Late Term and Child Loss

Rough Day :(

I thought my first day back at work this past Monday was going to be rough, and it was okay. Today, however, I had a horrible day. I look on FB (why must you be my enemy, social media?), and see one of my H.S. friends belly picture (she is having twins). It hurt but I ignored it. Then, later on I had a customer who asked me if I had children. I think something must've shown on my face, because she had a look on her face that looked like she wished she hadn't asked. My eyes watered up instantly and I really did say, "I just lost twins a month ago" and then could not speak. My customer then started crying and said that she also lost twins, a boy and a girl. It took a while to get back to "work normal", but I can't get over it. I think I was not expecting anyone to ask me this question, and I did not expect to react that way. I just want to crawl into a hole and pretend the world and reality don't exist.
On 10/23/13 Baby Sophie and Baby Gabriel born at 21+5 weeks. They grew wings and flew away from us. May God bless them always. We love you beans!
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  • :( I'm so sorry today was so difficult. You are allowed to have bad days. People/situations are going to come up that throw us for a loop and break through the thin veneer we put up for the public- at least that's how I feel.

    I hope that each day at work gets a little easier. And I am glad you felt comfortable sharing a little of your story with a stranger- Even if it was a quick reaction, you honored your babies today <3
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    Dh:34, no issues.  Me:31, Endo, slightly hypothyroid, deformed ovary, paracentric inversion.
    4 Gonal-F, Cetrotide, HcG, Crinone +TI cycles= all BFN
    Lap in 2012 to remove large unresolving cyst discovered endo and double lobed ovary.
     6 Gonal-F, Cetrotide, HcG, Crinone IUI cycles= All BFN,
    1st IVF w/ICSI- June '13 Antagonist: Gonal-F, Menopur, Ganirelix, HcG, Estradiol, Crinone= 7 retrieved, 4 mature, 1 unfertilized, 2 abnormally fertilized, 1 normally fertilized.  2DT of only embryo and our miracle BFP.
    Our beloved baby boy was born sleeping Oct. 13, 2013 due to pROM/IC/Uterine infection.
    2nd IVF w/ICSI- Feb. '14 EPP/lupron/antagonist: Estrace, lupron, HGH, Gonal-F, Menopur, HcG, PIO, lovenox, doxy/dex.=21 retrieved, 16 mature, 15 fertilized!!  5dt of 1 blast/ 6 frozen. BFP!  Beta 1 9dp5dt:83.9  Beta 2: 11dp5dt: 145.2  Beta 3  14dp5dt: 497  Please be our sticky rainbow baby!

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  • So sorry you had a rough day. I've been back at work for a while now but still have many moments, thank goodness for office door and bathrooms. Glad to hear you were able to share and connect with a customer.
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  • Ugh! I remember my first day back at work was very much the same. It really just catches you off guard, and you don't sit and think how can I prepare myself to answer a question like that. I'm sorry you had a rough day! Praying that tomorrow is a better day! XO
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    edited December 2013
    I echo what @kz's_girlygirl said... you are allowed to have bad days. And you never know how your story or reaction may touch other people so, as hard as it can be, it may also be therapeutic!!
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  • I'm so sorry it was such a rough day. That question is always hard and it is so hard to know how to answer. I'm glad you answered honestly and that you were able to have that moment with your customer. ((Hugs))
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  • I'm sorry it was a rough day. And please hide, hide, hide all the stuff on FB if it upsets you. I did, and you can always undo it later. {{hugs}}

     
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  • Big HUGS your way sweetie!

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  • Sorry you had such a rough day. Y dear. I'm dreading my first day back on 12/18. Hugs your way!!
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