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Please tell me my baby isn't the only one...

Jmo30Jmo30 member
in November 2013 Moms
So I'm a STM and had the same problem with my 1st daughter but was going to try again with this one. Maybe I'm doing something wrong or maybe it just won't work with this one either. Am I the only one who has a baby that when you lay them down to fall asleep on their own they just don't? I've tried doing it when she's sleepy,with a paci, swaddled...she just won't fall asleep. The closest she comes is with the paci but as soon as it falls out her mouth, she wakes up. She cries and cries and I don't want to let her cry too long so young so I just pick her up. She has no problem falling asleep if I rock her or after a bottle but I really wanted her to learn to fall asleep on her own. My first daughter was the same way so I just gave up after about 9 months and just accepted it didn't work for her. This time I really want it to work so she's not dependent on me to fall asleep..I know she's still young(1month) but is anyone or has anyone also tried and it just never happened? Suggestions/Advice? *sorry can't do paragraphs on IPad for some reason!
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  • EandIMommy86 EandIMommy86 member
    It might be something as simple as sleeping position. I'm also a STM and my daughter hated being swaddled and sleeping on her back, and would wake up when the paci fell out. I changed her sleeping position...she was out like a light when I let her sleep on her stomach. You just have to keep trying to see what works.
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  • Kim22Kim22 member
    With my first two 4 months was my magic number where I started putting them down awake to fall asleep on their own. Before that, they fell asleep on one of us and then were put down. Both sleep 11 hours straight almost all the time so that's what I plan on doing with this one.
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  • SharonB222SharonB222 member
    My babes don't fall asleep or stay asleep well on their backs. Before they can roll, I accommodate this by holding them on my chest or supervising them in the bassinet - stomach down until the fall asleep. My DD had silent reflux - one of the indications was she couldn't abide lying flat on her back (propped the mattress up). GL.

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  • Ninjamama86Ninjamama86 member
    You're not alone! LO will fall asleep alone in her swing, but to get her to sleep in her crib she has to be completely KO before we lay her down - usually taking at least 2 attempts. When it's 3 am and I lose patience we co-sleep.
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  • EandIMommy86 EandIMommy86 member
    GOBLU1274 said:

    TaviaBrad said:

    Cupcakesandquilts said:

    TaviaBrad said:

    It might be something as simple as sleeping position. I'm also a STM and my daughter hated being swaddled and sleeping on her back, and would wake up when the paci fell out. I changed her sleeping position...she was out like a light when I let her sleep on her stomach. You just have to keep trying to see what works.

    I'm not sure that stomach sleeping is currently considered safe.
    That is the only way I could get her to sleep. I know there is a lot of concern out there about SIDS due to sleeping on the tummy, however, when I was a baby they said back sleeping was dangerous and to let babies sleep on their tummies. I think nobody really knows for sure because things change all the time. The OPs baby may like side sleeping or something else. That is why every baby is different and people end up having to do what works. I was paranoid for a bit but she slept in a pack and play right next to our bed. What worked for us won't work for everyone.
    I survived traveling without a car seat when I was a baby; doesn't mean I'm not going to properly restrain my child.

    Your advice sucks, I suggest keeping it to yourself.

    I simply stated what I personally did. I told the OP to try different stuff until she finds something that works. So if that is bad advice then sorry you took it that way.

    Again OP you have to do whatever works for you. Every baby is different.
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  • EandIMommy86 EandIMommy86 member
    Oh btw I think the confusion was my quote was snipped and someone reacted to one part I said...which was not advice. I was telling about what I did because I was having a conversation with someone. My original thread I said to do what works for her. Sorry if there was an confusion. I did not mean to offend anyone by telling my personal experience.
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  • EandIMommy86 EandIMommy86 member
    SharonB222 said:

    My babes don't fall asleep or stay asleep well on their backs. Before they can roll, I accommodate this by holding them on my chest or supervising them in the bassinet - stomach down until the fall asleep. My DD had silent reflux - one of the indications was she couldn't abide lying flat on her back (propped the mattress up). GL.

