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NBR: Might be moving in the spring

cpm1223cpm1223 member
in January 2014 Moms
I'll try and make this short....and I'm on my ipad so it's going to be a stupid wall of text....my grandfather has severe Alzheimer's and he was recently moved into a facility because it was unsafe for him to live alone anymore (he had nurses coming over 12-16 hours per day, but was leaving the house at night...not good.) His house is in the same town as my parents and it's about 40 minutes from where we live now. Pros: we'd be living in a 3 bedroom house and paying the same as we do now for our 1 bedroom, we'd be close to my parents (who are awesome), my commute would be different but not any longer than it is now to work. Cons: H would have a longer and possibly traffic-y commute to work, we'd be far away from MIL (ok maybe this isn't a con, but she's probably going to make us feel bad) and we'd be farther from our friends who lives around where we live now. H is on board as of now....I was worried he'd say no because of how much more it would effect him more than me. I don't want to move soon (obviously) but would rather wait til early spring with things settle down a bit. Is this a no brainer, as in hell yes we should move?

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Re: NBR: Might be moving in the spring

  • KismcKismc member
    So sorry your grandfather isn't doing well. I'm glad he's living somewhere that he's safe.

    As far as your living arrangements, it all sounds like a great idea! Go for it!
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  • cpm1223cpm1223 member
    Ahhh I just re-read this and I sound likes total asshole when it comes to my grandfather. He's been sick for a long time, doing much better now that he's in a safer place. My family wants to keep the house "in the family" which is why we were offered to rent it. I feel terrible that my grandfather can't live there anymore, but I'm glad he's being taken care where he is.

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  • megs12914megs12914 member
    I would move as well. I don't think it is a no-brainer though because it is a hard choice! My DH was super close to his grandfather who had terrible dementia so I know this can be super hard.
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  • KismcKismc member
    I didn't think your post was assholey at all!
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  • MamaP19MamaP19 member
    KaitiMac said:
    I didn't think you sounded like an asshole and I think it's great that your parents want to keep his house in the family.

    I'd definitely move, especially if DH is okay with the new commute. A 3 bedroom for the same price as a 1 and closer to the grandparents? WIN!
    ^ what she said.
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  • AnnikaD20AnnikaD20 member
    It seems like a no-brainer to me. But housing is one of those things where you have to take your gut feelings into account. Like, what feels like "home"? Based just on what you said though, I'd move for sure.
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