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Separation Anxiety

suzienickles36suzienickles36 member
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First time, working mom here of a 13 month old boy. My child is normally so pleasant and happy to socialize and see friends. Starting this week it has been pure hell dropping him off at daycare. He cries so much and nothing appeases him. *mom guilt is coming on strong* It doesn't change when we get home either. I can barely do anything without him trying to crawl up me/be attached to me. Even when I am holding him he still isn't happy at times. Help! I need some breathing room and want to try to make drop offs more pleasant. I know it's not the teacher because he has a blast after I am gone. I have tried distraction, just leaving quickly, holding him longer, etc. Any advice would be great! 
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Re: Separation Anxiety

  • DiveFrogDiveFrog member

    I try to look at separation anxiety as feedback that I am doing a great job as a mom. It means DD is appropriately emotionally bonded and attached to me. That means I am a success! It helps me to push any guilt out of my  head.

    I also know that by me leaving I am not neglecting a true need of hers, she is just unhappy that we have to be separated and doesn't have any other way to express those feelings.

    DD has had long phases of separation anxiety, and all the techniques in the world were not going to always work to alleviate them. I needed to adjust my perspective on them or the guilt could have been crushing.

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  • mrsshawnavanbmrsshawnavanb member
    I've read to try telling them "mommy will be back by ___" and supposedly after awhile, they will learn that when you say Bye and when you'll return, you will in fact return! good luck
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  • emberlee3emberlee3 member
    12-18 months is usually the worst age for separation anxiety, plus the beginning of having trouble with transitions, in general.  Give a quick, warm goodbye.  Tell LO when you will see him again.  Clinginess at home is normal.  DD does this to me all the time. 
    DS born 8/8/09 and DD born 6/12/12.
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