Worst MIL award...

HBirdie · December 2013

If you think you deserve the award for worst MIL, tell us ONE story here (or write a paragraph about it). Whomever has the most "love its" on their post wins the award!

Edit: There is no limit to the amount of posts you can "love" in this thread.

redfallon · December 2013

This is going to be the best thread everrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!!!!!!!

happybride 276 · December 2013

I was looking for something to complain about my MIL since i not allowed to post about trying to make my 3 month old poo in the toilet.

But seriously I need to decided which story to tell. There are so many.

redfallon · December 2013

@happybride 276 said:

I was looking for something to complain about my MIL since i not allowed to post about trying to make my 3 month old poo in the toilet. But seriously I need to decided which story to tell. There are so many.

I already know you have a lot. You were my vote for the MIL award.

happybride 276 · December 2013

redfallon said:

@happybride 276 said:

I was looking for something to complain about my MIL since i not allowed to post about trying to make my 3 month old poo in the toilet.

But seriously I need to decided which story to tell. There are so many.

I already know you have a lot. You were my vote for the MIL award.

LOL. It's terrible, but entertaining to share after the fact. My favorite is the donut cake, but I feel like it should really be baby related.

csspencer · December 2013

Hmm, my MIL and I have never been close. She doesn't like where we live, because it's where I grew up, hates that I make more then DH, I could go on...but the best or worst story would have to be when I had DS. I figured I would try to make nice with her and let he be in the room with us right until it was time to push. DH told her, and she was very grateful. The day came, and we called our families. My mom, dad, sister and best friend came and later on my in laws arrived. The hospital only allowed 4 people besides DH. So when my MIL & FIL arrived my sister and father went to the waiting room. My FIL told my sister he was only staying for a little while, so he would give her the pass when he left. I was in labor for 12 hours, my MIL wouldn't let my FIL leave the room (the original agreement was only my MIL in the room), so my sister was stuck in the waiting room for the entire time and missed DS' birth. (I didn't know that was the issue, I was in extreme pain, until I got my epi) When they gave me the epi, they told me to go to sleep, she started talking to me and wouldn't shut up. She told me my labor was taking too long. That I needed to stay awake because sleeping would slow down my labor. I finally told her that sleep would help relax me, which would help speed up labor. When she finally fell asleep, my epi wore off. I was ticked. When it came time to push. My FIL got up to leave and my MIL told him to sit down that they weren't going to miss the birth of their grandson like they missed their other grandchildren (they were all c-sections). He shook his head and kept walking. DH reminded her that she needed to leave too. She flipped out, the nurse told her to get out before security gets called. She finally leaves. After DS was born, my mom went out to tell them, she insisted that they couldn't wait, that they wanted to come in right then. My mom said they are stitching her up, and she's going to breastfeed. That once everything is ready that they could go in, she freaked out and left. Mind you, my mom and best friend left as soon as DS was born, so it'd not like they got to hold him before my MIL. DH told her that if we have another child, that she will get the call after the child is born, that she lost any privilege of being there.

bumpuser10024844 · December 2013

I don't think she is the worst MIL, but she is crazy. She tasted my breast milk and told me about it later. Then, she compared it to her daughter's milk. And she is always telling me how rich it is. Just today she said she's never seen milk as rich as mine. LOL

MallardDucky · December 2013

I got one! I got pregnant with ds1 when Mr duck was still in the Army delpoyed and home on R&R. About 2 weeks after he went back to the sandbox I found out I was pregnant. Told him over yahoo messenger. He told his parents a few days later. I was around 5 weeks ( that included the 2 weeks before O) She called me at 3 am and yelled and screamed that the baby wasn't his and I cheated on him and there was no way he could be her sons. Well delivery time came and ds1 is Papa ducks mini me down to the same cowlick. MIL still says he is not his because the date didn't match. Appreantly 32 years ago they didn't go by a full 40 weeks. Hahaha. I told her would a blood test make you happy? She said yes and I said well then you pay for it and I will do it. Not much of a peep to my face about it in a while.

blinnea23 · December 2013

Idk how the heck I hit the abuse flag

sorry! I took it off

Eta: my mother in law story is: She stayed in the delivery room until DH had to ask her to leave to which she is hurt about. Then after only waiting 40 minutes she asked a nurse to get my DH so they could see the baby. I couldn't hold DD yet due them doing apgar and me getting stitched up and she complains that they waited "forever"

elm005 · December 2013

My DH is Indian and I am Caucasian. Our DS is much lighter skinned than even I expected. Well MIL is always looking him over and trying to gauge his color. The other day she finally said that he was starting to get a little color and she guessed she was satisfied with that... Wtf? First if all, I sure as hell don't care what you are or are not satisfied with MIL! Especially after you told me I was getting fat when I was pregnant. And that you would be living with us until you were comfortable with my ability to BF and bathe DS. (This didn't happen) Oh the list could go on forever...

