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It might be time for me to see my counselor!

CeCe8579CeCe8579 member
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I came home after dropping my daughter off at school and slept for 5 hours. I'm a mess. UGH! Sorry to keep ranting and I'm not trying to be a "poor pitiful me", I think I'm just breaking down and loosing all hope and it fucking sucks!!! 
Carly
(Former UN: iloveshanej)

Birdie born 05/01/2007
Rainbow Surprise Baby due 05/26/2017                                          


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Re: It might be time for me to see my counselor!

  • freakyfastfreakyfast member
    Nothing wrong with talking to a counselor.  Do you have one already?  Lots of (((((((HUGS))))))) to you dear.  I know this all sucks a big one. 



      


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  • KC1212KC1212 member
    :( I'm sorry. Infertility sucks.

    I tell DH all the time (because guys don't get it) that TTC is like a full time job! It's so stressful! And exhausting!
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    Me: 27 DH: 33
    Married 6 years
    Conceived DS after 4 years of MFI

    TTC # 2 (not trying,not preventing ever)
    May 2013 - August 2013 Timed Intercourse = BFN
    September 2013 Timed Intercourse, Weekly Acupuncture, Herbs=BFN
    October 2013 Timed Intercourse, Weekly Acupuncture, Herbs, and "warming foods" = BFP
    Beta #1 19, Beta #2 18 Progesterone 4.6 Miscarried 11/9/13
    November 2013 - Benched, waiting for first post-loss AF.
    No longer benched per New RE/OB!
    Jan. 15 2014 - BFP. HCG 3900 - Ectopic :( 
    Jan. 16 2014 Left tube removed and D&C
    March 2, 2014 First AF


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  • tuscanbride2007tuscanbride2007 member
    I am so sorry you are feeling this way. IF just plain sucks. Wrapping you in giant ((HUGS)) and wishing all your stress and sadness would go away.

    BFP #1 12.24.07 - DD born @ 39w1d on 08.26.08
    BFP #2 08.04.11 - DD born still @ 37w3d on 03.25.12

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    TTC #3 since May 2012

    BFP #3 12.29.12 - CP @ 4w2d on 01.02.13
    BFP #4 10.17.13 - CP @ 4w2d on 10.23.13
    BFP #5 04.06.14 - MMC 05.07.14

    No longer trying to conceive.

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  • pettycrockerpettycrocker member
    :( I thought we were the IF counselors? Get your chocolate, put your feet up and let's have at it. 


    Hugs, we're all here. Counselors are creepy.. 


    J/K sorry you are having a hard time :( 


    Spontaneous pregnancy #1
    DD1 July 31, 2011

    Trying for #2 since Oct 11
    732973 Clomid Cycles
    2 IUIs 
    3 Fresh IVFs= 1 Ectopic treated with MTX
    Spontaneous pregnancy #2= Ectopic #2= lost left tube
    Spontaneous pregnancy #3= DD2 January 29, 2016
    Spontaneous pregnancy #4= Ectopic #3
    Spontaneous pregnancy #5= Baby #3 is a BOY!!! 



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  • Jen071407Jen071407 member
    We've all been there. Sometimes it just gets so effing hard and overwhelming. Not too mention depressing. Vent away m'dear!

    Two DDs 10/08 and 08/10, no primary IF
    TTC #3 since 10/2011 - dx unexplained/weak ovulation
     3 BFN clomid + TI cycles, 5 BFN clomid/gonal f IUIs, 1 mmc IUI
    2/19/2014 IVF #1 Unexpected low E2 (oversuppressed) -> increased to max doses = 3 or 4 follicles, converting to IUI
    BFFP Saw 1 beautiful heartbeat at 6w6d, follow up u/s at 9w showed mmc. Eff this.
    NTNP 5/2014-9/2014, OPKs and TI 10/2014 - 1/2015. 
    RPL testing all normal, AFC, AMH, and FSH all normal. 
    IVF 1.2 1/22/2014 natural cycle start, AFC 28, 300 gonal f/150menopur. 
    ER 2/3/15 14R 8M 3F w/ICSI Day 5 transfer on 2/8/15 of one "Grade A+" blast and have TWO frosties! 

