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Mini Vent

Spin313Spin313 member
in Babies: 9 - 12 Months
So, over the last week (and today especially), there have been a lot of posts about BFing, weaning, and nursing strikes.  It seems like there is always someone who says something to the effect of: "how sad, I would miss the cuddling and bonding."  Umm, formula feeding moms cuddle and bond, too.  Confused  Seriously, those kinds of comments make me want to deck someone. 
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  • cvincent0423cvincent0423
    i found it strange and i BF. ?
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  • lanie26lanie26 member

    Get over it. No one is knocking your choice or slamming formula feeders.

    Its just different. I do both. Its different. Deal. 

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  • Spin313Spin313 member
    Seriously Lanie, sometimes your posts make me want to vomit on my computer.  Can you turn down your beyotch dial?
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  • lanie26lanie26 member

    Vomit away! You're taking something WAAAY too seriously. This board is for entertainment.

    ::pats spins head::

     

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  • MrsTottyMrsTotty member
    I BF and now FF. No one is saying that FFing moms don't bond or cuddle with their kiddos when they feed, but Lanies right, it's different. And yes, I miss it sometimes, but then I remember the bloody nipples and I feel ok about the Enfamil, lol.
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  • B*B*
    Really? I thought FF mom's propped their bottles???  They don't???
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  • Spin313Spin313 member

    imageMrsTotty:
    I BF and now FF. No one is saying that FFing moms don't bond or cuddle with their kiddos when they feed, but...it's different.

    At no point did I make any comments about BF/FF being the same or different, but certain comments are just grating like nails on a chalkboard. 

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  • jsmith19jsmith19
    Amen, Spin.
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  • LoriFalceLoriFalce member

    I can see your point. I'm a FF who tried to BF and was crushed when it didn't work. That doesn't stop the BFNazis from telling you you're a bad mom for not BFing. To then see BFers mourning that loss could be a little crazy-making.

    Personally, I don't care. I feed my son. Whether what he eats starts in my body or comes to the house in a can really isn't the point. What is? He's healthy, happy and at the top of his charts for growth.

    (However, if it makes you feel better, Spin, embrace the pettiness. I usually am and find it often fills me with a warm glow. Some wench at my OBs office went off on me about how I just didn't try hard enough to BF. When she had to stop at 2m, I have to admit, I had a STRONG urge to tell her she just wasn't trying, and a good mom wouldn't give up so easily.)

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  • MrsTottyMrsTotty member
    imageSpin313:

    imageMrsTotty:
    I BF and now FF. No one is saying that FFing moms don't bond or cuddle with their kiddos when they feed, but...it's different.

    At no point did I make any comments about BF/FF being the same or different, but certain comments are just grating like nails on a chalkboard. 

    Ok, I have nothing to do, so I'll bite. Which comments exactly? Because if you're going to 'vent' and not call someone out, it's kinda lame.

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  • lanie26lanie26 member
    It's always much more helpful and less passive aggressive to comment IN the post you are speaking of than to talk about it in a mini vent after the fact and then get upset when people think you're blowing things out of proportion.
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  • Spin313Spin313 member

    Thank you, jsmith19!  Lori, that was a funny story.

    MrsTotty, the "certain comments" was exactly what I wrote in my initial post about missing bonding/cuddle time.  In Lanie's post about being sad re: breastfeeding, it was MrsRichardson who said it.  I wasn't trying to pick on her - and it's wonderful that there is such a supportive atmosphere for BFing moms - but sometimes comments like those are very frustrating and annoying.

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  • Spin313Spin313 member

    imagelanie26:
    It's always much more helpful and less passive aggressive to comment IN the post you are speaking of than to talk about it in a mini vent 

    Not everyone feels the need to make other people's posts about themselves.

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  • lanie26lanie26 member

    No being passive aggressive is MUCH better.

    It's adorable.

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  • Spin313Spin313 member
    Ahhhhh, gee thanks Lanie...not as adorable as your childish attention-mongering.  Enjoy, I am through responding to you.
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  • lanie26lanie26 member
    Teehee! I love it.
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  • Breezy.LivesBreezy.Lives

    I snuggle my baby while not nursing him, but I still cherish that particular kind of snuggling.

    I also cherished the time that he refused to sleep if he wasn't touching me.  If your kid wasn't like that, do you think it's ridiculous that I kind of miss it?

    Too tired to think of a better example.
     

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  • Conway714Conway714 member

    I know that I'm a little late to the party, but honestly, I have to agree with Lanie. It sounds like you are getting defensive about nothing. You made the choice that is right for you, and that doesn't make it bad.

    The post was about BFing, and by saying they would miss the cuddling doesn't mean they think that FF doesn't include cuddling. I BF, and I get sentimental about weaning because it would be different. Not bad just different.

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