If you're planning on a second child, when will you start TTC? At this point I THINK we will wait until DD is two or so, but I'm always interested in what other people are planning and how they arrived at their decision. Thanks!
Me (25) DH (33)
BFP #1 on cycle #4: 2/7/12 - M/C 2/26/12
BFP #2 on cycle #1: 4/3/12 - DD born 12/18/12
It's a very personal decision and SO many factors are at play. My DH and I are planning to wait at least 3-5 years before even considering it, and even then we may decide to be one and done. Are reasons are mostly job-related and financial, in that we really want to make sure we can afford a nice home and good education for our children, and right now we can only provide that for one.
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DH and I decided to start shortly after DD turned 1. We both said we weren't getting any younger and did want them closer in age. DD#1 and DD#2 are 25 months apart.
About a month ago, I did tell DH that if we had waited until DD was 2, I probably wouldn't have wanted to try again.
We were in a good routine with DD, I was just starting to remember what a good nights rest was, and things finally felt like it was falling in place.
Now that DD#2 is here, I'm glad we didn't wait. Yes, things are super crazy again and there are many, many moments when I'm thinking "oh, dear God, what were we thinking?!" However, totally worth it!
We will likely start TTC around A's first birthday (September). I want them close together. I've never had a problem getting pregnant, just staying that way, so I hope we have good luck for baby #2
We were aiming for around 3 yrs apart, and I got pregnant the first month trying with this little guy. The kids will be almost 3 yrs apart (3 months shy). DD is old enough to follow directions and do things by herself, and she'll be able to "help" with the baby too.
BFP: 7/5/10 EDD: 3/13/11 Miscarriage 8/1/10 at 8 weeks
BFP: 10/30/10 EDD: 7/7/11 Born 7/11//11 7lb12oz, 20 in.
BFP: 7/30/13 EDD: 4/9/14 Born right on time on his due date! 8lb10oz, 21.5 in.
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We were NTNP from the time DS was about four months old. Age was a factor in our decision since I am AMA. AF didnt return until five months after that (I PPH you bf'ing!). I got pg two cycles after that...but miscarried in the 11th week. That was Nov 2012. Started TTCAL again first chance we could but didnt get pg until August 2013. I am now 17.5 weeks. If I just did the math right, the kids should be about 31 months apart if all continues to go well with the pg.
Just wanted to share my story as I am a pretty good example of trying for a second not going as you had planned. It has been a long hard year between the loss/TTCAL and some major concerns with Ds development. In that time we have gone from really wanting three kids to realizing two is a better fit for us (age, finances, developmental concerns).
I will never say the second loss was for the best...but I know that had it continued to term I would have been certifiable when we were told about the autism concerns with DS (just two weeks after the EDD). Though it still bothers me we will never have the 2u2 we thought we would, I am glad for the bigger age gap. D at 21 months (the other edd) and him now at 26 months is a night and day difference. Just the receptive language and ability to follow directions alone will be a huge deal with à sibling in the picture.
Well, I expected I'd be ready to try for another now, but I'm just not. I'd like our littles to be about 2 - 2.5 years apart (DD is 15.5 months), so I'm hoping I'll feel more "ready" in January.
Can I also just say, you gals with ~2 year olds are freaking me the hell out. I think you don't want me to have anymore children!
Can I also just say, you gals with ~2 year olds are freaking me the hell out. I think you don't want me to have anymore children!
Mine has started behaving better since hitting two. There is hope! Lol.
Seriously though, two year olds are very spirited, opinionated and adventurous...but their zest for life is catchy. Plus it is amazing watching them learn more each day and seeing their personalities come out more. Loving two over here...even with the tantrums, the ER trip (he split his eyebrow open last week) and him pushing the limits of what he can get away with.
We were ready for #2 the minute #1 came out. However OB said we can't get KU until LO is 9 months. It took 3 yrs to get LO so we cannot take the risk of that happening again so we are getting right back to it with treatments the minute LO is 9 months unless my body can't handle it. And a nice perk is that DH will be making more money so it will work out treatments are super expensive but we would have taken money out of savings to pay for it because its very important to us. Our OB even said that because of our major Struggles she wouldn't wait.
