am I being overly sensitive?

kjensen1975 · December 2013

So chatting with my sister about my upcoming amnio and she asks might ifthey found anything wrong, would wwe terminate the pregnancy. I got really offended rhat she would ask me about something that so incredibly difficult and private. I don't know that if my husband and I were faced with that if we would even tell anyone the truth and not just say it was a miscarriage.
Am I being overly sensitive with pregnancy hormones up on high or what?

curlylocks3 · December 2013

I agree that its a weird question to ask. Good luck with the amnio, I hope everything goes smoothly.

Erica314 · December 2013

That's a really personal decision and no I do not think you are being overly sensitive at all.

It is none of anyone's business what you would decide to do. I would definitely have given a "mind your own business" response to that.

kjensen1975 · December 2013

I kind of danced around the answer saying it would be a personal decision yadda yadda. We're sort of.close, she's just nosy. Glad others agree that I wasn't over reacting.

nunzchucks · December 2013

mrsgerman said:

Eh considering it's family it wouldn't bother me but I don't know how close you are with your sister.

This. If it was a friend or co-worker, I would be weirded out.

lscal20 · December 2013

It's family, so I wouldn't care. I'm very close with my sister, but I guess it depends on how close you are with yours

AllyTales · December 2013

+yuMMMy+ said:

LilNunz1 said:

mrsgerman said:

Eh considering it's family it wouldn't bother me but I don't know how close you are with your sister.

This. If it was a friend or co-worker, I would be weirded out.

I agree with this. My sister and I ask each other "personal" questions all the time. nothing new.

Same. That wouldn't offend me. But not much does. I would just answer her.

lellymine · December 2013

Maybe she was asking so she could figure out how to support you through something so hard.

curlylocks3 · December 2013

mullenem said:

Since your offended, I would say that you're not close enough with your sister for that question to be asked, so she shouldn't have asked it.
It is a really tough question and an even tougher answer. I think the big thing is if someone asks, the only way I would answer truthfully is if I trust that they wouldn't judge me. More than likely, I would just have a vague answer like "We'll make that decision when we have to." It's no one's business but your own.

Thats a good point. If you're close enough to be told, you're close enough to not have to ask.

AshB11 · December 2013

I guess I'm in the minority. I think if you've been sharing the info up until now (nt? Plans for an amnio?) it's only natural to wonder about possible outcomes. I'm not saying I personally would ask that specific question but I don't think she's way out if line. Just curious, outspoken, and maybe concerned. Like someone mentioned maybe she's trying to figure out how to show support. I'm sure it must be a very difficult situation for you so maybe just let her know that and tell her you'd prefer not to talk about anything related.

littlemonstermama · December 2013

Not at freaking all. It's a personal and private decision, and if you wanted to share the information you would have offered it before she had the chance to ask.

kjensen1975 · December 2013

No family history and my doc didn't offer an NT scan. I'm 38 so the likelihood of an issue increases. It preventative and more conclusive than the NT scan.

erind228 · December 2013

LilNunz1 said:

mrsgerman said:

Eh considering it's family it wouldn't bother me but I don't know how close you are with your sister.

This. If it was a friend or co-worker, I would be weirded out.

Same!

tnd1218 · December 2013

My sister and I are very close so I wouldn't be offended. We actually share pretty much everything with each other. I guess it all depends on how close y'all are.

Sareynoo · December 2013

I think you're being over sensitive.. You did tell her that you were getting the test done, if you didn't want her to ask questions about it you shouldn't have told her..

sarahlynnc317 · December 2013

Sareynoo said:
I think you're being over sensitive.. You did tell her that you were getting the test done, if you didn't want her to ask questions about it you shouldn't have told her..

I'm this way to. If you are talking about tests and stuff I think that would be a natural question to ask.
Obviously if the results were bad and you decided to terminate she would know since you told her you were doing the tests. so I don't see anything wrong in her asking since she would know your decision either way.

diagonalley · December 2013

I agree with the posters that said because you told her about the tests that she will likely ask questions. If you don't want people questioning your decisions then you shouldn't tell them about the test to begin with. Put yourself in her shoes. She knows you are having an amnio and then say you decide to terminate the pregnancy because God forbid there is something wrong, but tell her it was a miscarriage, don't you think she'll wonder anyway if that is a result of the amino?

At any rate I hope all goes well and that this is something that won't even be an issue. T & P

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