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  • KC1212KC1212 member
    I kinda agree with @mrs Castillo. I just gave someone this advice the other day about counselors etc.

    I have seen many counselors/therapists in my hay day. My parents had a horrible marriage and an even worse divorce so I saw some that were court ordered - fast forward several years and I sought out a psychiatrist for my increasing/ life interrupting panic attacks - well she was awful. I was paying BIG dollars to see this woman for a very specific area in my life- sessions started to veer off on other things which I thought were not relavent and she even fell asleep once! No f-ing joke!

    It got to the point where I felt WORSE leaving a session than it did before I even went.

    I finally decided that for the amount of money I was paying her I could get a massage at a spa and come out feeling a whole hellofa lot better ;)

    I think they're great if you find someone and the chemistry is right and if you have someone that's awesome - by all means take advantage.
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    Me: 27 DH: 33
    Married 6 years
    Conceived DS after 4 years of MFI

    TTC # 2 (not trying,not preventing ever)
    May 2013 - August 2013 Timed Intercourse = BFN
    September 2013 Timed Intercourse, Weekly Acupuncture, Herbs=BFN
    October 2013 Timed Intercourse, Weekly Acupuncture, Herbs, and "warming foods" = BFP
    Beta #1 19, Beta #2 18 Progesterone 4.6 Miscarried 11/9/13
    November 2013 - Benched, waiting for first post-loss AF.
    No longer benched per New RE/OB!
    Jan. 15 2014 - BFP. HCG 3900 - Ectopic :( 
    Jan. 16 2014 Left tube removed and D&C
    March 2, 2014 First AF


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  • pettycrockerpettycrocker member
    Spa day! 


    Or acupuncture! Acupuncture is AMAZING for stress, and so relaxing. 


    Spontaneous pregnancy #1
    DD1 July 31, 2011

    Trying for #2 since Oct 11
    732973 Clomid Cycles
    2 IUIs 
    3 Fresh IVFs= 1 Ectopic treated with MTX
    Spontaneous pregnancy #2= Ectopic #2= lost left tube
    Spontaneous pregnancy #3= DD2 January 29, 2016
    Spontaneous pregnancy #4= Ectopic #3
    Spontaneous pregnancy #5= Baby #3 is a BOY!!! 



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  • KC1212KC1212 member
    Mrs Castillo said:

    Spa day! 



    Or acupuncture! Acupuncture is AMAZING for stress, and so relaxing. 
    Great for fertility too! I feel like we should start a "coping" thread but, I think @jen071407 already did that with the decorating and shopping for workout clothes! Lol.
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    Me: 27 DH: 33
    Married 6 years
    Conceived DS after 4 years of MFI

    TTC # 2 (not trying,not preventing ever)
    May 2013 - August 2013 Timed Intercourse = BFN
    September 2013 Timed Intercourse, Weekly Acupuncture, Herbs=BFN
    October 2013 Timed Intercourse, Weekly Acupuncture, Herbs, and "warming foods" = BFP
    Beta #1 19, Beta #2 18 Progesterone 4.6 Miscarried 11/9/13
    November 2013 - Benched, waiting for first post-loss AF.
    No longer benched per New RE/OB!
    Jan. 15 2014 - BFP. HCG 3900 - Ectopic :( 
    Jan. 16 2014 Left tube removed and D&C
    March 2, 2014 First AF


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  • CheesyPeasCheesyPeas member
    I was thinking we all need to take a 2IF vacation together and hang out, eat, drink, and be merry.  And maybe if we get bored we can go hang out at some place where pregnant women might frequent and throw potatoes at them if they start complaining about pregnancy symptoms.  Or I suppose you could treat yourself to a spa day instead. :)
    November 2010 - 10.5 week loss  o:) 
    October 2011 - DS (7)  <3 
    July 2014 - Stillborn DD (24 weeks)  o:) 
    August 2015 - DD (3)  <3 
    April 2018 - 5 week loss o:) 

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  • pettycrockerpettycrocker member
    CheesyPeas said:
    I was thinking we all need to take a 2IF vacation together and hang out, eat, drink, and be merry.  And maybe if we get bored we can go hang out at some place where pregnant women might frequent and throw potatoes at them if they start complaining about pregnancy symptoms.  Or I suppose you could treat yourself to a spa day instead. :)
    Girl, I swear.. you are my spirit animal, for real. 

