Worst feeling ever!

bellamatson · December 2013

Dealing with a loss while pregnant is probably the worst thing/feeling ever. The whole "it's just a dog" shit people keep saying makes me wanna choke them out.
I've been crying, depressed, not keeping food or fluids down all because my doggy died on the third.
I can't get over it, nor do I find myself wanting to try.

I would rather have a thousand terrible contractions than to feel the way I do right now.
I am missing my doggy tonight

Katsterlis · December 2013

I don't know how it must feel since I haven't had a pet die but I'm sure it's even more frustrating to bear when you have people being insensitive to the matter. Regardless, it's totally normal to feel super emotional now with all the hormones.. I've been feeling super down with other intense personal feelings of my own. Just tough through it and let the tears role out, feel what you feel and don't let anyone else tell you not to. Grieving for a loved one is important and you should be able to cry it out! Fuck everyone else! Sending good vibes, stay positive grl!

RedSaffron · December 2013

@bellamatson I totally understand how you feel about a loss. My dog that I grew up with sadly passed in the beginning of my pregnancy and I didn't get to see him or say goodbye because he was technically my grandpa's dog and it takes a plane ride to get to my grandpa's house.
I'm so sorry you're going through this especially now.. I'm sending you tons of thoughts and prayers (hugs)

notthecheat · December 2013

I'm sorry for your loss

SvedkaStoli · December 2013

I am so sorry. People are just wrong.

aessary03 · December 2013

I'm so sorry

gina0485 · December 2013

Bella, dogs are a part of our family that earn a special type of love. You can't control who you love or grieve for. It's not just a dog - it's YOUR dog, and it's ok to feel pain and grief while you work through your emotions. Pregnancy probably doesn't make dealing with the emotional aspect any easier. Hugs - I am so sorry for your loss. Try to do what you can to keep your strength up for baby, but know that it's ok not to feel ok.

wedbliss5 · December 2013

I am so sorry, pets are absolutely a part of the family. (((hugs)))

Beachmommy1029 · December 2013

Forgive me, I'm lurking from Feb- my dog unexpectedly passed a few days before thanksgiving so I just wanted to give you a big uncreepy Internet hug >:D< and say its okay to be sad. It's devastating and they are members of our families. Just take it one day at a time. Let yourself be sad. Thoughts and prayers for you and your family for your loss.

nolagal79 · December 2013

I'm so sorry for your loss. That is such a hard thing to deal with and I can't imagine doing it while you're going through everything you're going through. Trust me, I know ifs
NOT "just a dog." Sending lots of hugs your way!

Kc101212 · December 2013

Pets are family members too, and it's totally okay to grieve for them. I'm so sorry, sending hugs and thoughts your way.

ChuggingWater · December 2013

I'm sorry. I truly am. We are putting our older one down thus afternoon.

jgraham80 · December 2013

Wow...That's a ridiculous statement. My dogs and I are inseparable and I love them more than I love most people. Some people haven't been blessed/don't get this particular kind of unconditional love. I try to just feel bad for them, because although it hurts that she's gone, you were still blessed with 13 years with your furry best friend

Sending hugs to you!

megngregk · December 2013

I know exactly what you mean, and some people truly don't get it. I had to put my cat to sleep 2y4m ago, and I still wouldn't say I'm over it. I loved him so much. I've lost a lot of people in my life, but I can honestly say that losing Chester was the hardest.

I'm so sorry your heart is broken. Huge hugs honey.

cpm1223 · December 2013

I am so sorry that people are being so insensitive. Dogs (or any pets) are like family members and when they die, it is very hard! We lost our dog to cancer 2+ years ago and I could cry at the drop of a hat when I think about her to this day! It took me weeks to feel better and not cry all the time about her death.

With all that you're going through, and then going through the loss of your dog, I can understand why you're so upset. Sending lots of hugs to you....I hope that each day gets a little bit easier.

MiaMyPuggle · December 2013

I don't want to go thru that. Ever. I'm so sorry your puppy passed.

