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maggiexxx · December 2013

OK so I'm 15w3d and I still haven't really told anyone that we are having a baby. I have had two us and so far everything is fine. Call me crazy but I haven't told Facebook yet. I have had two miscarriages and I'm just too afraid. I have friends that are 6w pregnant posting things on Facebook. Should I go ahead and start telling people or do u think its OK the dh and I are still waiting. I just don't want to wait so long that I post a pic of a newborn baby and my friends end up being like wtf....

juliajune · December 2013

Considering what you've been through i would say wait until you are comfortable. Im on my first pregnancy and we were going to wait to share but i was so excited i couldnt keep my mouth shut. However i am now terrified i will miscarry..to each their own and if you want to wait then why not? More power to you

kellyjayne · December 2013

If you are still uncomfortable sharing the news, you shouldn't feel pressured or obligated to share. Everyone "announces" at their own time, and there is nothing saying that you ever have to share a big, public announcement. If and when you feel comfortable sharing with close friends and family, I'm sure they will understand why you waited to tell them.

alicatand · December 2013

I have friends all over the board - those who announce at 4 weeks when they pee on the stick and others who wait until well into the pregnancy. Even one who just posted pics of a newborn no one knew they were expecting

. So there are no rules whatsoever, expect whatever you are comfortable with!! We have told close friends and family - and will spread the word to the rest of our friends and extended family if/when we have a good appt. next week at 13.5 weeks. As far as the rest of the population of acquaintances, etc. on FB - we likely won't post anything baby specific until well after 20 weeks . . . only because we announced at 13 weeks last time and had to unannounce three weeks later at 16 and it was incredibly traumatizing.

1982Babies · December 2013

Do it when you're comfortable! I am not telling until 14 weeks. Only DH and bestie know right now.

abastian00 · December 2013

It's your baby and your body, do what you feel comfortable and what makes you happy

You have many, many weeks ahead for the world to know!

TheMrs820 · December 2013

I would say wait until you are totally comfortable. If anyone has a problem with that then that is their own weird deal!

ktwils2010 · December 2013

Tell when you are ready. It's a very personal decision. I've had two mc this year and am now almost 13 wks pregnant. I didn't want to tell anyone for a long while. My dh and I decided to tell our families and local friends this week which ended up being a good step for us - it has made me feel more connected to the pregnancy and excited. Of course the paranoia sets in, all the what ifs, but overall I'm glad we've started sharing the news. Do whatever makes you comfortable!

maggiexxx · December 2013

Thank you ladies. I think I'll wait til my a/s at 20 weeks to tell people. I'm glad I have you guys...I would go crazy not being able to talk with other mommys who are going through the same thing.

hjl050308 · December 2013

We've told my family, a few friends and my two co directors at work. I'm already overweight and this is baby #3 so I'm definitely looking different and more rounded out but I'm still not telling anyone at work yet. Even though everything is going great, I'm just nervous. As of now, I don't have a FB announcement planned. Considering just waiting until he's born. You should do whatever you're comfortable with.

dragonfly711 · December 2013

You are not crazy. I had a Mmc at 11 1/2 weeks in February. It was 2 weeks after I told friends family and work.
I never posted on fb last time.

This time I am 13 w tomorrow. I told work last week after my US. I let my mom tell family Sunday since it was her birthday. She was so excited.

I am NOT posting on FB until Christmas. So I will be 15 weeks then.

Everyone is different. I have had some friends post so early on FB and all was fine with them. They were lucky.

I was so glad I didn't tell fb last time. I was fine w friends work and family knowing. Everyone was so supportive but fb for me is different.

You have to do what is best for you and what you feel comfortable with.

LegalLadyBug · December 2013

I know someone who didn't say anything on Facebook till her 20 week scan. It's whenever you're comfortable.

owengirl996 · December 2013

I don't think there's any harm in waiting until 20 weeks! Really, no harm in not announcing it at all (although maybe some confusion if baby pics suddenly appear on FB lol) But I don't blame you for waiting. I announced on FB and to the rest of my family at 13 weeks, only because it fell on Thanksgiving, and I thought that was an appropriate time for me to say something. But I also don't have very many FB friends I don't want to share that kind of news with...I mean, a majority already knew, just not the ones I don't see on a regular basis. We started telling coworkers and family (outside of immediate) after our first u/s at 8 weeks. But, this is our first pregnancy. Had I experienced a loss before, I would have been much more hesitant.

kmolsonmay5 · December 2013

You should share when you are comfortable. I am15 weeks and just told work this week, only because I couldn't physically hide it anymore. We have yet to announce it on facebook and haven't told many people yet. I actually think we won't announce it there and if we do it will be after the 20 wk as. Best of luck!

MamaDuck2013 · December 2013

We won't be sharing on fb...the people I want to know already know. Will tell parents at Christmas, but only because it will be too obvious lol ...otherwise I would probably wait until 4 or 5 months to say anything to parents or relatives (my mom will ask too many personal questions that are none of her business) and I am old so I can get away with this lol

kks4471 · December 2013

Four of my Facebook friends are pregnant, and two are always posting about it. I want to join in the conversations, but we're waiting until we have a normal anatomy scan to share on Facebook. It's tough to not talk, but I've kept quiet this entire time! Do what's best for you.

curlylocks3 · December 2013

I think if you're not comfortable sharing yet you are perfectly fine to keep waiting.

ETA: For what its worth, I have no intention of ever doing a Facebook announcement.

diagonalley · December 2013

I haven't told on Facebook. I figure I might do it over the Christmas break (I plan on telling work right before the break) but I don't feel inclined to put it out there necessarily though. The people I want to know I have already told.

verydisgruntledpelican0091 · December 2013

I haven't really told anyone either just cause I don't want the looks or rude comments I expect from some. I don't blame you for keeping it hush hush. You announce when your ready

My DF is getting antsy about doing a big Facebook announcement tho so I'm trying to get ideas how and when to do it

babyt614 · December 2013

I wouldnt announce on FB if it weren't for my mother promising she will if we don't in the next week and I'd rather it come from us first for some reason. I'm 15 weeks now so i feel a little better about it, but I still feel weird that people who i havent talked to in years will comment/etc.

skyview222 · December 2013

Well my fiance is the can't-keep-a-secret type. We actually got in an argument because he made a revealing comment on Facebook before my mother knew (she was flying in the air when we tried to call her with the news).

I felt like I wanted to wait a bit, but saw this video by a pregnant woman with miscarriage and stillbirth in previous pregnancies and felt differently afterwards. In a gist, she said she decided to tell people early because she thought that, no matter what happened, she wanted people to know, love and look forward to the baby for as long or short as it was here with them. It resonated with me.

I actually only told out-of-town friends this week and some probably don't know yet.

Everyone is justified in whatever they choose, so wait for your time.

WoodsSeltzer09 · December 2013

Tell when you are ready there is no rule. I've only told husband and imediate family and close friends. For everyone else when they notice I'll tell, but really I'm liking it being my little bump and surprise. Plus each time i think okay i'll let the cat out of the bag something happens to scare the hell out of me and i go hide in the corner and decide to wait another week.

I had a friend who had a 2nd tri MC - only family knew when she got pg again until litterally the day the baby was born. It was a nice surprise for everyone once they got passed the shock

MrsRage · December 2013

We have only told close family and close friends/some co-workers. After every appointment I want to tell the world though! However, we are only 6 weeks away from the anatomy scan so I figure what's the big deal in waiting to announce to everyone else at that point. I hope 6 weeks will go by fast!!!

Nancy1250 · December 2013

I've only told my close circle plus immediate family. I'll tell the rest of the people when they see me waddling around town!

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