Vent-Some sleep is better than no sleep

lafsalot · December 2013

LO fought a good fight last night.... She slept about 2 hours in her bassinet then we nursed for 15 minutes and changed 2 diapers and she was down for about an hour, then she was up for over 4 hours. Mommy hadn't has a nap with her yesterday, so I was beat... I gave up on outting her back down and slept in the recliner.... She took about 15 minutes to settle down and pass out in mommy.... I'm so tired. I was so mad at DH and sobbed in the bathroom for 10 minutes swearing that there was no way I could do this again... (DH, FIL and my mom want a boy) I would be 39-40 before I could physically have another one and can't fathom 2-3 years of no sleep.

Going to give pumping a try today so I can have DH give her a bottle and give me a break!

I love her so much but she is constantly attached to me and when DH popped off the pediatrician said it's ok to let her cry, I silently wept and could have ripped his head off. He has time for himself and his body does ache when the baby is hungry...

Thanks for reading my vent... At least now I've had a little more sleep... She's stirring but it's because she's been working on a dirty diaper.

We are suppose to get her to sleep in her space so I get rest... But I can't rest if she won't lay down... At least on me we both sleep.

Deliadorel · December 2013

I'm sorry you are going through this;(
I'm sure every mom out here is experienceing a level of tiredness or difficulty.
However, I've already introduced the bottle, (we are two weeks old Mobday) and during the night my H gives one/two to him. Lil one is not confused between the breast and the bottle. The hospital gave us slow flow Nipples and they work on any Medela bottle. So far so good. Lil one is happy and I'm getting some 3-5 h of straight sleep.
Good luck!!!

hollowway · December 2013

I started bedsharing with DD a few days ago. She was impossible at night because she didn't want to sleep in her bassinet. It was taking hours to get her to go back to sleep in her own bed after waking up to feed. I wasn't getting any sleep and we were both unhappy. I have a queen size bed and SO works nights, so it's only me and DD home at night. I brought her to bed with me the other day and got a bit more sleep than usual. Then last night was amazing. I can feel her stirring and I can hear every tiny noise she makes. I wake up, change her diaper, and pop a boob in her mouth while laying down next to her. She falls asleep nursing and I fall back to sleep as well. No more fuss about swaddling her and trying to get her to sleep in het bassinet. In the morning, SO comes home and crawls in, with me in the middle, and we all snuggle for an hour before DD wakes up for the day.

I'll probably catch a ration of shit for having her in bed with me, but it makes life so much easier and more enjoyable.

PeachsMama · December 2013

MaMaBear1323 said:
I started bedsharing with DD a few days ago. She was impossible at night because she didn't want to sleep in her bassinet. It was taking hours to get her to go back to sleep in her own bed after waking up to feed. I wasn't getting any sleep and we were both unhappy. I have a queen size bed and SO works nights, so it's only me and DD home at night. I brought her to bed with me the other day and got a bit more sleep than usual. Then last night was amazing. I can feel her stirring and I can hear every tiny noise she makes. I wake up, change her diaper, and pop a boob in her mouth while laying down next to her. She falls asleep nursing and I fall back to sleep as well. No more fuss about swaddling her and trying to get her to sleep in het bassinet. In the morning, SO comes home and crawls in, with me in the middle, and we all snuggle for an hour before DD wakes up for the day.

I'll probably catch a ration of shit for having her in bed with me, but it makes life so much easier and more enjoyable.

Im in the same boat. My DH doesn't work nights though so I go to the living room to nurse because he needs his sleep for work but LO is out as soon as we lay down versus spending an hour getting him to sleep in his bassinet or the swing. It's so much nicer! I keep working at getting him to sleep without being by me during the day but when I'm tired I just want to cuddle LO and sleep. Not worry about getting him to sleep in the right place.

JamieCallow · December 2013

Same here!! DS screamed last night for hours and we couldn't figure out what was wrong....I was totally against bed sharing but sometimes it is sooooo much easier after hours of tears from him and I!! Last night DH got the idea to swaddle him and ge was out in a few mins but that does nit always work!

TJHine · December 2013

I've been sleeping with LO since one week in when he flat out refused to sleep anywhere else. I love it, and have been looking into getting rails or something similar since he is getting bigger and will eventually start rolling...I love the extra snuggles and we sleep so much better!

