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Discipline

JulesETJulesET member
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DS is starting to be a terror. He is awful to the dogs and will hit, pull their hair and tails and just torture them. He is also starting to hit me and will head butt me. I always tell him no and will sometime try to move him and sit him down somewhere else. I try to tell him to be gentle but nothing helps and it is only getting worse now with the new baby. Has anyone started using a discipline method that seems to be working or is he still too young and I just have to keep talking and redirecting. I'm at a loss. Thanks

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  • aylafsu88aylafsu88 member
    LO has a tendency to be rough. She hits and pulls a lot. At DC and at home we tell her gentle touches, take her hand and show her how to touch gently. Sometimes it works and sometimes it does not. If not we take her away from the situation and re-direct. I have not tried time outs yet but will in the future.
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  • EandIMommy86 EandIMommy86 member
    I've started saying don't touch. If she continues, I put her arms at her side and say no firmly and then redirect. Just me saying no and not smiling makes her cry though. She's starting to slowly understand don't touch. She forgets all about it once I redirect.
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  • Barefoot84Barefoot84 member
    I'm currently reading Peaceful Parents, Happy Kids, a positive discipline book, and it has helped with our issues, such as throwing food, tantrums when we don't want to take her to the park when she asks, etc. It works for us, and fits into what I want from my role as a parent. The author has a blog, ahaParenting, that has much of the same information on it, so if you're interested, you can Google it.
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    Bliz1712 said:
    aylafsu88 said:
    LO has a tendency to be rough. She hits and pulls a lot. At DC and at home we tell her gentle touches, take her hand and show her how to touch gently. Sometimes it works and sometimes it does not. If not we take her away from the situation and re-direct. I have not tried time outs yet but will in the future.
    I try this a lot and more often than not she responds with hitting me harder.  So I do like PP and either redirect, ignore, or I'm about to try a timeout.  If I can I catch her hand in the act and firmly say NO we don't hit, that hurts.
    @Bliz1712 I know what you mean!  Sometimes it does not work and she thinks it is funny so she hits me harder. If that is the case I re-direct or get up and walk away. It seems to work well with animals but that is probably because she has limited exposure to them. I wish these kids were easier to figure out!
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  • zyaszyas member
    I'm having a hard time with this right now too. If I say "No" very sternly she thinks its either hilarious and keeps doing what she's doing or she screams and throws a giant fit and keeps doing what she's doing. If my H says "No" she stops right away and the he tells her she's a good girl and she smiles and claps her hands. Sometimes all my H does is say "No..." and gives her the "look". She stares back at him but she stops what she was doing right away then he praises her and it works every single time. I've tried all his tactics but she is completely different with me, it's so frustrating. 

    Regarding a time out, I don't think she'll understand that yet and there is no way she will sit still in anyplace that we put her. She also doesn't understand the word "sorry" yet or "please" & "thank you". 

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  • lkamenkolkamenko member
    It is a hard age we are getting in to. You just have to be patient and consistent with what you are doing, but be prepared that whatever you do will not work 2 times out of 3. I agree with PP that he might get a little more aggressive or crunky because he is jealous and adjusting to a new baby.
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  • JulesETJulesET member
    Thanks ladies. I don't think he would understand timeout and I KNOW he wouldn't sit still anyway. I guess I will keep telling him no and redirecting. Oh the joys of toddlerhood.

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  • lewispmlewispm member

    K has started climbing everything despite knowing good and well he is not allowed to. He will go to the object and raise up his leg like he is about to climb and look at me with this mischievous grin and not get down until I go physically take him down and then he is right back up. He got to thinking it was a fun game, so I started going over to where he is and removing his leg from the object and holding it down on the ground for up to 30 secs while he tried to pull away. He does not like when I do this at all, so the game of "I'm about to climb this, come stop me" is no longer fun. I started doing this maybe 3 days ago and there is already a huge difference and he no longer tries to climb some of the things he used to!

    Point: I think it is definitely not too soon to start discipline. I haven't read the other responses yet, but I know time out is working for some moms on here (not for us quite yet). Also, when K is aggressive towards the dogs I usually grab his hand and have him slowly, gently stroke the dog while saying "gentle, gentle" and praising him. It is helping a little and I can tell he gets it, but he still has to be reminded a lot.

    Good luck and I'm sure it will get better, Hang in there!

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