Feeling guilty...

Tylynngrace · December 2013

I know I should probably be posting this on the preemie board but I'm much more comfortable here. I just have this overwhelming feeling of guilt tonight and I have no idea why. My DS is actually doing really well but for some reason I just feel like such a shit mom for not being able to carry him longer. I feel awful for my body kicking him out before everything was developed, and I feel so bad that he works so hard to do the things I could've done for him. I'm starting to feel guilty because I don't feel like I visit him enough. I usually go at least twice a day sometimes more depending if he has testing and such that I can be there for, but I don't feel like its enough. I just don't want him to ever think I'm a bad mom because I really am trying. I'm really hitting a low right now. Sorry, I just needed to get it out, my DH just doesn't understand.

ccip82 · December 2013

Huge hugs Tylynn!! You are amazing mom and I cannot even begin to imagine how difficult and stressful the last couple months have been for you. I am sure the other preemie moms will chime in and offer better support than I can, but we are here for you whenever you need to vent.

MrsGraham06 · December 2013

Awww, sweety, I'm sorry you are feeling down.
>:D<

BEAUNAL · December 2013

I'm so sorry you are feeling like this. Nothing can be further from the truth. you are an amazing Mom who has him right where he needs to be and getting the very best care for him. Everything, including his early delivery, happened just as it was supposed to. He will wear his time in the NICU like a badge of strength. My niece and nephew were in the NICU for months and still tell people the whole story as though they went to war...they just turned 12.
Chin up. This is temporary and soon enough you will have each other all to yourselves at home.
Be easy on yourself. You are dealing with more than most people could ever handle. Huge hugs.

Tylynngrace · December 2013

Thanks ladies. I'm just really getting down cause I thought this was that one thing I could be good at and do the right way. My body wanted to tell me otherwise.

ChuggingWater · December 2013

Chin up, Lady! You're an amazing mom! Think of all you have been through. Youre extremely resilient! You had no control over your body

citybeach · December 2013

I'm sorry you're feeling this way

I have no experience, but I'm sure it's quite normal to have these feelings. Reach out and talk to somebody if you continue to feel overwhelmed. You're doing an amazing job, I can only imagine how difficult it is.

Kismc · December 2013

I don't have any experience, but I just wanted to say that I'm sorry you're having a tough time. I hope your son is big enough and strong enough to be home with you very soon!

ac1259 · December 2013

You did everything you could to keep your little guy on the inside...and you're doing exactly what you need to now! NICU babies are very easily overstimulated so it's best to only go visit him a couple times a day..I know it feels wrong but right now he needs rest and to work on getting bigger! Soon enough he'll be home and yours to hold and snuggle all the time:) you're doing wonderful mama...it'll get better soon!

km0022 · December 2013

I've been there. And still have an occasional guilt for my first born.

Chin up. Do what you can for you and baby and leave it at that. Know that YOU are doing the BEST you can and that is all your son needs.

megngregk · December 2013

Huge hugs, honey. There is nothing you could have done differently, and you're doing wonderful now. You are not a bad mom at all. Heck, getting there twice a day is huge! Hang in there. I can't pretend to know what you're going through, but that beautiful baby boy will be home soon.

lmills730 · December 2013

You are an amazing mom! You didn't force him out early, there is nothing you could've done differently and I am sure baby knows that! ((hugs))

SandFHasse · December 2013

*hugs* I'm sorry you're feeling this way. You are a wonderful mom.

moosebaby2011 · December 2013

Big hugs to you!

LabPupLuv · December 2013

Oh hon, there is nothing you could have done differently. The fact that you feel so much guilt and worry about your baby shows how great of a mom you are. Hugs!

twobluelines · December 2013

You did great. You kept him growing inside as long as you could and delivered a wonderful little boy. This will pass and soon he will be home with you all of the time. hugs to you

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