How true is this?

Assilemmm09 · December 2013

Hello ladies, hope is all well, just came across this picture and I wanted to share it with you gals to see how true this is for some, specially this with more than 1 kid! Lol just something to make your day! Enjoy!

bumpuser9058414 · December 2013

Definitely true. DD is 5 and have been getting the "when are you going to have another one" question since she was about 2. Now that we are having a boy everyone assumes we are done, which we are, but why assume? I don't know about three being an accident, I still feel like three is a normal amount of children, but I do feel like 4 or more nowadays is considered a lot of kids.

jwls84 · December 2013

My family never bugged me about getting married, starting a family or having another after B. But MH family is horrible, they don't leave anyone alone. His cousin has a 4 month old and they are already all over her to have another!
We don't know if this is a boy or girl, but if it is a boy they will probably ask the second he is born when we are trying for a girl.

Andreabills · December 2013

I'm a one and done unless DH and I adopt number 2. That being said, I am so not looking forward to the try for a boy question.

I've also never understood the idea of one of each being perfect. I grew up with a younger sister and that's it; our lives never felt incomplete because we didn't have a brother.

MeganFrench120389 · December 2013

Number 1 is on the way and I have family asking when we think we'll try for #2. Seriously?! Can I get her out first?! #:-S

avigailandcharlie · December 2013

I've already gotten the try for a girl comments and this lo hasn't even been born yet.

kelley72 · December 2013

Very true... most people are kind or keep their comments to a minimum but not all.

AriaAmante143 · December 2013

jwls84 said:
My family never bugged me about getting married, starting a family or having another after B. But MH family is horrible, they don't leave anyone alone. His cousin has a 4 month old and they are already all over her to have another!
We don't know if this is a boy or girl, but if it is a boy they will probably ask the second he is born when we are trying for a girl.

This is me too. My parents were pretty much "do what you want on your own time" when it came to marraige and kids. My ILs are the EXACT opposite. They started asking about babies a few days after we got engaged. I understand DH is their only child and they've been waiting for this, but come on!

AJ2AR · December 2013

This bothers me far more than it should. It is part of the reason my dh and I waited until almost 20 weeks to tell people about this new addition. We wanted to add a third addition to our family because it felt right for us, but of course having two girls first everyone just assumed we wanted a boy. Gender just does not matter. After my dh told his boss we were expecting he asked what number kid this was. Obviously my dh replied with this being our third. His boss replied with, "that is enough now." Um, really!? I sometimes get disappointed that we are in fact having a little boy just because I want to spite people. Oh well, my family is perfect for me.

kimberpoo · December 2013

totally true! I mean, I honestly only want two kids and if we can have one of each that would be perfect for our family, but I'm sure plenty of people would choose a different arrangement if they were able to.

This is my first, a boy, and the entire family is super excited. I've been lucky so far in that no one has asked me about # 2 except DH. I think he wants to start on the second pretty quickly after this one arrives so they will be close in age. To that, I respond "we will see how this one goes". haha! I think having our first is going to be a bigger adjustment than either of us expects.(in a good way though)

SassyFlats · December 2013

Where I am from, it is REALLY common to have kids very young. I did not. I'm 30 and pregnant with my first. I got many, many, many questions even before I was married about when I'd have a baby. When DH and I took 5 years to get engaged, I felt like some family members and friends were practically breathing down our necks because THEY wanted us to have kids ASAP.

It was really tough for me (not as tough as it would be for folks who struggle with infertility, of course!) because we were making a conscious CHOICE to wait because we felt we weren't ready just yet. We had things we wanted to do and experience without children in the mix. We wanted to be married for a while, I wanted to finish college, we wanted to buy a house FIRST. I know none of it is necessity and had we gotten pregnant sooner we'd have been THRILLED (although I think we'd have been a bit more freaked out). But we were making this choice even though I wanted SO MUCH to be a mother. I really, really always have. And it felt like I was being pinched every time someone would ask WHEN or WHY HAVEN'T YOU...

So, I came up with a response. "When we're ready. And not a minute sooner."

I said it sooooo many times in the last 5 years, especially. because at 25, you're an old hag who isn't as fertile as before, dontchaknow? Especially if you're not even MARRIED yet. PSHAW.

"When we're ready. And not a minute sooner." I kept saying it after our wedding. I got my husband saying it. I even had my MOM saying it when people asked her.

And when we were finally ready, BOOM. Pregnant. So fucking incredibly fortunate. I was terrified we'd have trouble. But as soon as DH and I agreed we were ready, we were pregnant.

I will use the same exact phrase if people ask about #2, but for now I've been prepping them for the possibility that we'll choose NOT to have another baby. Whether we do or don't is nobody else's business, but the same response still holds-- "When we're ready. And not a minute sooner."

PrincessPeach13 · December 2013

I really don't get how so many people seem to think it's their business or appropriate at all to make judgmental comments on the size of someone's family.

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