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Worst month of my life.

EML2011EML2011 member
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Let me start out by saying I don't post much but I do lurk. This is more of a vent than anything so sorry in advance!

A little over a month ago my father had a severe stroke after what was supposed to be an easy surgery. He spent the next several weeks on a ventilator and fighting several infections. He passed away the week before thanksgiving (and the day before my bday). In the time that he was in the hospital, I would spend 3-5 days a week with him and my mom (approx 2 hours away).

The weekend before he passed we moved from our apartment ( that we discovered had bed bugs 2 days before we moved) into a house that we had been trying to fix up. So now we have a half way fixed up house, a bunch of unpacked boxes, and the fun of trying to get rid of bed bugs before they take over the new house!

Now the kicker is that my DH has been in the hospital since Monday. He has a complicated medical history (and this is a new hospital for us) so I've been here pretty much the whole time. I have been trying to rest and eat as well as possible, but it's been really difficult.

I'm just not sure how much more I can take! If you made it this far thanks for listening!

Me: Endo, PCOS, septated uterus (mostly removed)

DH: perfect

Started TTC in June 2011

Baby boy born 3/17/2014

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  • craftiemommiecraftiemommie member
    I'm sorry to hear what a hard time this has been. Hoping DH is doing better soon :(
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  • craftiemommiecraftiemommie member
    Oh and call an exterminator - its expensive yes;, but you can't get rid of them totally any other way. DH had a battle with them before we met
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  • kmeyers0611kmeyers0611 member
    I'm sorry you're going through such a rough time! I will keep you and your family in my prayers. I agree that you should call an exterminator! At least that is one problem you can get under control. Just take it one day at a time and focus on the things you can change and pray about the ones you cannot! If you are not a pray-er then just focus on breathing and making yourself as calm as you can.


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  • EML2011EML2011 member
    @craftiemommie thanks for your reply. We've called the exterminator and they have already been out once, but they wanted to come back out after we have all of the boxes unpacked and clothes washed (which is nowhere near being done)

    Me: Endo, PCOS, septated uterus (mostly removed)

    DH: perfect

    Started TTC in June 2011

    Baby boy born 3/17/2014

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  • babylimasbabylimas member
    I'm so sorry for the loss of your father. You have had a very tough time. I am amazed you are still holding strong with everything going on. Hugs to you and stop lurking because the ladies here are amazing at support!
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  • jazzyexpojazzyexpo member
    I'm so sorry for your loss and hope DH gets better soon. We went through a close death my first pregnancy, so I really understand where you are. Hang in there. T&P
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  • kelley72kelley72 member

    So sorry for your loss, hope your husband gets well quickly, and you get settled in to your new home.  - That is alot for anyone to undertake in a short period of time especially a pregnant woman- be kind to yourself! 

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  • ceh789ceh789 member
    I am so sorry for the loss of your father; mine passed away last year under similar circumstances and it was so hard.  I can't imagine going through all that additional stuff while dealing with that loss.  I hope your husband recovers soon, and definitely call an exterminator - bedbugs are not something to DIY.
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  • angelsnightangelsnight member
    I'm so sorry for the loss of your dad, my heart breaks for you.  In the months/year after my mom died everything seemed to go wrong and there were a ton of changes in my life.  It was really hard, though I can't imagine going through that and being pregnant as well.  T&Ps to you, and I hope your husband is out of the hospital and doing well again soon.
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  • WoodShopGirlWoodShopGirl member
    Condolences on your loss and hang in there.

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  • mcfife09mcfife09 member
    Dang, this is a lot to go through in a month. I hope things start looking up. Hang in there! Thoughts and prayers for you. 
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  • jwls84jwls84 member
    I am so sorry for the loss of your father! I know how hard that is! Thinking of you an your family!
    I am also sorry about your husband wig sick in the hospital and I hope he gets better soon!

