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July 2012 Moms
JulesET
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Please tell me it gets easier....
JulesET
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DD is now 8 days old and I have been home alone with DS and DD for two days now and I have shead more tears today then I did the entire 9 months I was pregnant. Both kids have been super fussy and crying. Between DD broken collarbone and not sleeping she needs constant attention. I feel like have yelled at DS more today then the last month combined. He is such a rough kid and has already hit DD with his snack cup and keep running into or ramming his truck into the lack n play when DD is in there. He has been so needy and constantly wanting to be picked up and threw a 30 minute tantrum this afternoon. I don't know what else to do. I feel like I can't do this. I knew it would be hard and wanted to have them close together but am starting to doubt myself big time. Between all this and my dad having surgery today after being diagnosed with prostate cancer I feel like in drowning. Sorry for the long vent.
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Re: Please tell me it gets easier....
We still have rough days here but as Jace gets older the boys are more comfortable with him and ignore him 90% of the time! Jace has also gotten less "needy" as he's gotten older so I can divide my time a little more evenly.
Take it easy on yourself and try for some YOU time once the babies are asleep even if it's only 5 minutes. I tell myself everyday that the days are long but the years are short. Hugs to you and I'm here if you ever need to vent! >:D<
1) Do you have one of those large enlcosed baby gates/playards? If not you should get one. They can be big or small and you can put it in a section of your home that you will be in when dealing with your newborn. You can put your oldest in there and put toys and such in it so that he can play independently. This will take some of your stress off because he is not running around getting in to things, but is playing in a safe space. Here is one you could look at.
https://www.toysrus.com/product/index.jsp?productId=13193080&cp=2255956.2273442.2850038.23088636.18816716&parentPage=family
2) Is your oldest on a schedule? If not try to have a routine each day, including nap times. This will help with not only your sanity but it will be easier to tend to your newborn when you know what is going on. My daughter has time frames for breakfast, lunch, dinner, nap time and when she sleeps through the night. In between we play, count, etc. If they are up at the same time, you can use that time to have your oldest help you with the newborn. So if they need to be changed, have them go with you and hand you a diaper, have them bring you a bottle to feed the baby, etc. This will be a huge help.
3) Lastly, your newborn has to get used to everything. Some may not have their days and nights straight quite yet. Look for patterns if you can. Pay attention to how long on average they sleep, etc.
One thing I learned is that I have to pay very close attention to both of their patterns, and make sure my oldest is on a schedule. The playard helps a ton because when I need to feed my son or interact with him, she can do independent play in there. You will find ways to spend time with both.
I hope I was of help to you!!! GL!!! Hang in there. You can do it!!!