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janinekrause
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not really loving BFing
janinekrause
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does it get easier? it isnt hard so much as i feel like it takes so much of my time with DD, that when i am done i put her down a lot instead of playing etc. my DH plays with her all the time but i feel like all i do is BF.
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let me know your thoughts. She is almost 3 weeks old. she is also going through a really crappy 2 days of being constantly fussy which may be getting to me.?
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Re: not really loving BFing
it does get easier. ?it got a lot easier for me after the 6th week growth spurt. ?that week i got mastitis and he was eating every 45 minutes and i thought i was going to die.
but it does get better. ?hang in there and visit kellymom.com - there forums are great for BFing support.
also try calling an LC if you are feeling really desperate. ??
It does get easier! Eventually they don't eat as often and get quicker at it so it won't always feel like all you do is feed her. I had a hard time the first couple of weeks. I finally started watching movies while I was feeding her and it helped pass the time. I'd just put a DVD in in the morning, pause it when she was finished with a feeding and start it up again the next time it was time for her to eat.
She may be going through a growth spurt as well, so hopefully the fussiness will ease up soon!
I wrote a similar post right at 3 weeks as well. I was about ready to quit for sure. At the time DS was going through his 3 week growth spurt and it sucked. I was constantly feeding and felt like it was all I did (now that he's going through the 6 week growth spurt I feel like that again).
Iris gave me a link to her blog and it inspired me to keep going. I felt tons better after reading it. I've continued for a few more weeks and it got easier during week 4! Week 5 has been hard again, but I know it will get better again once my supply bulks up a bit more. Hang in there...it does get better!!
I swear, BFing is the hardest thing I've ever done.
BTW, I feel like I'm "bonding" more with DS now...I certainly felt the opposite at 3 weeks, if that's any consolation at all.
It definitely gets easier and I absolutely LOVE our cuddle time together. I look foward to feedings! Hang in there, it's worth it!
FWIW, I had a bad case of thrush around week 4 and it was absolute hell - but we got through it and things are great now!
It really does get easier! In a few weeks it won't take so long to finish a feeding and your baby will become more interactive.
3 weeks is a major growth spurt time, which would explain the fussiness and constant feeding. Its totally normal and will be over soon.
TBH I didn't like Bfing so much for at least the first 5 weeks.. it hurt and took forever, but now I love our relationship and I can't imagine not having this cloesness with my daughter. Stick with it, its worth it!
I know exactly how you feel. ?I actually like the BFing part (now that we both have it down, that is) but I do feel like I am holding her all.the.time so that as soon as she drifts off, I swaddle her and put her down.
I pumped for the first time last night (3 1/2 oz - woohoo) so I am hoping things get a little better in a couple of weeks when I have DH give her a bottle a day to free me up a little and get her use to it for when I go back to work.?
It really does get easier. People who say, "its natural, you'll love it" are so wrong. Sure, it's natural, but for me and DS, it didn't mean it came naturally. Or that you'll love how every time you finish, it seems like they are ready again. The first weeks/months are hard. But if you grim and bear, it will eventually get better. She'll sleep longer, and you will eventually have more time on your hands. But you'd doing great, keep it up and GL!
Me either. DH and I nearly gave in on Friday night (DD was eating eery hour).
Sounds like your DD is hitting a growth spurt, too.
I don't know if it gets easier, or if you just get use to it.
With my first I was bound and determined to not feed him any formula for a year. I am much more relaxed with my seconded. If I need a break, he gets a bottle of formula from DH or MIL. (I hate pumping and just don't have time with a toddler).
I feel the same way about it being all I do. I can't believe how time consuming it is!! I knew it wouldn't be easy, but I really had no idea...
Today was the first day I didn't dread BFing every time due to painful nipples. I feel like DD and I are getting a little better at it, so maybe in time it will be fine.
Us: Me (27) Hubby (27) Married since 7/24/10
BFP #1: 10/30/2007 DS born 06/20/2008
BFP#2 09/11/2014 DD born 05/01/2015
DS 09/2008
Use the time that you are feeding your baby to talk to her and make eye contact, rub her feet, hold her hands. This time is interactive and bonding, even though you're not necessarily playing.