SharonB222 · December 2013

I had a tough night here also. Got a headache. I'm a STM (at age 41 BTW) so I know this phase passes, but I still feel cranky today. I tried the bassinet last night once or twice but ended up co-sleeping. As a FTM I did not co-sleep so I rocked and walked LO instead.

[Deleted User] · December 2013

We had a rough night two nights ago. DS ended up sleeping in bed with me also. He usually ends up in bed with me after his 4 am feed but that night he was in bed all night. I am having such a hard time during the day with him not sleeping and not wanting to be put down... He literally screams if I put him down.

I am a STM and I swear I forgot all about this stage.

CarrieB. · December 2013

This is just what little babies do. Sorry it sucks, but it does get better.

We put DD2 in the newborn napper on the PNP last night with the vibration turned on and she slept great. And by great, I mean she went down at 8pm and only was up again at 11, then 2 and then 6 with limited awake time after eating. She's a month old today and this is the first decent night we've had.

McJen715 · December 2013

Hugs!! With my first DD, who was a terrible sleeper, I (jokingly, mostly

) thought about smothering my H with a pillow during the night while he was snoring and I fed, changed, rocked, tried to put down - lather, rinse, repeat. We ended up bed sharing also and it improved my sleep and DD1's sleep greatly. But that sleep deprivation and the lack of it by your partner is a doozy.

DD2 is a better sleeper, but sometimes she has trouble settling down. I downloaded a white noise app, set it to turn off after 15 minutes and set my phone in the bassinet pocket above her head. My H jokes it's like a mute button. Turn it on and she instantly stops making noise and goes to sleep. Just a possible suggestion if you think it may help.

I hope she sleeps much better tonight!!

Luckysmommy · December 2013

I'm sorry, similar situation here. But the recliner in kind of a life saver. Hugs and hopes for more sleep.

Ninjamama86 · December 2013

MaMaBear1323 said:
I started bedsharing with DD a few days ago. She was impossible at night because she didn't want to sleep in her bassinet. It was taking hours to get her to go back to sleep in her own bed after waking up to feed. I wasn't getting any sleep and we were both unhappy. I have a queen size bed and SO works nights, so it's only me and DD home at night. I brought her to bed with me the other day and got a bit more sleep than usual. Then last night was amazing. I can feel her stirring and I can hear every tiny noise she makes. I wake up, change her diaper, and pop a boob in her mouth while laying down next to her. She falls asleep nursing and I fall back to sleep as well. No more fuss about swaddling her and trying to get her to sleep in het bassinet. In the morning, SO comes home and crawls in, with me in the middle, and we all snuggle for an hour before DD wakes up for the day.

I'll probably catch a ration of shit for having her in bed with me, but it makes life so much easier and more enjoyable.

I'm with you mamabear! DD will only sleep in the crib/swing for about an hour at a time, and that's limited to day time only - at night she fusses anytime I try to put her down, so pretty much since day 1 home she's spent nights in bed with us. I'm not a super heavy sleeper, especially since she's been home - DH laughed the first time he woke up and found us knocked out - her laying a few inches away from me, mouth open, and my boob out. -- this happens just about every night.

bglovesbabyk · December 2013

I really think it is completely unnatural for a newborn to lay flat on their back in a huge open crib. That resembles the womb in no way. We didnt sleep at all the first two nights trying that. The snuggle nest has been a god send. Falling asleep with him on my chest and then sliding him in to it allows for sometimes 4 hours of sleep in a row. Do what you gotta do momma, you know what's best for you and your baby! Hang in there!

Bootswtfur87 · December 2013

If it wasn't for the recliner I would have no sleep, he has been sleeping on my chest every night as well. It is just so much easier when you wake up to feed him. When he starts to fuss it wakes me up instead of him getting more irritated and starting to cry. I have tried to out him in the pnp after he falls asleep on my but sometimes I fall asleep first. I miss my bed so much but I know this won't last forever so u can deal for now. I am afraid to cosleep in bed because of the covers potentially covering his face.

lafsalot · December 2013

I can't co-sleep in the bed, my subconscious won't let me turn off enough to rest with her in the bed. It will probably be more nights in the recliner for us but I will take sleep of any kind over not. Thank you ladies! It's good to know I'm not alone!

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