairyQueenx3 · December 2013

So nice to see a positive post! I would also like to add in for those who haven't had their babies yet, it's not always hard. I have a toddler and my twins are now a month old and I have no family around to help but we haven't had hardly any struggles. Sure some nights I'm sleepy (tandem nursing has been a saving grace in allowing for a quick night time feed then back to bed) but I have very calm quiet babies who adapted to a routine extremely well from the very start. DH and I instantly got into a rhythm and so far so good! I know it's not easy for everyone and not everyone has easy going babies but it does happen! And as pp has said even if it is a struggle in the beginning it does get better!

ballygirl · December 2013

Thank you for the encouraging words. My girls are 8 weeks. I felt like I was drowning for the first 6 weeks or so, even with a lot of help from my family. Each week has been a little easier and I'm finally starting to feel a little more confident and more like myself.

Scorpgirl444 · December 2013

You'll totally make it. :-)

Mine are just about 17 months now (on Friday) and I have been doing it on my own since they were just over 8 months. No matter how hard it is, just know it will get better.

We still have our random meltdowns...especially my son, but now we're in the hugs and kisses phase. No matter where we are my son wants to give me lots of kisses and after every diaper change I get a hug from both. Also hearing the random mama's is also fun and heart warming.

It's also crazy. Like I said, meltdowns. Also lots of co-playing and also playing on their own. They come to me to read them books. They come to me just to sit in my lap and chill for a bit. I also get random pots and pans sometimes. They are starting to bring me their plate when it is empty so that I can put it in the dishwasher. Sometimes they even leave their stuff by the dishwasher which is kinda funny.

One word of advice...one will become more aggressive than the other. For me it's my daughter. She's 2 inches shorter and 4lbs lighter but she drags him around by his shirt and even pulls his clothes off sometimes. She likes to steal his toys which makes him come crying to me. Because of this I've had to teach taking turns much sooner than they really understand but it seems to be working...kinda. lol

No matter what...have fun! You will get your sleep back, I promise. Mine are down from 7:30 until 6:30 consistently. Sometimes they even sleep til 7 or 7:30! :-) You will miss the days they were really little. Personally, I love this age. I just can't wait until they have some real words so I know what the heck they are talking about. lol

Good luck moms!!!! You can do it!!!

Brummy14 · December 2013

Truth!

1) You adjust. You don't really need 8 hours of sleep. I promise.

2) It does get better. Granted, trying to pump with one very mobile baby at 13m/11adj (one still lagging a bit...) is borderline impossible, but thankfully I don't find myself in that situation by myself very often.

I remember days I was in tears because it seemed like someone else was always in tears. Now they're super, super fun (mostly).