Bamgal25 · December 2013

Even though my MIL can be very annoying at times, I know I dont have the worst MIL so I won't try to compete with you all... I'll just mention that mine is the one who complained that my DH didnt spend enough time with her on OUR wedding day. And she asks weird questions about my breast milk. And invites herself over to our house all the time. Ok, that's all

mrsmoxie · December 2013

I don't think I have the worse MIL, some of you have terrible ones, but here's mine for funsies.

A few years ago, DH and I, back when we were not married, had saved $10,000 as a down payment for our first house. Well, as his mom, she had some of his checks to his account, the account with all that money, at her house. We didn't think anything of it. When it came down to getting the cashier's check for the down payment, that $10,000 was gone. She had access to his account, since he was in high school when he opened that account. MIL had taken it out, with his checks, because she "needed" the money. Without asking us. We almost didn't get a mortgage because of it. Luckily she hadn't used the money yet, and we got it back as soon as we found out and DH freaked out.

We no longer trust her with anything and have since closed that bank account.

happybride 276 · December 2013

FutureMrs07282012 said:
I don't think I have the worse MIL, some of you have terrible ones, but here's mine for funsies.

A few years ago, DH and I, back when we were not married, had saved $10,000 as a down payment for our first house. Well, as his mom, she had some of his checks to his account, the account with all that money, at her house. We didn't think anything of it. When it came down to getting the cashier's check for the down payment, that $10,000 was gone. She had access to his account, since he was in high school when he opened that account. MIL had taken it out, with his checks, because she "needed" the money. Without asking us. We almost didn't get a mortgage because of it. Luckily she hadn't used the money yet, and we got it back as soon as we found out and DH freaked out.

We no longer trust her with anything and have since closed that bank account.

That is some cold lotion. I thought I had the worst MIL, but she would never take money from us. I still need to figure out which story to tell. It's just hard to sum up her crazy in just one.

happybride 276 · December 2013

Ok, I decided that I can not beat the mom stealing thousands of dollars post, so I am going to just bullet point MIL craziness, and because it's just flat out good to release the tension.

- MIL demanded that we were going to have a tiered cake made out of donuts. Not only does that sound trashy to me, my husband is a cop. This is wrong on so many levels. I had to threaten her in order for her to take me seriously.

-MIL constantly invites SIL to our house without telling us (we have no relationship with her) or against us telling her SIL can't come over.

- MIL said I was a bad mother because I was going to coddle my son and not fly to Florida at 3 weeks to hang out in a hotel while H went out and had fun.

- MIL mocked our name and kept claiming we were naming him after someone we know. She couldn't understand that we liked the name and wasn't honoring an acquaintance.

-MIL will never like any picture on FB that has me in it unless she intentionally excludes me and references her boys (my H and son)

- MIL never told me she was sorry for my dad's passing. No phone call no message. At his funeral the first the she did was ask to take my son from me. I told her I needed him to comfort me and keep it together. She came up to me three or four other times asking to take my son from me.

-If ever confronted on any of this she gets so mad and refuses to talk to not only me but also my husband and recently her husband.

Mags128 · December 2013

I don't think I can beat the MIL stealing the money but my MIL is pretty bad. I will also do a bullet point list.

- A few months before we got married it was Christmas time. She stayed at our house on Christmas Eve and then we drove to my mothers house on Christmas Day. Before Christmas we asked her what she wanted for Christmas and she told us a very expensive perfume. We then bought her the perfume she wanted. As we are opening presents DH got me a winter coat. She told DH in Portuguese that she actually wanted the jacket and to take it from me for her. Luckily he did not do that
- Later on that day while we are at my mothers house she managed to get tipsy, hit on my 80 year old grandfather, make racist gestures about my cousins kids and then tried to use my moms treadmill with heels on. My mom had to unplug the machine and DH had to yell at her to get off.
- Finally at the end of the day we are driving her home and at this point I just want her out of my car. DH turns the car off and brings his mothers presents into the house. He comes out and tries to start the car and it won't start. We live in New England so its about 20 degrees out. We call AAA and are waiting when we see MIL leave her house. She sees our car and walks over and gets in and asks that we drive her somewhere. We tell her our car isn't working so she gets out of the car, gets into her car and drives away. She left us sitting in a car outside her house with no heat when it was 20 degrees out.

