None of my family or close friends are religious so I've never been to a baptism. So this is the first time I got an invite to one (my friend is having one). I don't know how it usually works but on her invite, there is a brunch at 10:30am and then the baptism starts at like 1:30 or 2pm. This is kind of a long day for me and the LO (cannot get a sitter that long, and would ruin his nap!)
So my question(s) to you guys is this - Is it rude to go to the brunch and not the baptism (I will still bring a gift)? If I decide to decline altogether, do I still have to give her a gift? And what gifts are customary for baptism?
Is this an infant baptism? My little ones got picture frames, personalized piggy bank, children's Bible, gifts of money (including savings bonds), small toys. Personally, I enjoyed the small tokens more than money.
I'm Catholic. We had both children baptized with a lunch/dinner following. So church at 1030am (to 1130am), lunch at 12pm at a nearby restaurant. Church at 4pm (to 5pm), dinner at 530pm at a nearby restaurant.
I'd skip brunch but it might be best to attend whichever part LO is likely to be most rested.
Thanks for all your input!! I just sent a $50 gift to her (just for the newborn, separate fro baptism) and will be making a trip to visit her too to see the baby. So maybe I'll send a small gift for the baptism. I just feel like there is a gift associated with every occasion now whether you attend or not!
Thanks for all your input!! I just sent a $50 gift to her (just for the newborn, separate fro baptism) and will be making a trip to visit her too to see the baby. So maybe I'll send a small gift for the baptism. I just feel like there is a gift associated with every occasion now whether you attend or not!
I feel like you don't need to send an additional gift. You've done plenty. I'd never send another gift.
I'm not totally sure on this, but it might be more socially acceptable to skip the brunch and go to the baptism... anyone? I was raised catholic but I'm not exactly a social grace buff.
I was thinking this too, the baptism is the reason for the luncheon. If I was in the situation I would go to the church only. I would feel like I missed the best part of the day and I was only there for food.
In our family we do money, unless, the child is your god child, then we do something religious (cross necklace, bible etc).
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