So my FIL is currently overseas as a pilot. He somehow managed to get approval through the military to come home the last week of November and to stay through the first week of December. My due date is Dec 15th. My MIL has been hinting around that she would love for my FIL to be able to meet his granddaughter before deploying back overseas. Well..today, she finally came out and told me that I needed to ask my Dr about inducing me a few days before I'm 39 weeks so FIL will be here. Of course I told her that as much as I would love for FIL to be here (And that's the God honest truth), that I'm not comfortable with that. Babies need to bake as long as they can and even though it would be another 6 months or more before FIL would get to meet her, I still feel like it's a selfish reason to be induced and to risk complications.
Now, MIL is upset with me and not wanting to see me because "It breaks her heart to know that her husband won't get to meet his first granddaughter until she's almost 1". Am I really being that selfish? My H completely supports my decision and understands why I don't want to be induced. I just feel like the biggest piece of crap for telling her no. I'm sticking to my guns and I won't get the induction ( My Dr won't even induce until 39 weeks unless there are medical reasons anyways) so I'm not worried about caving. What is some advice that you ladies can give me...if any? I get that it's just a week but baby will come when she is ready.
Re: MIL is pushing for me to be induced early...
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ETA I think when you talk to her, you should mention all of the increased risks for you if you are induced, too! It's not a harmless action.
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Thanks ladies! You all make me feel loads better.
Thankfully, no...my Dr won't even consider inducing me until I'm at least 39 weeks and she won't even do that unless there are issues that need to be taken care of. The only people I know of that she has induced early were induced due to pre-e or other life threatening medical problems.
H is pretty upset with her. H told her that she could support my decision or just be grumpy. Either way, she's not getting her way. I even got to talk to my FIL and he completely understands why I said no. Which also made me feel lots better. As much as I would love for him to be here...unless LO decides to come then on her own, it's just not whats best for either of us. I had to be medically induced at 41+1 with my son. I was high risk and the Dr didn't want me to go too far over. I was thankful I was given that week. An induction is not the route I want to take this pregnancy. I want a natural labor.
Anyways, thanks again ladies. I'm so glad that I found this board.
DS, May 2011
Mom to Carter (6), and Calianne (1).
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I am so glad your husband is sticking up for you!
If I were in your shoes I would probably try nipple stimulation in order to see if it gets the labor going (if the baby is not ready it wont work). However, follow your gut. This is your baby and you need to be completly comfortable with your decision!
Good luck
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Thanks ladies. Thankfully she has backed off completely. This is baby #3 for us. We have a 18 month old son and a angel baby boy who would have been 3 this year. I had to be induced with our 18 month old at 41+1. I fought to go to 42 weeks but my OB wouldn't let me go that far since I was considered high risk.
I'm thinking that baby #3 will come early due to things that are happening but I won't do anything to help that along. She comes when she's ready to come!