Ever get tired of your belly?

madelined633 · December 2013

I am so happy and thankful that I am pregnant, especially after a miscarriage last spring. I have been anxiously waiting to "pop" as people are saying. I wanted to look pregnant instead of like I put on weight. Now that I have a belly, however, and it keeps getting bigger, I sometimes catch myself feeling like --ehh, I wish my stomach was flat again.
I feel guilty even saying that because I want this baby so badly, but I am having a hard time adjusting to the bulge...I guess I wish I could have a baby while keeping my belly the same. It worries me a little because its only December, I've got 5 months of growing to go. Who knows how big it will be then, and how I'll feel. I am so used to having a flatter stomach, and I've caught myself trying to suck it in at work, and then I realize "oh yeah, I don't have to/can't really do that." I guess I'm just wondering if anyone else has ever felt like this? Or am I weird in feeling this? Maybe when I finally feel the baby, it will be better? Right now it's just me getting bigger without really feeling pregnant.

shaunamw · December 2013

I feel like that a lot in the morning when getting dressed. Sometimes I go through several outfits because I keep thinking ugh that one makes me look fat. I have to constantly remind myself that I'm pregnant not fat. And I remember with my first it drove me crazy when I got big because I couldn't bend.

JessicaDanielle0910 · December 2013

I was like this my first pregnancy, the best thing I can say to help is go out shopping and buy you some bump flattering cute clothing, I was very small and having a belly all of a sudden made me feel strange but once I started dressing for the bump I got so much more excited and it was easier to adjust to. Looking cute made me feel better about myself.

boymum2014 · December 2013

I feel the same,it's difficult to say it without feeling ungrateful but there's quite a long stage of looking/feeling fat rather than pregnant.Watching the Victoria's Secret fashion show is not helping tonight.Ate pizza & chocolate,then saw them & started working out!

kristine526 · December 2013

I'm surprisingly in love with my bump. I've always had issues with my body image, so the fact that I'm loving it is an awesome surprise. I do not love however, watching the scale. I think it's time to put it away.

What else I do not love is having the dropsies. It's getting increasingly more difficult to bend over and pick things up.

Miggg · December 2013

I don't think it's weird at all. I've always been really athletic with a toned stomach so it's been a huge adjustment for me and sometimes I feel so huge and uncomfortable and then I remember that I'm only halfway in...! I tried swimming laps the other day and my body felt all wrong and foreign and I felt a little sad for a moment.

Just remind yourself that it's temporary and for the most amazing reason ever. And steer clear of the Victoria's Secret show, that shit will make any woman feel like a whale, pregnant or not! Seriously, someone get those girls a burger.. And CrayTay too..

TaylorHam86 · December 2013

I go back and forth. When my husband is home (which doesn't seem like much lately), I love my belly because he loves my belly and he is so proud of it. But when I'm out and about and get comments like, "oh, you're showing ALREADY!" or "Really, you're only 4 months? I didn't show till I was 6 months" ... Then I get self-conscious about it. :-< (even if I know they are exaggerating!) More often than not, I'm feeling pudgy and uncomfortable. I sympathize with you.

momo214 · December 2013

I've been using small binder clips to hold my pants together at work. I get irritated when my bump is made bigger by bloat and go to bend over and they pop open. I guess that means time for maternity pants.

Dplusbsquared · December 2013

I have been showing since fertilization! I'm very short-waisted and have a large uterus (so I'm told). I have felt HUGE for weeks now. I've been so jealous of the mommies who haven't started showing yet while I'm over here feeling like an upside down turtle.

I'm glad that most everyone is showing now. I don't feel so terrible about my body now. I've been so self conscience that I've been embarrassed to go in public and have anyone ask when I am due! This LO is a surprise gift (at 40), so that has added to my embarrassment. How silly, I know, but it's how I viewed it.

SurprisePartySue · December 2013

cunninghammy said:
"Really, you're only 4 months? I didn't show till I was 6 months"

OMG I have gotten this soooo much lately! It makes me feel awful! Im afraid I'm going to snap and say something really mean.

dollface777 · December 2013

Just wait until you shut your belly in the car door. Or swipe all the magnets off the fridge. Or can't hug your husband cuz your belly is in the way. Or have to stop and rest half way up the stairs. Or, when you're laying on the couch, you have to roll off the couch and then get up because you can't sit up. Last one... you have to wake your husband up in the night to help you roll over.

You're welcome!

Kate070 · December 2013

I have to say, I'm glad someone posted this. As much as I wish we were all feeling a bit better about these changes, it's also nice to see I'm not the only one having some difficulty adjusting!

Yes, sometimes I love it, and just sit there and hold my bump and think about my baby boy. But I've had problems with body image most of my life, and sometimes that little voice does get in my head. I just try to think about how I can get back in shape after May... or, how I won't even be concerned about it because I'll be so busy with my new LO!

kristine526 said:

I'm surprisingly in love with my bump. I've always had issues with my body image, so the fact that I'm loving it is an awesome surprise. I do not love however, watching the scale. I think it's time to put it away.