    Did they stay asleep once you propped up the mattress? Nothing like that ever worked for my daughter. How long did you have to do it that way?
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  • Dreamingmommy4Dreamingmommy4 member
    My LO spits up and chokes on it occasionally, so I don't put her flat on her back. I prop her on her side, slightly leaned towards her back (if that makes any sense at all) using a blanket. And then I use another rolled blanket down in front of her legs (below her hips) so she can't fall forward onto her face. This works well for her because we keep her swaddled up and she doesn't move much in her sleep at all so she isn't in any danger from something being near/on her face. Once she starts moving in her sleep I will get rid of the blanket "bumpers". She also sleeps next to my side of the bed in a cradle so I can keep an eye on her.
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  • bglovesbabykbglovesbabyk member
    My little guy was the same way, so we moved him in to something called a snuggle nest that goes in between us in the bed. He kept rolling side to side In the crib and in the snuggle nest which made me very nervous, so I got the little foam bath supports for the bath tub and put them down on each side of his hips. I think he likes the snuggle nest because I can touch him while he falls asleep and he knows I am right next to him . He has done awesome ever since. Last night he slept 7 hours straight. Yes, 7 hrs. We woke up in shock, thinking there is no way that just happened. He is 12 days old. Don't get me wrong we had several nights where he was up every hour and a half to two hours, but it is def getting better.
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  • SunflowersH12SunflowersH12 member
    bglovesbabyk I heard to not let a newborn 4wks or less sleep longer than 5 hours straight. This is because they still can not be able wake themselves up when they get hungry if they're in too deep of a sleep. He probably woke up in a hunger shock. But, every child is different and maybe your little boy is okay doing that.
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  • Chargersgrl33Chargersgrl33 member
    mishkaroni said:
    I just can't wrap my head around a pp's advice. Just...no. There are lots of things people did back in the day that aren't advocated now, what a flimsy argument
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    dollphnfreek10 said:
    bglovesbabyk I heard to not let a newborn 4wks or less sleep longer than 5 hours straight. This is because they still can not be able wake themselves up when they get hungry if they're in too deep of a sleep. He probably woke up in a hunger shock. But, every child is different and maybe your little boy is okay doing that.
    This. I was under the impression that we were to wake LO at least every 4 hours to feed. I wake baby G up every 3ish hours to nurse. I think I'd panic if she slept for 7 hours straight.
    I welcome long stretches of sleep.  As long as baby is gaining weight then it should be just fine.  LO has been sleeping 5+ hour stretches since he was 4 days old and I couldn't imagine waking him up.  He was also up a lb from birth weight at 1.5 weeks and is BF.
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    Chargersgrl33 said:
    dollphnfreek10 said:
    bglovesbabyk I heard to not let a newborn 4wks or less sleep longer than 5 hours straight. This is because they still can not be able wake themselves up when they get hungry if they're in too deep of a sleep. He probably woke up in a hunger shock. But, every child is different and maybe your little boy is okay doing that.
    This. I was under the impression that we were to wake LO at least every 4 hours to feed. I wake baby G up every 3ish hours to nurse. I think I'd panic if she slept for 7 hours straight.
    I welcome long stretches of sleep.  As long as baby is gaining weight then it should be just fine.  LO has been sleeping 5+ hour stretches since he was 4 days old and I couldn't imagine waking him up.  He was also up a lb from birth weight at 1.5 weeks and is BF.
    Our ped said that as long as he is gaining then he can sleep as long as he will at night but to still wake him to feed every 3 hours during the day.  He was up 7 oz from birthweight at 2 weeks.  He also slept for 5.5 hours straight last night and I am a happy momma this morning!!
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  • meabtahimeabtahi member
    Our pediatrician also said if weight is being gained not to wake her up to feed which has honestly made for a much happier baby (and mommy). In terms of sleeping suggestions we have been using this thing called a podster which she loves. You can buy it on amazon but it keeps baby at a slightly upright position and is very comfortable. We use it in her pack and play next to our bed. Several of my friends also used it and swore by it for the first few months.
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  • KatieintheCityKatieintheCity member
    We almost always let him fall asleep in our arms before putting him down. If he's not at least very close to sleeping, he'll wake right back up when we put him in the PnP. (He does better in the RnP during the day). I have no problem rocking/feeding him to sleep at this stage.
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  • Jmo30Jmo30 member
    Thanks for you input ladies..I guess it's too early to be worried about this so I will try when she's a little older and see how it goes. At least now I don't feel like I'm doing anything wrong.
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  • jennifertewartjennifertewart member
    LO is the same way.... he does amazing in his RnP during the day, but I am still trying to get him to sleep soundly in the bassinet at night so he will transition to the crib when ready (so nights are a little frustrating with my little night owl).  I have been under the impression that at this young age babies cannot self-soothe very well and need help falling asleep.
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