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Gender Reveal Parties

AimeeSue02AimeeSue02 member
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I wanted to ask what is the norm for these type of parties. My pregnant friend is having a housewarming/gender reveal party tonight. I can't attend because I live two hours away and the weather is very poor - snowy and cold - but I texted her a congratulations and that I was happy for her. She replied and in that text mentioned that she already knows the sex (she couldn't wait) and was excited to tell everyone.

I guess my question is, isn't the purpose of a gender reveal party for the parents to find out the sex as well as the guests? Like, you cut into a cake and it is either pink or blue, etc? To me, having her and her husband know already seems weird....like, couldn't you just tell me over the phone then? For some reason, this has annoyed me all day - if I had actually driven there for this party, I would have been disappointed to learn she already knew. Like, she took the magic of the whole "reveal" part of the party away! 

I know it is also a housewarming party, so there is just more than the baby thing, but it kinda sits weird with me. What do you think? Am I just being grumpy because I can't go? ;-)
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  • Shoegal36Shoegal36 member
    I totally agree with you that it's strange. I thought the whole point was to share your surprise with your family and friends. It seems kind of...odd for someone to assume that other people care that much what they're having that they need to come to their party to find out. 

    But I also find big extravagant gender reveal parties AWish. I think something small with family is ok, but the big parties are weird to me.  
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  • TradeMamaTradeMama member
    My brother and SIL did this. They live 12 hours away and even though they knew they refused to tell me until after. So of course I found out on Facebook.
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  • AimeeSue02AimeeSue02 member
    Shantxtell said:
    Wrong board again?
    Nope, I'm a May 13 mom....it is my friend that is pregnant. I know a few ladies on here had gender reveal parties so I wanted an opinion.
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    scormier123 said:
    I totally agree with you that it's strange. I thought the whole point was to share your surprise with your family and friends. It seems kind of...odd for someone to assume that other people care that much what they're having that they need to come to their party to find out. 

    But I also find big extravagant gender reveal parties AWish. I think something small with family is ok, but the big parties are weird to me.  
    This is how I feel too! It just really rubbed me the wrong way. I don't care what the sex of your baby is. I cared about seeing YOU get happy/surprised/shocked. Now it just seems like, "I have a secret and I'm not telling you..."

    I found out on Facebook now that she is having a girl (she posted a video of everyone's reaction. AW). On an related note....she also announced the name. Her sister couldn't be there either and was on FaceTime and the name she announced was the name her sister picked out if she ever had a girl (even I knew this!). The sister started getting upset and my friend hung up on her! I'm shocked she could act so childishly. You don't steal people's long dreamed of baby names. You just don't (it was Lilliana).  
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  • huzzahuzzahuzzahuzza member
    Wow! That's all I can say without being rude since you're still calling her "friend"
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    annarussell05 said:

    Gender reveal parties = obnoxious

    I agree with this and I think it's so much worse when the pregnant woman knows ahead of time.
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  • 1and1is31and1is3 member
    Oh wow yeah that is totally weird! I had a gender reveal cake at Thanksgiving with just my family and we revealed the name too. It was great but not something I would do again because it was too hard to wait. I think announcing it in a cute way is cool but yeah a whole party when you already know is dumb.


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  • Schell2013Schell2013 member
    Meh to me it seems like a whole pile of unnecessary work, when you could just tell people just as easy.
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  • AimeeSue02AimeeSue02 member
    MOtownMama said:
    I loved my gender reveal. We popped black ballons which ended up having blue confetti inside. we fou nd at the same time as everyone elase and everyone had a balloon to pop. I agree that it is weird to find out early and then still have a party.

    Agree! I don't think they are bad per se, but if the parents already know....that seems weird! Its sweet if they are finding out too.
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  • surpriseadditionsurpriseaddition member
    Regarding claimed names....that just sucked. No matter how much you like a name, there are other names to pick. When I was preggo, my daughter told me I couldn't use a name because she wanted to name her boy that (my daughter is 15). Even though I was confident her choice in names would most likely change over the next 10 years before she had kids....I moved on. Lilliana is not that common of a name that it would make sense for cousins to have it. The name I was interested in was Jacob.


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  • TheyCalledHerKateTheyCalledHerKate member
    Okay, I want to know what the sister said!
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  • smg2302smg2302 member
    I'm not a fan of gender reveal parties.  As it is, people get up in arms about etiquette for baby showers, so adding another party in the mix definitely seems AWish.  Do you bring a gift?  Do you do it for LO2?

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