So sew tired of SIL.

rjeller32 · December 2013

SIL seems to like to compete with me for "pity me" of the year. Here's the thing: I don't want anyone's pity. But if I even slightly complain, she has to one up me in some way.

She is a stay at home mom, she lives 100 yards from her mom, where she sends her 10 month old and 7 year old as she pleases, and her husband comes home every night. I work 40-50 hours a week, have no one but my daycare lady to watch my children, unless I want to pay someone else, and DH spends 9 months of every year 17 hours away.

She didn't ask me, but my DH if I could sew up some American Girl clothes, with a matching outfit for her DD1. 3 weeks before Christmas. While she knows I have been trying to squeeze in working on my daughter's quilt for the past 4 months in time for Christmas. Her reasoning? Because she doesn't have any time...

I am sorry, but one child goes to school 8 hours a day 5 days a week, the other naps twice a day (and is the same age as my DD2), and her husband or mother can watch her kids if she wants some free time.

I don't know how to tell her I am tired of her "bigger problems" competition. Everyone has fucking issues, I am not every trying to win this award. In fact, I wouldn't mind coming in last on that one.

She once told me "You don't know how hard I have it, your life is cake." I am sorry, but she has no rent (her parents land, so they pay it), she has her husband, her freaking cable is paid by her grandpa. I am sure she has issues, but I am just sick of it.

PunkyBooster · December 2013

She sounds crazy spoiled.

I can see why her last minute request bothers you she should have spoken to YOU about this at least 3 weeks ago.

MrsChanceW · December 2013

I sew too and because of that everyone always expects me to do their projects. I feel your pain.

bugandbibs · December 2013

Just say no.

Nothing you can say or do will change her attitude. All you can do is limit how it impacts your life. AND, if your husband agreed you would sew this without consulting you that's a marital problem, NOT a SIL problem.

Twinkie0612 · December 2013

I have a coworker like this and I just learned to stay out of the pain Olympics. If she needs to think her life is hardest most horrible life ever then more power to her. I feel sorry for her. While she spends so much time focusing on how terrible her life is, she is missing out on being happy with her family.

As for the clothes issue, call her up and tell her that your DH shouldn't have answered for you and that you are too busy to do it.

Mysterious_wife · December 2013

You are giving her too much power. Say no

rjeller32 · December 2013

Thanks all. Sorry for the late reply, but DH did tell her to come to me, and she has not at all. So, I am sweeping it under the rug.

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