Natural cycle Dec 2010 BFP M/C 6 1/2 Weeks, D&E Jan 2011 1 Clomid/Ovidrel BFN May 2011 Natural cycle Aug 2011 BFP M/C 4 Weeks 1 IUI Sept 2011 BFP M/c 7 weeks Provera Dec 2011 BFP M/C 3 Weeks
DQ ALPHA HLA MATCH, High NK Cells Diagnosed Dec 2011 IVF March 2012 BFP m/c 4weeks 5 days (IL, Prednisone) IVF#2w/DS July 2012 MEGA FAILURE BFN (IL, Dexamethasone) Diagnosed No real HLA Match, DQ Beta Triad, High TNF, Low NK Cells Oct 2012 Natural Cycle m/c 4wks (Lovenox, Prednisone) Went to Beer Center- high tnf, low lad, implantation failure
Nov/Dec 2012 LIT Treatment
Dec 12 Humira Jan 2013 BFP Humira,LIT,Prednisone, Lovenox, IVIG, Baby Aspirin Miracle Born August 2013 Premature
Can I also just say, you gals with ~2 year olds are freaking me the hell out. I think you don't want me to have anymore children!
You've gotta take the good with the bad with 2 yr olds. They are independent, verbal, smart, funny, adventurous.... But the flip side is they can be moody, throw tantrums, and be incredibly demanding. My DD is really fun and pleasant about 95% of the time, so there's that too. and at least they can tell you what they want at this stage!
BFP: 7/5/10 EDD: 3/13/11 Miscarriage 8/1/10 at 8 weeks
BFP: 10/30/10 EDD: 7/7/11 Born 7/11//11 7lb12oz, 20 in.
BFP: 7/30/13 EDD: 4/9/14 Born right on time on his due date! 8lb10oz, 21.5 in.
Awesome prophetic fortune cookie: Love is a present that can be given every single day you live
I was ready to try again when DD turned 6m. It took much longer to get and stay pg with her than I ever anticipated, so I can only assume it'll take as long to get LO #2. I really wanted to get trying ASAP. I would have loved 2u2, but we've missed that ship, so now we're shooting for 2u3. Since we're still BFing, though, I still have not gotten a pp AF at 17m out. My fertility seems to be slowly returning, though, and it looks like I'm trying at least to O. So, a year after I was "ready" to TTC again, I'm finally able to.
BFP #1 5/20/10 Natural MC at 5w4d 5/28/10 BFP #2 11/3/10; BO at u/s 10w6d 12/16/10; Natural MC 1/7/11; D&C 4/21/11 BFP #3 10/27/11 Please stick, LO!! 2/6/12 It's a Girl! Alexis Grace born 6/29/12 BFP#4 4/27/14 Stick, stick, stick!!
8/11/14 It's a Boy! Evan Wesley born 1/8/15 "Patience is waiting. Not passively waiting. That is laziness. But to keep going when the going is hard and slow, that is patience."
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DH did not want kids that were any closer than two years apart, and with both prior pregnancies I got pregnant our first cycle trying so we started TTC in August with the thought that if I got pregnant right away, they would be exactly two years apart. Well sure enough that's what happened. DS was due 5/12/12 and DD is due 5/11/14. We couldn't have done that any more perfectly if we tried!
BFP #1 6/28/11 ~ EDD 3/7/12 ~ m/c 7/15/11 at 6w2d
BFP #2 8/29/11 ~ EDD 5/12/12. 4/25/12: Our take home baby is here! BFP #3 8/27/13 ~ EDD 5/11/14. 4/27/14: Our second take home baby is here!
We waited to start TTC until DS turned two (he turned two in February and we started TTC in March). For us, some of it was financial, however most of it was b/c I had started a new job last November and needed to be here for at least a year before having another baby so I would have maternity benefits. DH and I had mostly decided we wanted at least a 2 year gap and it looks like, God-willing, it will be a little over a 3 year gap - not by choice, as I've had two losses this year, but I think it will be just fine.
I wanted to wait a year after DS #1 for my body to heal after c-section. I think we started TTC when he was 15 months. Took us about 9 cycles to conceive so it didn't happen as close as I would have liked it. I just wanted them to be close in age and DH was on board.
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We were ready for #2 the minute #1 came out. However OB said we can't get KU until LO is 9 months. It took 3 yrs to get LO so we cannot take the risk of that happening again so we are getting right back to it with treatments the minute LO is 9 months unless my body can't handle it. And a nice perk is that DH will be making more money so it will work out treatments are super expensive but we would have taken money out of savings to pay for it because its very important to us. Our OB even said that because of our major Struggles she wouldn't wait.
We were TTC 3 years, TTCAL 2 years almost to the day before the BFP for D. She was a month old when I felt I was ready for #2. I am terrified of what TTC will bring this time around. We had talked prior to our 2nd BFP and agreed that we did not want a big gap. Many factors, DH's age, DD's age and so on. Anyway I went on the implant and plan to have it removed on the 11th.
Therefore we will be TTC again next week, more like NTNP.
BFP #2 10/12/12 Beta #1 45.1 Beta #2 160.7 * 2/27 diagnosed with IEF in utero.