    I love everything about you. 

    :x


    Spontaneous pregnancy #1
    DD1 July 31, 2011

    Trying for #2 since Oct 11
    732973 Clomid Cycles
    2 IUIs 
    3 Fresh IVFs= 1 Ectopic treated with MTX
    Spontaneous pregnancy #2= Ectopic #2= lost left tube
    Spontaneous pregnancy #3= DD2 January 29, 2016
    Spontaneous pregnancy #4= Ectopic #3
    Spontaneous pregnancy #5= Baby #3 is a BOY!!! 



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  • CeCe8579CeCe8579 member
    Thank you so much ladies!!! I do have a counselor who is awesome but I hate going. I am so broke from our wedding and Christmas that I can't do anything nice for myself. I did manage to get Christmas pictures done and I guess I could pull some spa stuff out and just give myself a spa day. I can't wait for the new year! I am so glad to have all of your support!!! You all rock!!!

    And YES to a 2IF vacation (after the new year, of course, hehe)!!!!

    POTATO!
    Carly
    (Former UN: iloveshanej)

    Birdie born 05/01/2007
    Rainbow Surprise Baby due 05/26/2017                                          


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  • chrissynenachrissynena member
    CheesyPeas said:

    I was thinking we all need to take a 2IF vacation together and hang out, eat, drink, and be merry.  And maybe if we get bored we can go hang out at some place where pregnant women might frequent and throw potatoes at them if they start complaining about pregnancy symptoms.  Or I suppose you could treat yourself to a spa day instead. :)

    There is this girl at work that got knocked up on her honeymoon (first time having sex) and I know she doesn't want kids, well cuz she kept saying it all the time. She has morning sickness still into her 6th month. Everytime she tells me she got sick I secretly giggle. Ok sometimes not so secretly. :)

    TTC for 1.5 years with a crappy RE. 12 cycles with clomid (11 too many)
    New RE, 3 failed IUI's moving to IVF with ICSI
    IVF#1 BFP EDD 1/10/13
    Beta#1 51  Beta #2 148
    A/S 8/20/13 Team Pink
    Induced week 39 due to severe GD
    Baby girl born 1/4/13

           TTC #2 2 failed IUI's moving on to FET 3/2014
    ET 3/25 
    Beta #1 127
    Beta #2 845
    U/s 4/22 It's TWINS!!
    Team Purple!!

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  • +SouthernMomma++SouthernMomma+ member
    Hugs!! <3
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  • CeCe8579CeCe8579 member
    Thank you!
    Carly
    (Former UN: iloveshanej)

    Birdie born 05/01/2007
    Rainbow Surprise Baby due 05/26/2017                                          


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  • CheesyPeasCheesyPeas member
    Mrs Castillo said:
    CheesyPeas said:
    I was thinking we all need to take a 2IF vacation together and hang out, eat, drink, and be merry.  And maybe if we get bored we can go hang out at some place where pregnant women might frequent and throw potatoes at them if they start complaining about pregnancy symptoms.  Or I suppose you could treat yourself to a spa day instead. :)
    Girl, I swear.. you are my spirit animal, for real. 

    I love everything about you. 

    :x
    Right back at ya, love!  MUAH :x
    November 2010 - 10.5 week loss  o:) 
    October 2011 - DS (7)  <3 
    July 2014 - Stillborn DD (24 weeks)  o:) 
    August 2015 - DD (3)  <3 
    April 2018 - 5 week loss o:) 

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