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Negative behaviors with autism/AS

mommyof4boysmommyof4boys member
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Chris had a rough day on Friday.  We started the day with Matthew waking up to red eyes and me thinking he might have pink eye.  Chris started in with a "My belly hurts" but we sent him in to school since he wasn't throwing up/feverish, etc.  He went in and told his teacher his eye hurt.  He sent him to the nurse who looked at him and said he's fine.  He promptly told the teacher that his belly hurt and he was sent back down.  She called and I told her I thought he was ok and he was looking to come home to play Wii.  She sent him back to class and he freaked out screaming, crying, etc.  He told the teacher he needed to go back to the nurse and when she said no since he was already there he screamed more and yelled to her that he was going to be bad for the rest of the day.  She called us around 12:30 to let us know what was going on.  She also pulled him out of a speech session since it was a group session and she didn't want him to bother the other kids.  She also pulled his use of his tablet (which is also used as his AAC) and wouldn't give him access; I have an issue with this one and it will be addressed.  He needs access to his voice and that could have been part of the problem.  The Supervisor for Special Ed was there observing her; she had left an IEP meeting we had where she was with us to observe the teacher) and witness everything.  We were still at the IEP meeting when she called us.  The supervisor asked her to relay a message to our case manager to have a meeting for Chris to set up a FBA on him.  

I talked to him about his behavior since he pulls the same "Fine, I'm going to be bad" routine with me.  I don't tolerate it.  I let him alone and let him have his meltdown and when he's worked it out he comes back and we go back to what we were doing as if it didn't happen.  It seems to be part of a meltdown rather than bad behavior as far as the "I'm going to be bad" thing.

He pulled the same stuff with me tonight while we were at a book fair at Barnes and Noble.  I carried him into the bathroom and let him have his meltdown where people didn't see.  That was super fun holding him like a football through the store as he was kicking and screaming at me.  Once he calmed down and realized I wasn't buying every book he asked for he was ok.  He tried the same as we were paying for the one book I let the boys have. He wanted a bookmark to which I responded "Ask Santa" and shoved DH out with the kids so he wouldn't melt again.  

Besides the FBA showing the obvious of he isn't getting his own way what more can I do?  I'm not giving in to everything he wants.  Would it be reasonable to suggest that they let him work out his meltdown and not get up in his face so to speak until it's done?
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Re: Negative behaviors with autism/AS

  • thefuturemrskudlathefuturemrskudla member
    Auntie,
    How do you deal with the maturity lag, so to speak? Especially around obnoxious, tantrum behaviors?
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  • mommyof4boysmommyof4boys member
    I disagreed with pulling him out of speech too. IMO, he's going to know that if I misbehave I can get out of doing things by this happening. As far as the tablet, google gave the district tablets for every kid and the district is studying their usage in the classroom. His AAC is more a type to talk since his vocabulary is more advanced than a pecs or communication board. He uses it when he's not understood as his artic is the issue. I agree with her saying f You can't play games but didn't agree with her taking his voice away so to speak. I don't want him secluded. I typically ignore him and go about what I am doing. When we are in public I remove him and just go home. Last night we were at a book fair where Jon's artwork was being displayed. He was chosen as one of a group of kids who had art projects displayed. I couldn't leave the building so I removed him so the other boys could still be there. As far as the BCBA, the person who would do it has worked with him and us before. She has disagreed with previous teachers before and told me what I was doing was what she would suggest. He had a phase where we were hit, kicked, punched, etc rather than him saying he was mad. Now he does both. The developmental ped suggested a behaviorist come to the home for Jon and Chris. I was too busy working on an IEE for Jon and subsequent due process to fill out the paperwork. I'm thinking over break would be perfect. I can't do much more of him. They spent Friday night at the in laws. I dropped them off around 5:30 and picked the boys up yesterday at 5. Not a full 24 hours and there were issues. The last time the boys stayed the weekend was over a year ago. I need a break and they won't offer if he is like this,
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  • mommyof4boysmommyof4boys member
    Pardon the lack of paragraphs I am on my iPad.
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