Since DD has been born she has called us lazy for having a swing, told us how easy infants are and kept calling the baby "my baby".

imakeeff0rts · December 2013

ugh. Mags, your MIL sounds awful.

barnratash · December 2013

This thread makes me want to go hug my MIL. I feel horribly for all of you! I don't know how you deal with it.

aislinsmom · December 2013

My MIL has said and done dozens (maybe hundreds?) of offensive things to me over the years but I think this one is the worst.

My daughter is 7, and by no means overweight or out of shape. If anything she's a bit small for her age. She is not, however, stick-figure thin - which is apparently how my MIL thinks she should be. She has told my daughter on several occasions that she is "chubby," and that she needs to exercise more because she's getting "dimples" on her thighs. She also patted her belly and told her she'd better start doing sit-ups.

I had to talk to my MIL about her hurtful comments but unfortunately my daughter now is very self-conscious about her weight.

bumpuser10024844 · December 2013

jenny5o5 said:

My MIL has said and done dozens (maybe hundreds?) of offensive things to me over the years but I think this one is the worst. My daughter is 7, and by no means overweight or out of shape. If anything she's a bit small for her age. She is not, however, stick-figure thin - which is apparently how my MIL thinks she should be. She has told my daughter on several occasions that she is "chubby," and that she needs to exercise more because she's getting "dimples" on her thighs. She also patted her belly and told her she'd better start doing sit-ups. I had to talk to my MIL about her hurtful comments but unfortunately my daughter now is very self-conscious about her weight.
That is terrible, I honestly would flip out. A lot of these mother in law stories are obnoxious and annoying but they are directed at the parents and not the kid. Your poor daughter!!

I would be so mad too! What a horrible thing to say!

stephl3055 · December 2013

This is my favorite one-liner from MIL.

H and I were engaged and planning our wedding when MIL asked me if my dress was white. I told her it was and then she shrugged and said "Good thing you aren't getting married in Vietnam (H is Vietnamese) because a priest would never let you wear a white dress if he knew about the things you had done."

happybride 276 · December 2013

I also need to add that MIL offered to carry our child (before we were married and I stole her son from her) if we couldn't get pregnant.

bumpuser10024844 · December 2013

happybride 276 said:

I also need to add that MIL offered to carry our child (before we were married and I stole her son from her) if we couldn't get pregnant.

dukeblue27 · December 2013

Seriously WTF is wrong with all these women??? My MIL sometimes says stuff because she just doesn't think but some of you ladies have MIL that are seriously mental!!!! I am so sorry for you all!

Bamgal25 · December 2013

happybride 276 said:
I also need to add that MIL offered to carry our child (before we were married and I stole her son from her) if we couldn't get pregnant.

Dang, your MIL is for real crazy! And very passive aggressive.

blinnea23 · December 2013

Holy crap. My MIL is annoying but you all have some crazies!

imakeeff0rts · December 2013

This is my new favorite thread.

happybride 276 · December 2013

hlcollums said:

happybride 276 said:

I also need to add that MIL offered to carry our child (before we were married and I stole her son from her) if we couldn't get pregnant.

Exactly. As much as I have always dreamed of having a child I would rather not. EVER.

jlp0528 · December 2013

happybride 276 said:

hlcollums said:

happybride 276 said:

I also need to add that MIL offered to carry our child (before we were married and I stole her son from her) if we couldn't get pregnant.

Exactly. As much as I have always dreamed of having a child I would rather not. EVER.

Ew. Ew. Ew. That shit is just beyond weird.

ravenclaw1 · December 2013

This thread makes my MIL seem like an utter saint

erink7211 · December 2013

Ahhhh this is therapeutic. Here we go...

