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MIL Vent

OkieMamaOkieMama member
in July 2012 Moms
So, we told DH's parents and brother last night about the pregnancy. We told my parents and sister a week ago, but FIL was on a fishing trip and we wanted to wait until we could all be together. We told them at probably 7pm yesterday. First thing this morning, DH texted his aunt who is in the hospital right now to let her know we were praying for her and she said "thanks, love you 4...congratulations!"
Seriously, MIL? Already? 
I can understand spilling to a coworker or something, I know you're excited...but we wanted to tell the rest of the family! That goes without saying, right?
I feel especially bad for his aunt because it comes across at least in my mind like we don't love you enough to tell you ourselves. DH called her out on it and she's already called all the aunts! So much for our fun Christmas plans. Plus, I haven't even been to the dr yet, just a blood draw. It's still really early, and we were waiting. I felt bad because my family knew and wanted things to be "even" but my family is respectful and keeps quiet, so they deserve to know earlier. Note to self: don't tell in-laws until at least 12 weeks next time. Or when you are ready for the world to know.
Sorry, I don't usually vent on here, but I knew you guys would understand, plus August 14 is still strangers.
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  • OkieMamaOkieMama member
    @cbear2010 I know, and I get that but I feel like it would've cheered her even more up to hear it from us, like she's getting secondhand info and got left out of the announcement or something, you know? Btw it is not MILs sister either, it's a SIL. I'm not mad thatshe knows I'm just bummed we didn't get to tell her ourselves.
    I was super super strict last time about who could tell and when so I guess I thought it would be understood that the same rules apply. I would at least expect a, "can I?" Or "hey y'all should think about letting aunt know, it would mean a lot to her"
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    It's a little annoying ... but grandmothers do get really excited and they love sharing the news with people.  So I think if you don't want them to tell people you have to be very clear about that.  I remember telling my mom not to tell anyone and the second I said it was okay, she spent a day calling all of her siblings (she has 7 of them).
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  • OkieMamaOkieMama member
    edited December 2013
    Ok apparently I'm hormonal, duh, but I guess probably the thing that hurts my feelings the most is when I tell people and it feels like they don't want to talk about it with me, they only want to talk about it with other people. I thought I might have a text this morning saying "I still can't believe it- we're so excited!" But there was no need since she was saying that on the phone to everyone else.
    My sister also had a really crappy response so maybe I'm just being hard on everyone because I wish one person would act the way I think they should.
    I'm not really mad, just offended/hurt. I feel left out of my own fun. Am I being stupid?
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  • OkieMamaOkieMama member
    @cbear2010 DH has already been on the phone with her all morning. He was way more upset than I expected. I know she's not being malicious, just not considerate either. I overthink everything so it blows my mind when other people just act seemingly without thinking.
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    @wheelerc ugh, thank goodness MIL doesn't have a Facebook. That's majorly crossing the line!
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