January 2014 Moms

Mental block- maybe TMI?

I am 36wks, feeling plenty of vaginal pressure & occasional pain. I want so badly to have "sexy time" as you all call it ;) with my hubby, but I can't get past this feeling! Any suggestions? Anyone else struggling to DTD because it feels all wrong down there?? TIA...

Re: Mental block- maybe TMI?

  • Yep...I told DH last night it's exit only from now on.
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  • I've told DH that the next time we have sex will be to induce labor. But for me it's more the contractions afterwards that hurt so much! On the other hand, baby was breech yesterday, so might not get another vaginal birth anyway.
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  • Try different positions. Sometimes I feel that way if I'm on top, but if we switch to doggie (really kind if downward doggie because I will lean forward) the pressure isn't as bad. The downward dog, I feel, uses gravity to relieve that pressure.
  • I had a midwife appt a couple days ago. She did a quick internal and exclaimed "yep, there's his head right there. I'll have to go under it to get to your cervix!"

    Um yeah, sex is done.
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  • Try different positions. Sometimes I feel that way if I'm on top, but if we switch to doggie (really kind if downward doggie because I will lean forward) the pressure isn't as bad. The downward dog, I feel, uses gravity to relieve that pressure.
    I agree! We usually start off with a back rub while I am in this position. It feels like it gives things time to shift away and relieve the pressure, then we DTD in this position. With tons of lube, it has been very comfortable even at 36 weeks! 

      
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  • As much as I want to get down and dirty... I can't get past the feeling that baby is gonna slide out any minute. It already feels like I'm hauling a bowling ball between my legs.


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  • My SO & I had "afternoon delight" yesterday and it was less than fun which is sad cause I wanted it so bad. Every position felt uncomfortable. Afterwards he mentioned that he could feel LO's head when I was in top, but thankfully isn't grossed out by it.
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  • OMG I am even more afraid now with mention of baby's head! I am just at a point where I have that "baby's going to just fall out" feeling and thinking of sex freaks me out! I know we will have to wait so long after delivery, so I want to try while we can...but the last several attempts just ended with me in tears from frustration vowing to never attempt again while pregnant!! Belly gets in the way no matter the position and I can't get past thinking about how our LO is very present from all her kicks and movements. Yeesh. This sucks.
  • I've told DH that the next time we have sex will be to induce labor. But for me it's more the contractions afterwards that hurt so much!

    This exactly!!


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    edited December 2013
    I want to soooo bad, but my skin is tearing with any kind of friction. Lube is burning. I have been coating myself in Gold Bond Healing lotion, but that dries out quickly.

    ETA posted before I was done. The easy tearing is making me really nervous about tearing bad.
  • What is this "sexy time" and DTD you speak of? It doesn't exist in my house anymore ;)
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  • DH and I have just not wanted to even try. He is weirded out about the baby being there as well as afraid of hurting me. I am just too exhausted and distracted by all my other uncomfortable/painful symptoms. Plus, my first cervical check did nothing to alleviate my fears of him hurting me as well (so sensitive down there!!) I miss it. :(
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