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Romantic overnight with DH

BeeGirl2BeeGirl2 member
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I had a post last week that my children were making me crazy and now I am leaving them overnight and my anxiety is through the roof (funny the emotions children can evoke in you)... My 4 year old keeps asking things like "what if you don't come back?" and I have never left the 2 year old. My husband and I are staying overnight in the city and have this super romantic night planned. We have been to dinner a few times since DS2 was born but nothing like this. I should be excited and I am, kind of .... I know the kids are in good hands with my sister but I feel like I am going to throw up. I can leave them during the day and be ok so why am I struggling with this?! I wish I did not feel like this!
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  • daisy662daisy662 member
    You are going to miss them. That's normal. But you are placing your anxiety on them which isn't good. This should be a fun thing for all of you. It's only one night and you won't be far. Calm down and enjoy yourself! I travel a lot for my job - overnights, airplanes, etc. it's hard, but it's also nice to get away...
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  • BeeGirl2BeeGirl2 member
    @Daisy662 you are so right. I know what I am doing is wrong and trying not to let them see my anxiety or react to my 4 year old's comments. I am sure once I am there I will be fine I just wish I did not feel like this. I want to give my kids the best version of myself and clearly these are emotions I need to work on.
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  • thedashthedash member
    Take a deep breath. It's going to be fine and sounds like something you really, really need right now. Tell your 4 year old "Of course I will it's just like when I go to work each day and you are at school." in a light tone. You don't want your kids to be afraid to spend the night away from you, right? Make this fun for them. Maybe a new game or a movie to watch with your sister to give them something to look forward to?
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  • BeeGirl2BeeGirl2 member
    Got the new Christmas movie in his back pack with favorite stuffie and blanket. I am feeling better already. My post was at the height of my emotions when we were saying good bye this morning and I was fighting the urge to cry as the voice inside my head kept saying, STOP BEING RIDICULOUS!  Thanks @thedash
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  • jf198400jf198400 member
    Have fun! DH and I left the kids for a 5 day vaca and it was wonderful! It's important to focus on your marriage. The kids wi be fine.
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  • mrsshawnavanbmrsshawnavanb member
    I remember our first overnight stay, my LO was a year old and I had all of those same feelings. My husband made all of the arrangements and told me last minute so that I had less time to freak out about it. We ended up having a blast and DD did fine. I did miss her and feel anxious but the 2nd trip we had was easier. Enjoy your time with your man!  :D
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  • mexicolombianamexicolombiana member
    edited December 2013
    OP, It's my FIRST weekend leaving my girls too this weekend! My 3 year old will be fine, but I'm still nursing my 22 month old at night and in the mornings, so I'm pretty worried about how she will fare with my mom. Last night I nursed her to sleep, but this morning she woke up at 4 am and I did NOT nurse her.  She cried for a few minutes and finally fell asleep.  Then in the morning I didn't nurse her either! She asked, and I just jumped out of bed and took her downstairs and she forgot.  so hopefully this is the start of successfully weaning her!

    Anyway, just have fun! I know I will!




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  • oscarsmom70oscarsmom70 member
    Ditto to what everyone else said!  :-)

    Good for you and DH to be putting your marriage first.  I imagine that your precious LO's will not only be fine while you are gone, but they will be even better having a revitalized, energized mommy coming home after the romantic evening away.  

    Blessings!
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  • BeeGirl2BeeGirl2 member
    UPDATE: the first hour was a little sad but once we reached the city and made our first stop for a martini I was just fine. It also happened to be the best apple martini I have ever had... Haha. The kids did great and when I picked them up today I think they were even slightly disappointed they were not going with my sister for another night...: go figure! Thanks for all the positive thoughts ladies!
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  • KL777KL777 member
    It's just one night, go and enjoy yourself! DH and I do this every year for our anniversary, and we always have a ball!

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  • laurakaz13laurakaz13 member

    We travel several times a  year for both work and fun w/o our DD.  It was hard the first time, but we thoroughly enjoyed every minute of it.  I guess I'm a bit different in that I cannot imagine NOT having overnights with just DH and I have never felt one bit of guilt over it.  The thought of not doing it has never crossed my mind.  Plus, DD has an incredibly close bond with her grandparents.

    You will have a blast.  Enjoy it to the fullest!!!

     

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