    As much as it sucks you have to try to unpack everything quickly because a few bed bugs can turn in to an infestation so quickly and it is way harder and more expensive to get rid of them!
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  • katykatykatykatykatykaty member
    I am so sorry for the loss of your dad.  I hope that your husband recovers soon and gets to go home to a bed bug-free house.  Thinking of you guys. 



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  • legallygingerlegallyginger member
    I'm so, so sorry about your dad. I can't imagine going through that while pregnant. Your month would have me hiding under my bed until LO was born. You're a strong lady for keeping it together. 

    T&Ps that your H gets better soon, and the exterminator can take care of the bed bugs! 
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  • EML2011EML2011 member
    Thank you all for your responses! This really is a great group of ladies! Thankfully my mil has taken the day off to be at the hospital to give me the chance to shower, rest, and get a little unpacking done. Fortunately, most of the boxes left to be unpacked weren't in the apartment (they were in storage) but it does still seem like a perfect place for any of those little shits to hide!

    Me: Endo, PCOS, septated uterus (mostly removed)

    DH: perfect

    Started TTC in June 2011

    Baby boy born 3/17/2014

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  • PinupMomma08PinupMomma08 member
    I'm so sorry for your loss :( I hope things get better soon.
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  • ndpoolendpoole member
    I'm so sorry to read about your recent experiences including the loss of your father. Are there family members you can call for assistance? Friends?


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  • theluckiest9theluckiest9 member
    I'm so sorry for your loss and everything else you're going through. I hope your DH is well enough to discharge soon. Have they given any indication of how long he'll be there?? T & Ps to you!

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  • EML2011EML2011 member
    @ndpoole thankfully most of his family lives very close and has been wonderful helping with the dogs, bringing food to the hospital and just helping out in general. @theluckiest9 he will most likely need another blood transfusion tonight, but there is some talk about possibly discharging him tomorrow, which would be great! He had a similar issue about 3 years ago and was in the hospital for over 2 weeks due to complications so we are praying he does better this time around!

    Me: Endo, PCOS, septated uterus (mostly removed)

    DH: perfect

    Started TTC in June 2011

    Baby boy born 3/17/2014

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  • benevolentforcebenevolentforce member
    I am so sorry for the loss of your dad. Here's hoping DH is better soon, the house/boxes are now bug bed-free, and that you can get some rest soon. Hang in there, lady. You're amazing to be coping with this so well.
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  • BethRN1987BethRN1987 member
    Sorry for you loss and that your husband is in the hospital. Sending thoughts your way!
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  • GhjinnGhjinn member
    Oh momma I am so sorry you've had such a challenging month. So very sorry to hear about your father. You'll be in my thoughts and I'm hoping things turn around for you soon. Keep the vents coming here if you need!!
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  • Jess11019Jess11019 member
    Sending thoughts and prayers your way and so sorry for your loss. You are a very strong woman to have no already lost it try and hang in there
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  • amholley1amholley1 member
    Thoughts, prayers, and internet hugs for you love. I am so sorry that you've had to handle all of this, you sound like an incredibly strong woman. Hang in there and i hope everything starts getting a little sunnier for you



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  • aguy2011aguy2011 member
    Thoughts out to you during this difficult time. Losing a parent is rough, couldn't imagine going through that pregnant. Just take things day by day and lean on those who love you now.
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  • sopranoalisopranoali member
    Ugh this sucks!!! Do you have any sort of support system? People who can help you? Agree with suggestions about the exterminator. I'm not sure of your financial situation, but you could consider hiring a caregiver or helper to help you organize/get your life together (house) so you can focus on your husband. NO ONE has the emotional bandwidth to deal with all you're dealing with for long!
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  • stepheverhartstepheverhart member
    I'm so sorry for all you are going through. Your family is in my prayers.
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  • EML2011EML2011 member
    @sopranoali my SIL has been at the house all day helping unpack/doing laundry so that will help a lot! It doesn't look like he will be going home today, but there's a good chance that tomorrow will be the day!

    Me: Endo, PCOS, septated uterus (mostly removed)

    DH: perfect

    Started TTC in June 2011

    Baby boy born 3/17/2014

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