I've made a point of not weighing myself at all... they do it at the doctor's office anyway, and I've asked them to just let me know if changes in my weight seem unhealthy at all.

What else I do not love is having the dropsies. It's getting increasingly more difficult to bend over and pick things up.

Ha! I so feel your pain here. I was clumsy to begin with :-P

Lild09 · December 2013

Your not the only one! I've always had body image issues and working out and being in shape always made me feel so good. So to go from abs to a rounded belly is hard! Like one of the pp, sometimes I love my belly, I rub it and think how amazing it is that a little one is in there. Other times I'm self cautious about how I look and I get annoyed when some ppl are surprised I'm showing. I'm not huge by any means but hello I was very petite to start, where's the baby suppose to go? I feel ya, it can be hard when ppl comment. I find it helpful when DH loves my belly and the times when we get intimate bc I know I'm beautiful inside and out to him

thagy2012 · December 2013

I'm right there with you! Over the past 2 years I have dropped 40+ pounds, the healthy way, by running. Now that I'm pregnant, it's like all that work went right down the drain in 4 months. I especially feel like that when I have students say, "Gosh, Mrs. Hagy! You're HUGE!" Granted, they're in high school and have no idea what they're talking about, they've just seen the transformation from what size I was at the beginning of August to my current size now and they see a big difference. All of my coworkers say I'm "all belly" and "adorable when pregnant" but I can't help but think they're just trying to make me feel better... DH loves my belly and is constantly talking to our daughter about how he hopes she'll look just like me, etc. I still have a hard time shaking the "I'm a whale" feeling... The only time I really feel good about being bigger is when I catch my DH smiling at my belly and he doesn't know I'm watching him. It makes me smile knowing he's so smitten with our daughter... I just keep telling myself that no matter what, I get a beautiful little girl in May

She's worth whatever I have to go through!

ksyknelvr73 · December 2013

Well, the bump is still kind of a new thing at this point for you, but I think/hope you will grow to enjoy it more. I personally love having a bump and love not having to suck it in! At the end though, it can definitely be a bit harder to deal with b/c it's hard to bend over, shave, etc....and sleep. But you're not there yet

kramja01 · December 2013

I'm sure I'll feel like this eventually, but right now I really, really want a nice round belly. I'm still in the "is she fat or is she pregnant?' stage and I hate it! My hips and waist have widened considerably, so much that I either need maternity pants or a bigger size. Unfortunately, I just seem to be widening, not rounding out. I've gained 7-8 lbs and just feel gross at this point.

awc1986 · December 2013

I'm having a big issue with the fact that my tops are getting dirty because I keep forgetting about my bump and getting it caught on things. I need to learn that I can't fit between parked cars anymore.

MrsT2008 · December 2013

Kimbus22 said:

I don't think I've ever had a flat belly. Maybe kindergarten. I'm not a fan of this in between stage though. It's big enough to be annoying but not super pregnant big. I like 25+ week belly better. Then it's more baby and more movement and I don't mind it as much because I can poke the kid and get kicked back.

I was just coming to post this. I don't like this in between stage - and it's worse this second time around. So much of it is still flabby (just a shapely flab). I like it much better when it's bigger and harder and I can feel/poke baby.

awknyc · December 2013

I totally understand where you're coming from and feel guilty about this too! I am so incredibly excited about being pregnant, but it is such a weird feeling that your body no longer feels like your own anymore. I think once my stomach becomes an actual bump hopefully it'll change.

ho11yday · December 2013

I lost 40+lbs before I got pregnant and now I can't fit into my fat jeans. Times like that make me wish for a flatter stomach. Otherwise, during sex I'd love to do away with my tummy.

jfletcher3113 · December 2013

"oh, you're showing ALREADY!" or "Really, you're only 4 months? I didn't show till I was 6 months"

EW! I hate this too. I want my response to be: "Yeah, it's probably because I started off a lot thinner than you so I'm showing more quickly". Whether it's true or not.

Edited: Because I can't figure out the quote button and still wasn't able to. So, I'm posting like this. I couldn't get out of this damn gray box!

jjtyler · December 2013

I miss my belt.

jjh471 · December 2013

shaunamw said:

I feel like that a lot in the morning when getting dressed. Sometimes I go through several outfits because I keep thinking ugh that one makes me look fat. I have to constantly remind myself that I'm pregnant not fat. And I remember with my first it drove me crazy when I got big because I couldn't bend.

This is me exactly. Once I have clothes on I don't feel as big. But getting ready the in AM (looking at my pregnant belly in the mirror) I kind of feel like ugh I just want my body back already. I know its only going to get worse and thats okay, but sometimes I need to just have a mini freak out about my growing stomach and then move on.

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