Hi ladies, I can't believe Ive made it to this board but here I am. I feel all that's left of me after a rough week is a shell of a woman. The life has literally being drained out of me. I will try to keep thus brief. My NT scan all came back normal, at 20 week scan a calcium deposit was noticed on my baby's heart, I was advised not to be too concerned but that I should go for further testing as this is a soft marker for DS. I did Materni21 test that same day & this past Monday (also my 32nd birthday) I got the devastating news our baby tested positive for trisomy 21. I was given the option of going for further testing to confirm so I did the amniocentesis Tuesday & today the news was confirmed our baby has DS. I am 23 weeks today & we are heartbroken. After an agonizing week of researching & discussing our options we have come to the decision to terminate. Please don't judge me & I hope you can understand our choice. From what I've just read on this board a lot of you girls didn't have a choice & many of your babies hearts just stopped beating r had other complications & I'm terribly sorry for everyone of you & your situations. I am scheduled to begin the D&E on Tuesday. This all feels so surreal & I'm angry, guilty , sad, lost, lonely, asking why us ? Just looking to vent & hear some thoughts. This is my first pregnancy, will I ever have a normal pregnancy again?
Re: I'm here from the April 14 board :(
BFP #1- 4/2011; DD Brynn born 12/2011
BFP #2- 7/13; EDD- 4/2/14; Lost DS at 20 weeks (11/16/13) due to cord accident
BFP #3- 3/14; EDD- 11/28/14; Lost DD at 15 weeks (6/7/14)- cause unknown
To my angels- I held you every second of your lives and I'll love you every second of mine.
Brooke Elizabeth born Feb 17, 2013 grew wings May 9, 2013 @ 11 weeks & 4 days old from SIDS
I'm so sorry to welcome you to this board (I'm from your BMB). You will find nothing but support here in whatever form you need, whenever you need it.
I met a friend in a loss group (IRL) who's baby girl had Trisomy 18, and she, too, had to make this decision. I'm sorry anyone has to face this decision.
Many prayers to you and your DH
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I don't usually comment when I see messages like this but I really need to. I understand that you might have different feelings about this but the poster here was not coming to this board to be bashed or judged but rather for support and that is what I love so much about this board. A simple I am sorry is just fine.
BFP #1 March 24, 2010; missed m/c May 26, 2010 @ 12w 4d; D&E May 28, 2010
BFP #2 Oct 20, 2010; My little boy was born on July 5, 2011
BFP #3 April 30, 2013; Chemical Pg May 5, 2013
BFP #4 Aug 22, 2013; It's a boy. Loss discovered at 24 weeks on Jan 15, 2014 (cause CMV virus)
BFP #5 April 6, 2014; missed m/c May 15, 2014 @ 9 weeks; Misoprostol May 15, 2014; D&C May June 3, 2014
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As a graduate of the Loss community, I find your post offensive. For someone who is white knighting on the third tri board over bullying, you sure are being a bully to a mother who obviously had to make a heart breaking decision. The Loss board is a place no one wants to find themselves and they don't need your judgmental bullshit. You can go to hell.
OP, I'm sorry this asshole bumped your post and I hope you have found some peace.