My Mom is such an awesome mom. How will I ever live up to her?

MrsChanceW · December 2013

I am really lucky to have such an awesome mom. She is smart,kind, loving, honest, has always been there for me. Not only is my Mom an awesome Mom she is one of my best friends. When I start to think about trying to have a baby I wonder how will I ever be as good a mom to my baby as she was to me? Does anyone else feel this way?

bugandbibs · December 2013

All.the.time.

My mom was/is super mom. I have come to realize that my kids love me just as much as I love my mom and don't recognize how imperfect I am. I do my best, and that's enough in the grand scheme of things.

Ducktale · December 2013

I can't relate, my mom and I aren't very close, but I think that's awesome that you had such a great example in your life. Maybe just think about what characteristics or values that make her so awesome and try to incorporate. I think having this very conversation with her might be very eye opening, and you may find she was not very confident in herself either.

Jags8 · December 2013

Oh for sure! My mom is super awesome. We have always gotten along; we never went through that whole teenage-angst-fighting thing. So sometimes I really question how good of a mom I will be. Unfortunately I feel like I didn't inherent any of my mom's personality. My dad and I are the same person (impatient, short-tempered, perfectionists).

nikiz628 · December 2013

I wish my mom and I were closer. She was single for many years when I was young, and then re-married and worked 2+ jobs. I never felt like she had time for me or my sibs. (Of course I would never tell her this). As an adult, she has re-married for a third time and I never really hear from her unless she needs a favor. She will call my younger sister to tell her news/info/etc. and then ask my sister to relay it to me. It really hurts my feelings but you can't tell that woman anything. Stubborn mule.

I honestly think thats why i overcompensate with my son. I am trying to be the mom to him that I always wished my mom was with me.

barefootbluejean204 · December 2013

Nicb13 said:

I'm super close with my mom as well but I never thought "how will I live up to her when I'm a parent". Instead, just like @Kimbus22, I will use my mom as an example to follow.
There is way too much stress as a parent to take on another worry like living up to someone else. You just try to do your best everyday to mold a great human being!

My MIL is the most hard-working, selfless, always-giving, never-ending, no-complaining, loving Christian person I think I have ever met in my life. She has pretty much raised my 3-yr old niece from birth along with her daughter. She never stops. Never sits down around the house except to eat meals (I'm not joking). Has bad arthritis pain in her fingers and pain in her back everyday but never complains unless you ask her how she is feeling. Is super sympathetic and a loving caregiver to my niece (although sometimes TOO loving and not enough discipline in my opinion - ha)

That being said, I agree with NICB. Take their example and run with it, but its impossible to exactly copy someone else's parenting style!

ArgyleBride · December 2013

My mother is amazing. Parenting was her calling, and she oozes estrogen. Sometimes it feels like she is the world's mother. Once, for example, a little child lost in the grocery store came up to her and held her hand.

I am okay with kids, but I will never be my mom. That's okay. She taught me a great deal, and I will be a better mom because of her influence. As long as I get the big things as close to right as I can, I hope I will not judge myself too harshly. And hopefully, she will be a phone call away for a good while.

barely · December 2013

I agree with a pp, you have a great example to look up to...which means you will probably be very similar to her!

cleaneatingmama · December 2013

I really love to hear others that have such a great relationship with their mothers.
I honestly can say I try very hard to NOT be like my mom. We had a very rocky relationship growing up. My son has brought us together to a point but I still do distance myself from her.
She wasn't abusive or a drunk or a druggie. But she never had time for me and she was always very cold towards me. I cannot remember her hugging or loving on me. And most of my childhood I lived with my grandparents who adored me. I am very fortunate for that.

But remember that even though you and your mom have an amazing bond and you look up to her. you are still your own person. Your personality will continue to develop into your own. Be that amazing mother/wife you know you want to be by embracing the strong points you want to take and then create your own! XxOo

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