DH's dad passed away suddenly and unexpectedly earlier last year. MIL is his ex-wife and had been remarried for about 6 years. There was a ton of drama with her and coming to the funeral because she thought her baby (DH) needed her to cry on (which absolutely wasn't true). That was bad but she's managed to make it even worse since DS was born.
She lives across the country and since she couldn't come to my baby shower she said she wanted to take me shopping for baby stuff after DS was born. The time came for us to go and we went to lunch first. She then proceeded to tell me how upset she is that she wasn't allowed at the funeral and how much she despises her ex-husbands current wife (now widow). Then she goes on to tell me how DH's dad would not have liked the name we chose for DS and how we should have been more respectful in our decision. We finally went shopping and anytime I pointed out something she would just say "John (DHs dad) wouldn't have liked that. Let's get something else." Anytime we talked about something baby related (CDing, BFing, etc) she would just say that John would have been disappointed because that's not how they raised their chikdren. To top it all off when we got back to the house that night she had the nerve to tell DH that I must be suffering from PPD because I was obviously not in the right mind to be raising our child since everything we are doing goes against how her and her ex-husband did things.

We haven't spoken since.

DaniB091 · December 2013

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happybride 276 said:
I also need to add that MIL offered to carry our child (before we were married and I stole her son from her) if we couldn't get pregnant.

I just learned how to gif on mobile for the sole purpose of responding to this like:

GIFSoup

That is so weird and gross and shocking!

TKtravels · December 2013

I'm no stranger to bitching about my MIL, and she's said/done some questionable things that really hurt at the time, but damn.. I don't think I'm going to be able to complain about my MIL for a while.

Kristonita12 · December 2013

Mine definitely doesn't win, but I'll bite:

After DH and I posted a picture of DD's nursery on Facebook, MIL commented "It's pretty, but where is all of the stuff from OUR family?" I replied "It's all there.."but they hadn't really given us any nursery items, just clothes, so there wasn't much to show off in the picture of her nursery. She proceeded to email DH and say she felt like she needed to remind him that his brother left his wife because her family was more important to her than his family and that she thought DH should recognize this trait in me, also. When he called her on the absurdity of that and said we were very much in love and give both families equal attention, she went on a jealous tirade (ALL VIA EMAIL AFTER HE HUNG UP) about how I need to see my mom and dad less, they shouldn't provide childcare since she can't see DD every day, too, and how my mom needed to stop touching my belly (while pregnant). She said that my dad was in every picture of my baby shower. It made me laugh because she TOOK those pictures and they were all of the gift opening, which is the only time my dad sat next to me. Also, those pictures prove that she didn't really give us anything haha.

Like I said, it's not as bad as it could be, but it's still pretty damn obnoxious.

renee6465 · December 2013

Unfortunately, my MIL is so bsc her own son has nothing to do with her. I have not seen or spoken to her in quite some time but here is just a little about her. DISCLAIMER: This makes my and her family sound like complete trash which is not true at all, we just have a couple special snowflakes.

DH and I started dating back in high school several years ago. I thought it was so strange he never wanted me to meet MIL. I completely understand now. Well MIL and my uncle knew of each other through mutual friends. I was unaware of this until they started DATING. Long story short MIL moved into MY grandparents house....(This is where my 38 year old uncle lives because he is a complete sack of shit) I was obviously not ok with this nor was either's family. Fast forward a little bit and MIL actually stole my grandmother's jewelry and did a handful of other things. I actually just deleted voicemails on my phone from about a year ago of her screaming that she was going to come into my work and start a scene blah blah blah pretty sure it was a drug enraged fit but it was completely obnoxious. She's done other things like left FIL when they were married living in Hawaii for the military to shack up with three other men. It goes on and on. I feel bad DH has no relationship with her but I'm so glad I don't have to deal with her.

bumpuser10024844 · December 2013

Yeah, most of these stories make all of your MILs sound like terrible people! I'm sure some of them are.

My MIL is not a terrible person. My MIL is just crazy, like I said. She is 55 and she still wears bikinis. And trust me, she does not have the body for it. For some reason, the way she carries her weight, she looks pregnant. People ask her pretty often when she is due. For a long time, she looked more pregnant than I did. And she always told me that she looked more pregnant than me. Doesn't stop her from wearing a bikini though.

During the summer, she is obessed with getting a tan, so she will just put on her bikini and go out and work in the yard.

Oh, and if any of her grandkids are being picky eaters, she tells them that their spetzels or boobies won't grow....I'm going to have to put a stop to that one.

But see? She's just crazy.

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