Christmas Card Announcement

QSerMama · December 2013

Hi Ladies!

We're planning on announcing our pregnancy to friends and family through our Christmas card this year. The thing is, we really don't want anything posted about it on FB yet. Is there any 'nice' way to include a way to say 'don't mention baby on FB" without it sounding so 'not nice' ? lol. The cards are printed, so I can't write it on them, nor would I want to. DH and I have thought about disabling our walls..but people could still tag or write a post about us. Any ideas/suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you!

Valie18 · December 2013

IMO, once you are out to friends you're out. Maybe hold off sending the cards until you're ready to be out. Or stagger them somehow so that you know your family finds out first.

ekcarrington · December 2013

You could just add a PS on your card like "Shhh! We're not Facebook Official yet!"

whoberry · December 2013

My opinion- if you are announcing it to a large group of people via a Christmas card people are going to think it's ok to talk about it in public. Once you let a secret like that out it's really hard to control. I've only told close family so far and my own DH already slipped up in front of some one.

You can control your own FB, but not what other people do. If you are concerned about people posting on there I would edit your settings. Isn't there a way you can review anything that's posted on your wall or tagged with you in it before it goes public?

I don't mean to be rude, but if someone mailed me a pregnancy announcement with a note about not posting anything on FB I would wonder why the heck they were sending out announcements. Maybe you should wait to send them out until you are ready for it to end up on FB?

QSerMama · December 2013

I agree with all of you, and after re-reading what I wrote, it didn't come off how I wanted to. We're comfortable with everyone knowing and people talking about the baby/pregnancy. We just wanted to make sure that we're the first to announce on FB after the cards are sent out. I guess our best option is to try and limit tagging and deactivating our wall. There are only a few people on FB who I would rather not know bc I work in the same district as them (I am a teacher) and don't plan on telling work until we get back from Christmas break.

Thank you for all of your input.

whoberry · December 2013

QSerMama said:

I agree with all of you, and after re-reading what I wrote, it didn't come off how I wanted to. We're comfortable with everyone knowing and people talking about the baby/pregnancy. We just wanted to make sure that we're the first to announce on FB after the cards are sent out. I guess our best option is to try and limit tagging and deactivating our wall. There are only a few people on FB who I would rather not know bc I work in the same district as them (I am a teacher) and don't plan on telling work until we get back from Christmas break. Thank you for all of your input.

Oh I see. That makes more sense! FB privacy settings confuse me since they always seem to change. I thought there was a way you could limit who can see your status updates? If so maybe you guys could announce there and just block it from those people you don't want to see? Then hopefully everyone would comment on that update and it would be easier to control than having random people comment when they get your card. Good luck!

MNOpea · December 2013

I think there is a setting where you have to approve when people tag you? I could be wrong but I thought I had previously seen that

babyt614 · December 2013

We sent a letter w/ our xmas cards recapping our year and saying how excited we were for baby. the last paragraph we wrote that we were so excited to finally share our news but wanted to make sure our near and dear friends found out first and asked that if they wanted to share in our joy that they do it some other way than social media until the end of the month when we are sure all our closest friends got their cards in the mail. SO far everyone has been super respectful of that request, even the ones who blew my engagement news on fb before we had finished calling everyone

I think it helps if its not the ONLY thing you write them.

MrsRahl · December 2013

You can disable people from tagging you and also from anyone posting on your wall. They'll be forced to private message you. But if they just want to say it online without tagging you, there's never anything you can do. I'd just try to swiftly get it out to everyone or wait.

anordstrWed114947 · December 2013

You can try, shhh wait until everyone gets one please. Make them think its the mail fault.

rachel8078 · December 2013

My MIL just blew our news on FB, even though I told her H was uncomfortable with the whole world knowing... Didn't have an option but to announce at that point

good thing we'd gotten to tell our VIPs in person already!

Good luck keeping it on the DL!

kjohnson1002 · December 2013

I have it set on my account that I have to approve everything that is posted to my wall. We told family on Thanksgiving and my aunt was the first to write anything on Facebook and I hadnt mentioned anything yet. So I have not allowed her post on my wall yet until I make it official. Set your settings for that and you should be good. I also feel like it's no ones place to make a comment if you haven't already. It's always shocking to me when people write things on others' walls without having it be official.

redhotpirate21 · December 2013

QSerMama said:
I agree with all of you, and after re-reading what I wrote, it didn't come off how I wanted to. We're comfortable with everyone knowing and people talking about the baby/pregnancy. We just wanted to make sure that we're the first to announce on FB after the cards are sent out. I guess our best option is to try and limit tagging and deactivating our wall. There are only a few people on FB who I would rather not know bc I work in the same district as them (I am a teacher) and don't plan on telling work until we get back from Christmas break.

Thank you for all of your input.

I'm in the same boat!! (Also a teacher!) We're doing a Christmas card announcement but I'm not telling people at school until after break. I'm in a new district this year and not FB friends with anyone from school but I hear ya. I am thinking of temporarily deactivating my account until after break just to be sure (I did this when I got engaged and didn't want anyone to prematurely reveal our news.) On the off chance someone at work finds out before I tell them I'll just explain I wanted to tell my family over the holidays first. No one can fault you for that.

QSerMama · December 2013

redhotpirate21 said:

I agree with all of you, and after re-reading what I wrote, it didn't come off how I wanted to. We're comfortable with everyone knowing and people talking about the baby/pregnancy. We just wanted to make sure that we're the first to announce on FB after the cards are sent out. I guess our best option is to try and limit tagging and deactivating our wall. There are only a few people on FB who I would rather not know bc I work in the same district as them (I am a teacher) and don't plan on telling work until we get back from Christmas break. Thank you for all of your input.
I'm in the same boat!! (Also a teacher!) We're doing a Christmas card announcement but I'm not telling people at school until after break. I'm in a new district this year and not FB friends with anyone from school but I hear ya. I am thinking of temporarily deactivating my account until after break just to be sure (I did this when I got engaged and didn't want anyone to prematurely reveal our news.) On the off chance someone at work finds out before I tell them I'll just explain I wanted to tell my family over the holidays first. No one can fault you for that.

Deactivating is a great idea too! I'll have to talk to hubby and see what he would rather do. It's my second year in district, but my first as a teacher. There are a couple of HS/College acquaintances who I happen to be friends on FB with and they also work in district, different school, same department. That makes sense - saying you wanted to tell your family first. I'll have to keep that in mind if the same issue arises with me. When are you due?

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