Dalaney born @ 35w2d via emergency C-section due to Pre-E after 30 hrs of labor & losing her HB twice. She weighed 5lbs 8oz & was 19in long on May 26th 2013 @ 605am
We were hoping to have our kids close to three years apart. It took us 6 months to get pg both times so that's what I figured for this time. We were almost to the point where we were going to start TTC when I got pg again. I had gone off of BC to allow my body to readjust and it just happened. They will be 27 months apart.
BFP #1 9-22-10 Missed M/c 10-18-10 D&E 10-28-10
BFP #2 5-9-11 EDD 1-12-12 Audrey Rachel born 1-12-12
Re: Timing of Baby #2
About a month ago, I did tell DH that if we had waited until DD was 2, I probably wouldn't have wanted to try again.
We were in a good routine with DD, I was just starting to remember what a good nights rest was, and things finally felt like it was falling in place.
Now that DD#2 is here, I'm glad we didn't wait. Yes, things are super crazy again and there are many, many moments when I'm thinking "oh, dear God, what were we thinking?!" However, totally worth it!
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BFP 7.7.09 - CVS 9.10.09 (Girl) - 9.24.09 Severe Fatal Malformation - D&E 10.7.09 @ 17wks
BFP 6.1.10 - 6.10.10 Ectopic M/C @ 5wks
BFP 10.26.10 - 10.29.10 CP
BFP 1.30.11 - CVS 3.28.11 (Girl) - EDD 10.11.11 - Born 10.6.11
BFP 12.18.12 - 12.20.12 CP
BFP 3.18.13 - CVS 5.21.13 (Girl) - EDD 12.2.13 - Born 11.24.13
BFP 6.10.14 - CVS 7.2.14 (Girl) - EDD 1.12.15 - Born sleeping 8.6.14 @ 17w5d
BFP: 7/5/10 EDD: 3/13/11 Miscarriage 8/1/10 at 8 weeks
BFP: 10/30/10 EDD: 7/7/11 Born 7/11//11 7lb12oz, 20 in.
BFP: 7/30/13 EDD: 4/9/14 Born right on time on his due date! 8lb10oz, 21.5 in.
Awesome prophetic fortune cookie: Love is a present that can be given every single day you live
Just wanted to share my story as I am a pretty good example of trying for a second not going as you had planned. It has been a long hard year between the loss/TTCAL and some major concerns with Ds development. In that time we have gone from really wanting three kids to realizing two is a better fit for us (age, finances, developmental concerns).
I will never say the second loss was for the best...but I know that had it continued to term I would have been certifiable when we were told about the autism concerns with DS (just two weeks after the EDD). Though it still bothers me we will never have the 2u2 we thought we would, I am glad for the bigger age gap. D at 21 months (the other edd) and him now at 26 months is a night and day difference. Just the receptive language and ability to follow directions alone will be a huge deal with à sibling in the picture.
Sorry for the novel...got longer than i planned.
BFP#2 2.5.11 (EDD 10.15.11) DS born 9.28.11
BFP#4 8.27.13 (EDD 5.6.14) DD born 4.23.14
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Seriously though, two year olds are very spirited, opinionated and adventurous...but their zest for life is catchy. Plus it is amazing watching them learn more each day and seeing their personalities come out more. Loving two over here...even with the tantrums, the ER trip (he split his eyebrow open last week) and him pushing the limits of what he can get away with.
BFP#2 2.5.11 (EDD 10.15.11) DS born 9.28.11
BFP#4 8.27.13 (EDD 5.6.14) DD born 4.23.14
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Anovulatory cycles, increased Synthroid Diagnosed Sep 2010
1 Clomid/Ovidrel BFN May 2011
Natural cycle Aug 2011 BFP M/C 4 Weeks
1 IUI Sept 2011 BFP M/c 7 weeks
Provera Dec 2011 BFP M/C 3 Weeks
IVF March 2012 BFP m/c 4weeks 5 days (IL, Prednisone)
IVF#2w/DS July 2012 MEGA FAILURE BFN (IL, Dexamethasone)
Diagnosed No real HLA Match, DQ Beta Triad, High TNF, Low NK Cells
Oct 2012 Natural Cycle m/c 4wks (Lovenox, Prednisone)
Went to Beer Center- high tnf, low lad, implantation failure
Jan 2013 BFP
Humira,LIT,Prednisone, Lovenox, IVIG, Baby Aspirin
Miracle Born August 2013 Premature
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You've gotta take the good with the bad with 2 yr olds. They are independent, verbal, smart, funny, adventurous.... But the flip side is they can be moody, throw tantrums, and be incredibly demanding. My DD is really fun and pleasant about 95% of the time, so there's that too. and at least they can tell you what they want at this stage!