JennaRaek · December 2013

Pets are family members too! So sorry for your loss. Some people just don't get it. Mostly people that don't have pets, I think. My pups are my babies (for the next few weeks anyways) but they will always be my fur babies! So sorry.

bellamatson · December 2013

I got her momma when I was 2.. She died when I was 16... And then this one was born when I was eleven and now I am 23.She wasnt a young dog , but she was extremely healthy. We were not expecting it. Of course I'm in the hospital, and haven't seen her in a few weeks... I didn't get to say goodbye.
She had a seizure out of no where.
It really bothers me how when I go home, she won't be there. It'll prob out me back in the hospital. I've talked to my doctor about it and he said it's perfectly normal to feel the way I feel.
It wasn't expected, and I didn't get closure which I severely needed. Thanks for all the kind words though. It really does help with the constant heart ache I've been having. I've lost 5 pounds in 2 days cuz I can't keep anything down. Pretty much only staying hydrated through an IV.

megngregk · December 2013

@bellamatson, are you having her cremated? I cremated Chester, and I have his ashes sealed in a Willow Tree Angel memory box. It makes me feel better.

thegosiers · December 2013

A lot of people just don't understand how meaningful and important relationships with animals are. I'm sorry these people are being insensitive to you. Grieve as long as you need without shame - your dog was family. xoxox

Siblynika · December 2013

@bellamatson pets are so much more than just pets, they're family. Anyone who says otherwise obviously hasn't experienced the love an animal is capable of. I'm so sorry for your loss

I definitely agree with getting her cremated, it may help give you some closure if you're at least able to bury her.

dland0201 · December 2013

I'm so sorry.

pennstated912 · December 2013

sapatel1 said:
I'm so sorry you have to go through this. It's been 3 days. Those people telling you to move on are being ridiculous.

This x 1000! I remember when my cat that I grew up with died the week before we moved. We got her when I was 2 and she passed away when I was 16. I cried for months. A pet isn't just a pet, it's a family member. Anyone saying you should move on 3 days later is a douchenozzle.

I'm so sorry for you loss. Grieve as long as you want. We are here for you.

LuGal623 · December 2013

@bellamatson Our pets ARE our family! I can't even imagine dealing with a loss right now. I'm so sorry you are going through this and I hope you'll find some solace in knowing how great of a life he had with you and how much you loved each other.

kwinkle1980 · December 2013

I am so sorry! I know how badly it hurts. Pets are family. Mourn him all that you need to and anyone who says otherwise can STFU.

moosebaby2011 · December 2013

I'm so sorry about your doggy. I know how attached people (myself included) get to their pets, and it sucks that people are being insensitive. Big hugs to you!

KimberlyTX · December 2013

I still tear up when I think about my cat that died 5 years ago. My dogs may drive me nuts sometimes, but they are part of our family and I will be heartbroken when it is there time to go. It has to be worse for you since you weren't able to say goodbye, and people should respect that and let you grieve. Big hugs.

BrittNR · December 2013

My Great Dane was poisoned a couple months ago and died two days later... I just found his stocking from last year. It's awful getting over an animal that was part of your family. So sorry you are going through this too.

bellamatson · December 2013

@megngregk yeah we are having her cremated. My DH and parents took her to the vet the night she died. I hope it helps cuz I'm just so miserable. After I get out of the hospital and walk into my house.. And her not being there.. It's going to be the worst day all over again.

BShreeve · December 2013

My pets are my furry children. A loss of a pet leaves a hole in your heart. I'm so sorry for your loss.

kw42775 · December 2013

I'm so sorry!! I don't know what I will do when my baby (6 year old Boxer) passes away..

AshleyDoll · December 2013

I'm so sorry for your loss. Pets can be just like a real baby so it's totally understandable that you feel so deeply. And being pregnant doesn't help either I know. My 10 year old little sister has cancer and we just found out 2 weeks ago that she's not going to make it to Christmas and I'm already a mess and can't imagine how much I'm going to break down when she's gone so I can't imagine what you're going through losing your dog. Try to ignore the negative remarks, all that matters is that you know how much she meant to you and how much you love her!

bellamatson · December 2013

AshleyDoll said:
I'm so sorry for your loss. Pets can be just like a real baby so it's totally understandable that you feel so deeply. And being pregnant doesn't help either I know. My 10 year old little sister has cancer and we just found out 2 weeks ago that she's not going to make it to Christmas and I'm already a mess and can't imagine how much I'm going to break down when she's gone so I can't imagine what you're going through losing your dog. Try to ignore the negative remarks, all that matters is that you know how much she meant to you and how much you love her!

@ashleydoll I can't even compare my childhood doggy to losing your little sister. That is absolutely terrible and I am so sorry this is happening to you and your family. I really hope a miracle happens and that she makes it out ok. You are in my thoughts, and so is your sister.

salsamommy · December 2013

I'm so sorry you're going through this right now.

Here's lots of hugs!!

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