BFP: 7/5/10 EDD: 3/13/11 Miscarriage 8/1/10 at 8 weeks
BFP: 10/30/10 EDD: 7/7/11 Born 7/11//11 7lb12oz, 20 in.
BFP: 7/30/13 EDD: 4/9/14 Born right on time on his due date! 8lb10oz, 21.5 in.
Awesome prophetic fortune cookie: Love is a present that can be given every single day you live
BFP #2 11/3/10; BO at u/s 10w6d 12/16/10; Natural MC 1/7/11; D&C 4/21/11
BFP #3 10/27/11 Please stick, LO!! 2/6/12 It's a Girl! Alexis Grace born 6/29/12
BFP#4 4/27/14 Stick, stick, stick!! 8/11/14 It's a Boy! Evan Wesley born 1/8/15
"Patience is waiting. Not passively waiting. That is laziness. But to keep going when the going is hard and slow, that is patience." Let it Be (blog) ♥ My BFP Charts
This time I'm not leaving without you.
DH did not want kids that were any closer than two years apart, and with both prior pregnancies I got pregnant our first cycle trying so we started TTC in August with the thought that if I got pregnant right away, they would be exactly two years apart. Well sure enough that's what happened. DS was due 5/12/12 and DD is due 5/11/14. We couldn't have done that any more perfectly if we tried!
BFP #1 6/28/11 ~ EDD 3/7/12 ~ m/c 7/15/11 at 6w2d
BFP #2 8/29/11 ~ EDD 5/12/12. 4/25/12: Our take home baby is here!
BFP #3 8/27/13 ~ EDD 5/11/14. 4/27/14: Our second take home baby is here!
BFP # 1 - 12/19/09 EDD 08/27/10 - D&C 1/26/10 @ 9w5d
BFP # 2 - 06/05/10 EDD 02/17/11, DS1 born on 2/14/11
BFP # 3 - 04/10/13 EDD 12/21/13 - D&C 05/15/13 @ 8w4d
BFP # 4 - 07/27/13 EDD 04/08/14 - CP 07/29/13
BFP # 5 - 09/14/13 EDD 05/28/14, DS2 born on 5/22/14
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[/RA with Sjogren's Syndrome. Risk of heart block in newborn. Age: DH and I are both 38.
BFP #1: 11/25/2007, EDD 7/28/2008 - Missed m/c (blighted ovum) 12/6/2007 6w3d, D&C 1/3/2008.
BFP #2: 4/2008 - Natural m/c at 6w.
Met with RE in 5/2008 full cycle analysis and SA normal. Not considered high risk for blood clots but prescribed 1 baby aspirin a day precautionary during TTC and Progesterone suppositories during 1st trimester of pregnancy.
BFP #3: 10/17/2008. EDD 6/23/2009, Third time's the charm! Healthy baby boy born 6/27/2009 via emergency c-section.
BFP #4: 6/14/2011. Healthy baby boy born 2/16/2012 via elective c-section.
BFP #5: 1/15/2014. EDD 9/22/2014. 2/17/14:.We have a BABY!!! Heart rate 167 and measuring on time. 3/10/14 u/s #2 baby measuring perfectly at 12 weeks at heart rate of 166. NT u/s was normal. Maternit21 blood draw on 3/5/14. Results back on 3/19 - Normal. It's a BOY!!! 4/10/14 at 16 weeks, 3 days discovered baby's heart stopped at 15 weeks, 6 days. D&C 4/11/14. Pathology results were all normal. New information on 8/11/14 - blood test revealed 1/3 of babys blood was in mine caused, most likely, by a tear in the placenta from extreme coughing. Doctor believes this to be the cause of death. Repeat D&C and Hysteroscopy scheduled for 8/19/14. My Chart
We were TTC 3 years, TTCAL 2 years almost to the day before the BFP for D. She was a month old when I felt I was ready for #2. I am terrified of what TTC will bring this time around. We had talked prior to our 2nd BFP and agreed that we did not want a big gap. Many factors, DH's age, DD's age and so on. Anyway I went on the implant and plan to have it removed on the 11th.
Therefore we will be TTC again next week, more like NTNP.
We were hoping to have our kids close to three years apart. It took us 6 months to get pg both times so that's what I figured for this time. We were almost to the point where we were going to start TTC when I got pg again. I had gone off of BC to allow my body to readjust and it just happened. They will be 27 months apart.
BFP #1 9-22-10 Missed M/c 10-18-10 D&E 10-28-10
BFP #2 5-9-11 EDD 1-12-12 Audrey Rachel born 1-12-12
BFP #3 9-21-13 EDD 5-30-14